Why is adoration no longer meaningful to me?

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I never went to adoration until I was 21. Then the first time I went was a wonderful experience of calmness and just really feeling God’s love. I didn’t go again for another year and once again it was a great experience. However, now I have had more opportunities to go more often and as soon as I started to go more often I no longer got much out of it. I know it is supposed to be a time of prayer but I no longer get a calmness or feel Jesus is there like I did the first few times. Has this happened to anyone else?
 
Often as we grow in prayer, God takes away the consolations and warm fuzzy feelings that we needed as beginners to motivate us to pray. This is so we will seek God, and not the good feelings we might get from prayer. A sign that we truly love God is when we continue to pray even during the dry times like you’re having.
 
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I never went to adoration until I was 21. Then the first time I went was a wonderful experience of calmness and just really feeling God’s love. I didn’t go again for another year and once again it was a great experience. However, now I have had more opportunities to go more often and as soon as I started to go more often I no longer got much out of it. I know it is supposed to be a time of prayer but I no longer get a calmness or feel Jesus is there like I did the first few times. Has this happened to anyone else?
I’m sure it has. I leave it to other posters to share their thought with you, on same.

Just two quick thoughts. One of the great mystics of the Church, St. Teresa of Avila,
was travelling on business - in the cold winter weather of 16th century Spain. Her carriage,
crossing a stream, tipped over - and St. Teresa ended up in the cold water.
Legend has it, that she looked heaven-ward, and said to God:
“If this is how You treat your friends, no wonder You have so few of them.”
I’m sure that God understood.

Apparently, Mother Teresa of Calcutta spent years, with no feeling at all, of God’s presence.
Communion, adoration, prayer…it made no difference. No comforting emotions… No sense of His presence.
The theory is that grace is given, whether or not we feel this to be the reality, emotionally.
We grow in the life of God, imperceptibly. We may not even notice this growth.

I use to accompany my husband, to noctural adoration. Sometimes, in the wee hours of the morning. I didn’t feel anything, either. Though I did put my heart and soul into the recitation of the psalms, for that day.
I will say a prayer that God makes you feel better about this. That He helps you to understand.

reen12
 
I never went to adoration until I was 21. Then the first time I went was a wonderful experience of calmness and just really feeling God’s love. I didn’t go again for another year and once again it was a great experience. However, now I have had more opportunities to go more often and as soon as I started to go more often I no longer got much out of it. I know it is supposed to be a time of prayer but I no longer get a calmness or feel Jesus is there like I did the first few times. Has this happened to anyone else?
With most anything newly begun or renewed, there is the ‘honeymoon phase’ when all is rewarding and joyful and personally rewarding, after this phase pases and it does, is the commitment phase when we ask ourselves, why am I here? With Adoration and Prayer we may need to make that transition from about “what I get out of it” to what it actually is in essence (being before and with The Lord) and being there for what it is really all about, even though one may not be “getting anything” personally out of it. Perhaps you may need to take Scripture or some book of prayers or even some spiritual book with you if your mind is distracted…reading is best done prayerfully, or if something strikes you to pause and think about it prayerfully.
I find it works for me to “go with the flow” and at first my mind may be distracted and dry, even repugnance, and I may prayerfully read and this may lead into a time of being able to just be there with The Lord in some way. perhaps speaking to Him in my own words…or I may need to prayerfully read for the whole time. I also have compiled for myself a book of prayers to refer to if needed during my prayer times. My prayer times may be a mixture of all these and differing at differing times. We need to avoid a sort of spiritual snobbery or pride and because we are unable to pray in the classically recommended and praised manners, then we abandon prayer altogether. We can humbly talk with The Lord about our sorry disposition and humbly offer to Him our own weaknesses over which we have no control.
Remember that because one is not “getting anything” out of it personally does not mean at all that Grace is not silently and hiddenly at work in some way. Remember too that one is not deliberately choosing a distracted mind, or dryness or even repugnance…they are simply present unbidden and unwelcome but one still needs to work through these times. Remember too that because one is not “getting anything” out of it personally, does not change the reality of the Presence of Christ in the Blessed Eucharist during Adoration…or the presence of oneself to and before The Lord while at Prayer.
Sometimes prayer time of some kind can go quickly, so absorbed are we. At other times it passes very slowly indeed as we seem to be pushing our spiritual selfhood uphill like the proverbial barrel. We have no personal control over either the former, nor the latter…which does not change the reality that we are before The Lord, who looks upon our poverty and weakness lovingly as we seek Him through our difficulties, not allowing them to deter us in that seeking. It is very easy to seek The Lord when we are getting something out of it ourselves, another matter to continue to seek in the face of difficulty and trial, perhaps temptation to give it all up altogether…then we are seeking Him for His own sake “when can I enter and see the Face of The Lord?”
“I trusted even when said,
I am sorely afflicted” (Psalm 115)

Blessings…Barb:)
Hi Reeny…you must have posted at the same time I did! Good to catch up with you again in the Forums:wave:
 
Often as we grow in prayer, God takes away the consolations and warm fuzzy feelings that we needed as beginners to motivate us to pray. This is so we will seek God, and not the good feelings we might get from prayer. A sign that we truly love God is when we continue to pray even during the dry times like you’re having.
Thanks for your reply. It is very good.
 
quote: BarbaraTherese
Hi Reeny…you must have posted at the same time I did! Good to catch up with you again in the Forums 👋
Hello, dear heart. 🙂 I didn’t realize that you were online,
until I saw your post. *
I’m waaay out of my depth, in offering any thought, whatever,
on adoration.

You know what I was thinking about? It is, evidently, the
custom - or was the custom - to spread a bit of honey,
on the letters of the Hebrew alphabet, so that a child would learn to love the letters.
That literal sweetness would speak to a child.
Little cakes, with verses on them, might follow.

And I made the connection:
When we first begin life with God, He may give us what we need,
in terms of a sense of His comforting presence. In a real sense,
a “land of milk and honey.”

C.S. Lewis once described the withdrawal of the sense of His
presence, in the Screwtape Letters. [paraphrased]
“What we wish to avoid, is a human being looking around in
a universe, where no sense of His presence is to be found -
asks why he has been abandoned, and yet obeys.”

Surely, this must have described Mother Teresa’s experience.

To love Him - while feeling no sense of His presence, whatever.
To keep His command to “love one another,” by caring for those
who were abandoned by society, and left all alone.

stanford.edu/group/ivfaculty/Essays/mtki0.jpg

Did she understand their aloneness, their sense of being
bereft, in life - because she, too, knew what it felt like,
to feel all alone…seemingly abandoned by God?
Was not that what Christ felt, hanging on the cross?
“Why have You abandoned Me?”

To not feel His presence, may be a gift from Him.
That He entrusts us - with this sense of a lack of His presence.
Given my druthers, I’d prefer the honey. http://bestsmileys.com/nono/9.gif

Best,

reens*
 
Quoting Reen

Hello, dear heart. 🙂 I didn’t realize that you were online,
until I saw your post. *
I’m waaay out of my depth, in offering any thought, whatever,
on adoration.

You know what I was thinking about? It is, evidently, the
custom - or was the custom - to spread a bit of honey,
on the letters of the Hebrew alphabet, so that a child would learn to love the letters.
That literal sweetness would speak to a child.
Little cakes, with verses on them, might follow.

And I made the connection:
When we first begin life with God, He may give us what we need,
in terms of a sense of His comforting presence. In a real sense,
a “land of milk and honey.”

C.S. Lewis once described the withdrawal of the sense of His
presence, in the Screwtape Letters.* [paraphrased]
“What we wish to avoid, is a human being looking around in
a universe, where no sense of His presence is to be found -
asks why he has been abandoned, and yet obeys.”

Surely, this must have described Mother Teresa’s experience.

To love Him - while feeling no sense of His presence, whatever.
To keep His command to “love one another,” by caring for those
who were abandoned by society, and left all alone.

stanford.edu/group/ivfaculty/Essays/mtki0.jpg

Did she understand their aloneness, their sense of being
bereft, in life - because she, too, knew what it felt like,
to feel all alone…seemingly abandoned by God?
Was not that what Christ felt, hanging on the cross?
“Why have You abandoned Me?”

To not feel His presence, may be a gift from Him.
That He entrusts us - with this sense of a lack of His presence.
Given my druthers, I’d prefer the honey. http://bestsmileys.com/nono/9.gif

Best,
Hi Reen…First, I love these drawings that regularly appear at the end of your posts…simple yet speak much!
I am sure that we undergo the things we do in order that we might fully insight and share the sufferings of others. Until then, we only ever think that we can empathize…and this is better than no empathy - or attempt to empathize? Certainly it is my experience and seems to be the common experience of other sufferers that I know, that we feel fellow sufferers of mental illness only ever really insight what we are talking about. Others really try often.

Empathy can be like what Anthony de Mello spoke about which is the difference between seeing a snake on the ground and it wrapping itself around one’s arm…to my reflection the two experiences of sheer terror (I am pathologically afraid of snakes!) is on two totally different levels surely. Hope that makes sense!

Mother Teresa is a great encouragement to those who do push on in life with only abandonment at the feeling level. Who would have thought in her lifetime that she would be such encouragement to those who have nothing but total abandonment - she who spoke so inspiringly on the spiritual level and was always smiling. God of The Surprise!

I was reading something or other the other day which compared our spiritual journeys as like those of the Isrealites on their 40 year hike in the wilderness. They had times of failures and downright rebellion and turning against God but all the time they returned to the path (or were dragged or threatened back to it!) and that long long hike of many ups and downs to the Promised Land. This was a land they had never seen nor knew about, only a promise…something it seems to me like Heaven is to us. I think we need more saints as role models who will speak of their weaknesses and failures in real and actual - spelt right out for the most unlettered to understand - terms rather than overwhelming rather abstract referals to such.
“What we wish to avoid, is a human being looking around in
a universe, where no sense of His presence is to be found -
asks why he has been abandoned, and yet obeys.”
On some level at some point, this is every one of us I think…but some far far more than others. “As gold is tested in fire, so the servants of God are tested in the crucible of suffering” Apparently Mother Teresa said that God will never test us beyond our means to endure, she just wished He did not think so much of her. That must speak to many!👍
Given my druthers, I’d prefer the honey. http://bestsmileys.com/nono/9.gif
Oh me too and I go chasing after it wherever I can find it!

Blessings…Barb:)
 
It seems like this is a rather common thing then. Thanks for your responses.
 
It seems like this is a rather common thing then. Thanks for your responses.
Yes, it is common and as strange as it may seem it is a sign of growth … not going backwards as it first may seem…Blessings - Barb:)
 
I never went to adoration until I was 21. Then the first time I went was a wonderful experience of calmness and just really feeling God’s love. I didn’t go again for another year and once again it was a great experience. However, now I have had more opportunities to go more often and as soon as I started to go more often I no longer got much out of it. I know it is supposed to be a time of prayer but I no longer get a calmness or feel Jesus is there like I did the first few times. Has this happened to anyone else?
Stay strong, my friend. Do you have any particular schedule for going to adoration? If possible, I might suggest actually increasing your time in front of the Blessed Sacrament, even if just by 5 minutes. As Barb and Reeny have said, you’re being tested, and the best possible answer you can give is faithfulness and seeking Him even more.
Stay strong and God bless
 
Even though you may not feel anything the last couple of time you went does not mean that God will no longer provide emotional consolations. He does whatever he wants. He may render you to tears of joy one day, then leave you as dry as an isolated desert the next. Don’t worry too much about how you are feeling. Go on with your prayers, no matter you feel. Sometimes I’ve spend an hour in front of the sacrament expressing with nothing in my head except for one long “ugggggghhhhhhhh”. I expect that God knows what I mean, even if I don’t. 🙂

God bless,
Ut
 
First - thanks to Reen for that interesting St. Teresa of Avila story.

Second - yes, it happened to me this year during a session of Adoration. I returned telling a friend that I felt I’d gotten nothing out of it - Not that I didn’t sense or believe in the Presence - but I guess I’d expected to feel some sort of extra holiness within. I’m one who loves the Divine Praises but that’s such a short prayer and in an hour or two of Adoration, one feels as though we must say continuous prayers - however, not so.

My friend told me - that sometimes that’s just what it is - though I may not be explaining properly. Their suggestion (thought not my own) is that everyone is different - Jesus deals with us one on one…every experience is different. Their suggestion is that rather than center on praying specific prayers but just sitting, let everything go - surrender all to Him - and letting Our Lord come into you.

My personal opinion? We never leave the Blessed Sacrament (whether exposed in Adoration or not) without coming away with something positive - whether we know it or not - whether we feel it or not. Just be sure that Our Lord is pleased at your prayers, your efforts, your presence there. You have succeeded - Don’t stop now!
 
I think each and everyone of us go through periods of spiritual dryness in our lives. I love Eucharistic Adoration and wish I could go more regularly. We’re keeping Him company and even if we do not have anything to say to Our Lord, He loves us more and more and gives us many graces with us just being there with Him.

St John Vianney is a wonderful saint and see this link below which is very inspirational.

saints.sqpn.com/stj18013.htm
 
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