The local parishes in my disocese have only taught the kids to receive in the hand during their Sacramental Prep classes. In some parishes they are told they CAN receive on the tongue, but practice is only in the hand.
I was raised during the time when we did nothing but receive on the tongue, was a teen when we started receiving in the hand. BUT my husband and I stopped and began receiving on the tongue after Pope John Paul II said he preferred that it only be received on the tongue. Also, watching Masses that he said, at World Youth Days or other things, he NEVER gave out Holy Communion on the hand. That was enough for us.
We see so much lack of reverence as it is, we need to do whatever it takes to help our young folks learn what reverence really is and WHY it is so important in the presence of our Lord.
But again, what is reverent to one person is irreverent to another.
An earlier poster in this thread described how they feel rude sticking out their tongue, and one person described how they prefer keeping their head bowed as a sign of reverence, and receiving Communion on the tongue requires that they raise their head.
When the Church has given permission for bishops to allow Communion in the hand, then who are we to question this practice and claim that it is deficient in some way. If it were deficient, surely the Church would have said “No.”
For the many Catholics like myself who were raised Protestant and only recently converted, we have no history or background of receiving Communion on the hand or tongue, so to us, neither practice is inherently more reverent than the other.
When you say “We see so much lack of reverence as it is, we need to do whatever it takes to help our young folks learn what reverence really is and WHY it is so important in the presence of our Lord,” we don’t know what you mean. We have no frame of reference to understand why you think that receiving Jesus on your tongue is inherently more reverent than receiving Him in your hand.
What we former Protestants have seen is that many Catholics have left their Church and become Protestants, even back in the days when Communion was received only on the tongue. We knew these ex-Catholics and listened to them when they said that Catholicism was all ritual and no life. As I said, many of the ex-Catholics that I knew while Protestant were OLDER people, Catholics who grew up pre-Vatican 2.
Somehow, Communion on the Tongue and all the other supposedly “reverent” practices did not manage to keep these Catholics in the Church.
So we have our doubts as to whether a physical practice is truly the answer to teaching reverence for God. We believe that reverence comes from a heart overflowing with gratefulness to God for all His blessings.
Yes, of course, if the Church should decree that Holy Communion is to be received only on the tongue, we ex-Protestants would joyfully obey, even if we don’t understand or “get it.” That’s one reason we’re Catholic–we’ve come to see that we are not our own authority–Jesus is, and He has given His authority on this earth to His Church.
But the Church has NOT decreed, at least in the U.S. (which is where many of us are living) that Holy Communion is only to be received on the tongue. We have a CHOICE, and it seems to me that no one should criticize the Church-given choice of someone else.
Can’t we just assume that people, including children and teenagers, who are receiving Jesus in Holy Communion are trying their best to be reverent in thought and action, and stop assuming that “this person is reverent” and “that person is irreverent.” Surely it is not our place to judge what is in the heart of others. Surely we would be better off taking care of our own hearts and making sure that they are a worthy place for the Lord to dwell in.
And frankly, I don’t have the ability to read hearts. If I know the person, I could base my assessment of their reverence on their life–if they are living a life of blatant sin, I might be able to suspect that they are receiving irreverently, but even then, if they went to Reconciliation before Mass, they are clean and totally absolved of their sin, so who am I to judge them?