Why is being a virgin considered "pure"?

[Paris_Blues]

Harriet:

I think it’s stupid.

I’m not sure what EXACTLY is on this person’s mind when they said that but I’m taking it like they’re saying it’s stupid to be a virgin, therefore, go out and have all the sex ya want!

I know that sounds pathetic but how are we suppose to know what someone means if they don’t practicaly explain! PLEASE EXPLAIN PEOPLES!!!

 

[snowgarden]

AlanFromWichita:

If virginity is superior, then not being a virgin must be inferior. I hope that doesn’t give the virgins a big head!

Alan

I am a virgin, but to tell you honestly I feel that I am a lesser person.

In Luke where it says, “For this reason I say to you, her sins, which are many, have been forgiven, for she loved much; but he who is forgiven little, loves little.”

I feel that I have avoided sexual sins because I am not as loving as those who have got themselves into trouble because they are part of the world and not withdrawn from the world like me. I see so many people who have sexually sinned who have served God much better than me. They got to repent and make it up to him seventy times seven.

And I have to admit that something I was taught in Catholic school also made me feel that even sex in marriage was debasing so, no, my virginity is definitely not superior…especially since I have “Jimmy Cartered” all my life so the physical reality doesn’t give me many brownie points!

 

[AlanFromWichita]

snowgarden:

I am a virgin, but to tell you honestly I feel that I am a lesser person.

Dear snowgarden,

This is one of the most insightful posts I have ever seen.

Having been “in the world” does give me insight into the minds of like sinners, and that can have its advantages. That said, please believe me when I tell you that in hindsight that lifestyle caused a lot of grief for quite a few people directly and even indirectly involved.

There is a great deal of power in being free from particular types of sin. This gives you certain authority to speak on issues such as chastity, whereas people like me can speak on them from exactly the opposite perspective.

It takes both sinners and saints to make the world. I’m not saying you’re a saint, but relative to me you are at least on this issue. It’s kind of like I’ll be down here in the trenches and you’ll be up there looking down and together we can bombard children with truth from all directions. Maybe they would not listen to you because you don’t know what you’re talking about, and they won’t listen to me because I’m a hypocrate.

Once I tried smoking cigars for a while, just for fun. Strangely, it endeared me to certain relatives who thought I was starting to seem like a “real” person. Gosh. Another time a guy told my wife, “I didn’t know you smoked. Now I don’t feel so inferior.”

Please do not feel self-conscious or worry about coming off condescending. You may even envy the “normal” people because they all know a language you don’t.

Do you feel excluded? On a pedestal? Been there, done that, didn’t like it. In Terre Haute IN, while I was in college, I used to hide the fact that I attended Rose-Hulman, just east of town. Eventually someone would find out and then they would say, “ooh, you go to Rose. You must be smart.” While there was some truth to that, I didn’t want to be “smart,” I just wanted to be one of the group at that particular moment.

Is this the kind of thing you’re feeling? If so, I’m pretty sure it’s nothing to worry about and that you’re on the verge already with being comfortable in it. Either that or I’m just making up stuff.

Alan

 

[snowgarden]

AlanFromWichita:

Please do not feel self-conscious or worry about coming off condescending. You may even envy the “normal” people because they all know a language you don’t.

Do you feel excluded? On a pedestal?

Alan

I definitely feel like I’m out of the loop, that everyone knows a language that I don’t know, that they are part of a club that 95% of the population belongs to, that I don’t get the inside jokes. Not that I would purposely go out and sin just to be one of the gang, but for the grace of God I could have been in the know!

I’m not sorry that I haven’t sexually sinned, but I don’t think I would have been so virtuous if I was tempted with a real flesh and blood man in an empty, dark room. (I guess I should give myself some credit for not going into the empty, dark room!) So I definitely don’t belong on a pedestal. I admire those who have been in relationships who have resisted temptation, but I don’t condemn those who have fallen and repented. I just don’t want to become the poster child for virtuous virgins in a singles group because my sins (in my thoughts and in my words, in what I have done and what I have failed to do) are just as grace-depleting as the sexual sins. Sins of omission to me can be just as mortally wrong as the sexual sins if God has blessed you with an enlightened conscience.

It just reminds me of the poll on this site recently about what was worse: fornication or abortion. I think that my own sins will leave me standing with that group and hanging my head and saying “God, have mercy on me a sinner.”

 

[patientone]

Dear Snowgarden,

It takes great strength to refrain, I used to feel uncomfortable
being a minority as well. Now I have great comfort of not ‘fitting
in’. According to The Cathechism of The Catholic Church: virginity
is as close to immortality as a human can get. That gives me
great comfort.

Patientone

 

[LSK]

I believe we all have a vocation that we are called to and if our vocation does not include marriage then it does not include having sex.

I am widow. I am 49. I have no children. I would love to be married but I know that Jesus may have other things for me to do on this earth. When I get lonely or when I feel the pressure of a secular world and start to feel ‘less than’ because I am not a part of a couple, I try to remember that ultimately my worth is determined by Jesus. I am blessed in that the Catholic Church does not think I am worthless because I am a 49 year old widow without children; rather, I am considered a valuable member of the Catholic Community.

 

[patientone]

I agree, If we are not called to procreate does not mean that we can’t contribute to society.