Agreed. The Bible instructs me to abide the Bible, not to force others to abide the Bible.
Very true, though that’s not relevant to the gay marriage debate. No one religion has a monopoly on traditional ideals of marriage, and the legitimate legal reasons behind the side seeking to maintain marriage as the union of one man and one woman have
nothing to do with the Bible or religion.
Another thing that’s occurred to me is that the passages in question were hetero males speaking to hetero males. That is to say, a prohibition of hetero’s to be experimenting in such a way with the same sex.
Okay, even though we’re getting into moral and religious matters here - all of which, even value judgments of homosexual activity, are irrelevant to the marriage debate - I still just have to correct this irredeemably flawed interpretation:
No moral principle ever applies to just one group of people. If a certain act is immoral, it’s immoral for everyone. It’s as ridiculous to suggest that a certain behavior could be wrong for straight people but not for gay people as it would be to suggest that a certain behavior is wrong for women but not for men, or for black people but not for white people, etc.
While I may share your feelings, I also cannot help but agree with gays having every reason to feel excluded from Christian & Judaic traditions.
I agree that Christian groups - including our own Catholic Church - have failed to help gay people feel included and wanted. This is a shame which we must all strive to rectify.
The Vatican has decided for vague reasons or out of habit contrary to the science I’ve read that homosexuality is a behavioral flaw or a disease.
That’s an inaccurate and sloppy caricature of the Catholic position. Under no circumstances is homosexuality a “disease” - you can’t “contract” homosexuality as if some kind of bacteria or virus or cancer causes it.
You’re even farther off than the people who insist Catholic teaching says it’s a psychological disorder, yet even
those people are also caricaturing the Catholic position, which takes theological and spiritual stances without encroaching upon the territory of other academic fields (like psychology).
I suppose you could say Catholic teaching says it is spiritually disordered (though that’s true of all our sinful inclinations and thus hardly makes same-sex attraction unique), since the Church calls same-sex attraction “objectively disordered.” But this assertion is clearly offered in a Christian spiritual context, not one of professional psychology. In any case, it’s certainly not a “disease.”
Jesus was often quite brutal in the things he said to people. Telling someone he shouldn’t bother burying his father, calling a foreigner’s entire people “dogs,” telling certain Pharisees that they make people twice as fit for hell as they are themselves, etc.
I’m in no way advocating such harshness from
our mouths. I’m just pointing out that since Jesus was often not nice - and remember, “nice” is different than “good” - that asking, “What would Jesus do?” is probably not the route we want to take here.
Furthermore, it makes me seriously doubt hetero men when they act so over the top about this subject. Are they really so out of control with themselves that they require a law forbidding partaking in something so detrimental to them? I mean, I don’t need a law prohibiting me from drinking drano. I abhor prostitution as well, but why aren’t they broke from lack of customers? Men go where their values lead them, which is the sad fact for too many of them.
I totally agree with you, I’m just not sure how this is relevant. Who is advocating forbidding certain behaviors in this context? I thought we were arguing about gay marriage, not sodomy laws.
It’s very hard for me as a woman to understand why hetero men feel so threatened or insecure about gays.
Please forgive me if I now caricature your observation, because I’m not sure I understand what your claim is.
How do you see this insecurity being made manifest? If you mean general homophobia - i.e. straight men fearing gays will hit on them, as you’ve pointed out - and anti-gay rhetoric, bashing, mockery, or distrust, then I completely agree with you.
But we all have to learn to separate that homophobia in our minds from the nuanced, neutral, social assessments like that of the article I linked to when I first joined this thread a few pages ago. To promote the cause of marriage as the union of one man and one woman - or even (and this is
not the same thing!) to believe what the Catholic Church happens to teach about homosexuality - does
not constitute or necessarily include bigotry or homophobia in any way.
I know this because I know it’s true of myself. I think marriage should remain the union of one man and one woman. I also happen to be Catholic in my ethical views - including sexual ethics, and therefore including homosexuality.
But I’m in no way afraid of gay people. I know they’re not going to do anything to me any more than I would do something inappropriate to a woman - besides, I’m not that attractive anyway. I have gay friends, including one very good friend of mine.
The reason same-sex attraction in other men doesn’t bother me is because I choose not to define them by it in my mind. I see them as persons, incommunicably their own, unique, created in the image and likeness of God, with their own particular hopes, dreams, and fears, and called - ultimately - to a supernatural love greater than they or I can even yet imagine.
That is how I see people - not as sinners to be judged by me or any other mere mortal.