Why is it so diffiicult ? Whats the deal?

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I can agree to this, however there certainly are “flags” that go up that can show signs of a vocation. I’d like to think I am called to a vocation with the FSSP but I really don’t know. If I am not called to the Priesthood then a lot of preparation and dreams and prayers would have been crushed.
My feelings exactly,

and for the record, there is no “standard” for those who are sure or not sure of wanting to become Priests. I am sure, so is my Vocations Director and my old Spiritual Director/Confessor echoed to me, that if I dont pursue Holy Priesthood, I wont be happy. Im sorry but, I do feel the desire. Have felt it, more subltey yes, but all the same felt it since the age of 5,6 or 7. I cant see myself or wanting to be anything else other than a Priest. Some people are more sure than others I guess. 🤷
 
My feelings exactly,

and for the record, there is no “standard” for those who are sure or not sure of wanting to become Priests. I am sure, so is my Vocations Director and my old Spiritual Director/Confessor echoed to me, that if I dont pursue Holy Priesthood, I wont be happy. Im sorry but, I do feel the desire. Have felt it, more subltey yes, but all the same felt it since the age of 5,6 or 7. I cant see myself or wanting to be anything else other than a Priest. Some people are more sure than others I guess. 🤷
I know what it’s like to feel the call at 16. I still feel the call today. When I was your age though I tried to really begin learning what discernment means. I mean this with all good will and charity, but you really do need to just breathe and relax. Your posts are completely erratic and show crazy highs and lows. Just take everything in stride…
 
I know what it’s like to feel the call at 16. I still feel the call today. When I was your age though I tried to really begin learning what discernment means. I mean this with all good will and charity, but you really do need to just breathe and relax. Your posts are completely erratic and show crazy highs and lows. Just take everything in stride…
Well what do you think about me, then? I’m SEVENTEEN. :cool:
 
Well what do you think about me, then? I’m SEVENTEEN. :cool:
I think it is still wise advice.

To both of you, take this from someone who is old enough to be a mother to you LIVE IN THE NOW!
Yes, it is important to have goals, dreams & desires and to do things that will help to achieve them, and I know that both of you feel absolutely 100% sure that you want to be priests, but are you that sure it is what God wants?

And that my friends is why they call it the “discernment process”! 😛
It is a process, and just because you are sure now, does not mean that in 1 year, 3 years or 5 years you won’t be sure about something else.

The idea that if your dreams woulld be “crushed” if things don’t go the way you plan them to is very telling, and what it is telling me is that right now, the idea of the priesthood is more about what “you” want rather that what God wants. Now, that is not a “bad” thing, per se, I see it as a maturity thing.

When I was 5, I was positive I wanted to be a sister. Same thing at 14. Then, at 16 I found boys. Didn’t want to be a sister anymore, but knew that I would never get married. 2 years later I met a wonderful guy. Now, some 20 years later, we are married and have a wonderful life. So, you see, sometimes working toward what we think we want, we find the things that God wants us to find.

Just something to think about! 😉
 
I don’t mean to sound nasty, but I think someone needs to be a little blunt: you kinda need to chill out, bro. 🙂 And I say this with complete honesty, because for a long time I was in the same place you are, zealous and impatient and dying to receive the habit.

You’re 17; your zeal is to be applauded. But I’ve learned something in the three years I’ve been discerning - at 21 I’m a totally different person than I was at 18 when I first contacted the Jesuits. Through the period of my discernment I’ve matured so much, growing spiritually and as a person, in ways I couldn’t imagine when I was still in high school. My priorities are different, my interests are different - I was legally an adult when I graduated, but I was still a kid emotionally. I was impatient and impulsive, as most teenagers are (where do you think the teen reputation comes from?). As I’ve matured, discerned, furthered my education, and been accepted into the diocesan seminary, I’ve really mellowed out, and come to understand the importance of patience. No offense meant, but even though you are nearing adulthood and filled with zeal for the Lord, you are still a child in many ways. I say this from experience, and please take seriously this advice from someone who is very close to your age and not long ago was in your position.

A good missionary bishop saw my zeal and said: “Never rush into it; never feel rushed into the vocation; take it slow and find the right path in time.” It’s called “discernment” for a reason. Right now you have all the indications of a possible call to the priesthood, at least to the seminary; I had the same indications. You have to take it slow; don’t be desperate!!! I can’t stress this enough. God has called you, and He’ll make it work in His time. It is good that you’re investigating all these orders and seminaries - but the fact that some think you’re too young is a strong indication of the path you should take. Take this time to grow closer to the Lord, to ask Him to bring you to the right place - and above all, be patient!

I can’t stress enough the need for patience. Don’t rush into this! It never hurt anyone to wait a year or two (or even longer) to begin formal study for their ministry. If you can’t find a place to accept you yet, don’t worry about it; form yourself in the Lord through spiritual direction, and start college or get some work experience. Realize your need for maturity and growth as a person, because the person you will grow into is the person who will live out this potential vocation. Don’t forget the long periods of preparation undergone by the saints and even Our Lord. Jesus didn’t begin His ministry until He was in His thirties, when the time was right. St. John the Baptist was in the desert preparing for his ministry for many years, until the time ordained by the Lord arrived. They were grown men, mature and disciplined and responsible. You are only seventeen, young and impulsive, and you don’t yet understand the need for patience and maturity. Your desire to “get on with it” is great, in my opinion, because that’s how you get stuff done, but it needs to be tempered by patience and prudence. Don’t feel slighted by any of this advice, but realize the need to be a balanced person.

You can PM if you want to talk. I’d be happy to, having finally completed the seminary application process and been accepted. I don’t mean to be harsh with you at all, but as a fellow discerner with just a little more life experience, I thought this might illuminate things a little for you. :cool: I think you sound like a great dude, and keep the fire a-burnin’ for Christ!
 
I think it is still wise advice.
To both of you, take this from someone who is old enough to be a mother to you LIVE IN THE NOW!
Yes, it is important to have goals, dreams & desires and to do things that will help to achieve them, and I know that both of you feel absolutely 100% sure that you want to be priests, but are you that sure it is what God wants?
When I was 5, I was positive I wanted to be a sister. Same thing at 14. Then, at 16 I found boys. Didn’t want to be a sister anymore, but knew that I would never get married. 2 years later I met a wonderful guy. Now, some 20 years later, we are married and have a wonderful life. So, you see, sometimes working toward what we think we want, we find the things that God wants us to find.
Just something to think about! 😉
Yes! I wish someone had told me all of this at some point during my discernment. NEVER FORGET TO LIVE IN THE NOW! I’ve really stressed myself out thinking about my future - needlessly - and I’ve had to force myself to focus on the present. This is something every discerner should always keep in mind. If you’re always thinking about the future, you’re in danger of letting your present slip right by, and even miss the signs of your true calling as they’re hitting you in the face.

Until a few months ago, I KNEW I wanted to be a priest, to wear a habit, to preach, the whole thing. Finally I took the plunge and applied to the seminary, and then WHAM! - I realized how much I like girls, and how deeply attracted I am to the married vocation. (Now it doesn’t help that I’m surrounded by a number of very attractive young ladies at school and work. 👍 But I digress…) So you have to live in the present, looking for where God is leading you. Less than a year ago I was certain that one day I’d be walking the halls of a priory in the beautiful white and black habit of the Order of Preachers, and now I feel that there is a very strong possibility that one day I’ll be watching a woman in white walk down the aisle toward me with my ring on her finger. All I can do is repeat what it says above: “So, you see, sometimes working toward what we think we want, we find the things that God wants us to find.”
 
First off, I know how you feel.

I was accepted to Seminary back in December, and I have been chomping at the bit ever since. These past few months have felt like an eternity and I still have about another month to go.

But I want to share with you some advice that my Youth Minister told me in terms of patience. He told me to think about it like this:

We know very little about Jesus’s life before his public ministry began. We know about his birth, his presentation, and then his finding in the temple. But aside from that we know very little. So during that span of say about 30 years before Jesus began his public ministry, what was he doing?

He was patiently waiting. He was growing in wisdom. I have kept that in the back of my mind during these past few months. Just the though of our Lord, Jesus Christ, patiently waiting, and growing in wisdom and understanding (Luke 2:51-52), has given me great comfort, and I have been able to relax and just enjoy my time before I begin Seminary.
 
I can agree to this, however there certainly are “flags” that go up that can show signs of a vocation. I’d like to think I am called to a vocation with the FSSP but I really don’t know. If I am not called to the Priesthood then a lot of preparation and dreams and prayers would have been crushed.
I echo the comments that others have made and then look to this and say–if you are called, nothing will stop it from happening. If you are not called, nothing will force it to happen. It is God’s will, and though it might be disappointing to us sometimes when God’s will is not what we wanted it to be, we have to accept whatever he calls us to, and trust that He, in His love, will give us the grace to get through it.

-ACEGC
 
My feelings exactly,

and for the record, there is no “standard” for those who are sure or not sure of wanting to become Priests. I am sure, so is my Vocations Director and my old Spiritual Director/Confessor echoed to me, that if I dont pursue Holy Priesthood, I wont be happy. Im sorry but, I do feel the desire. Have felt it, more subltey yes, but all the same felt it since the age of 5,6 or 7. I cant see myself or wanting to be anything else other than a Priest. Some people are more sure than others I guess. 🤷
Oh it certainly is possible that some men knew since they were boys that they were called. Venerable Fulton Sheen was one. 🙂

MyMM, since it will be several/many more years still you are ordain now is the perfect time to prepare in various area.

One person mentioned you need to get some of your grades up. You mention how you have a tendency to laziness (sloth). This is a great time to exercise disciple and get that vice under control and just get rid of it.

Like others said, nothing can stop your ordination if God is calling you. And you cant force God’s hands to have it happen sooner than later.

Now is the time to develop patience, obedience, disciple etc etc.

God Bless!
 
I can agree to this, however there certainly are “flags” that go up that can show signs of a vocation. I’d like to think I am called to a vocation with the FSSP but I really don’t know. If I am not called to the Priesthood then a lot of preparation and dreams and prayers would have been crushed.
No. Those prayers, dreams, and preparation will have been in preparation for whatever God *does *want you to do. God does not just do what we want because we have prayed about it. If you do not become a priest, or if there are setbacks and obstacles along the way, do not lose your faith over it! Continue to follow the direction of your bishop, vocations director, formator, and parents. Within obedience is where we find our strength.
 
I am trying to get the ball rolling with Religious Orders and Seminaries. Either they wont pick up my phone, return my email or when I do get a hold of them on phone, i cant apply till im 18.

Whats the deal? 18 is only a year and less than a month away for me? so whats the difficulty? Can I not apply at least, even if I have to wait until im 18 to be accepted.

I’ve tried to phone Our Lady of Guadelupe Seminary, but Fr. Lawrence wont pick up, a few times now

I’ve called the Institute of CHRIST the KING, I talked to the VD, but again, applying has to wait till im 18.

The Knights of the HOLY EUCHARIST would have me, but religious worker visas are hard to get, and Bishop Baker said no more Priests for the time being, (between EWTN and the Shrine)

I’ve phoned the Seminary of CHRIST THE KING

I should wait until March.

Im awaiting for an email from the Franciscans of the Immaculate

What is going on? why do people doubt what I say? I am sincere in what I say, and I mean to do what I say. I’m lost, I know im called, but the fact of the matter is, I want to serve CHRIST AND HIS CHURCH, Whats so complex about this concept? I want to celebrate the Sacraments, help the poor, sick, dying, imprisoned and alone, I want to preach, teach and love all. Is this too hard to grasp??

I want to live for CHRIST, i’ve waited long enough (since the age of 5 or 6), let me start now, try me out now,

I feel like tearing my hair and running in one direction. I am for the first time in this process, lost, confused and severely annoyed.

Please help, smirk comments excluded
The minimum age for ordination to the priesthood is 25, according to Canon Law. In addition to that, there are a ton of legal issues about attending seminary in the United States which require that you be 18 (that is, not a minor).

It doesn’t sound like you’re discerning very carefully, either. You just seem to be running from place to place, looking for anyone who will let you in. A priest is a man of prayer, and a good priest has a real (not formulaic) relationship with Jesus Christ. Develop an adult prayer life, get a good spiritual director, and get a little more clear on what you are supposed to be doing. Also, use your spiritual director to identify any hidden motives you may have about entering seminary - your lack of clarity suggests that something else may be at work.
 
^Good post above
The fact that the OP is still in high school and says he will be a priest makes him a little closed-minded. He could be called to something else, but like I said, seminarians still discern. Not to be rude, but its kind of bad to commit to the priesthood when you are still in high school. Things change, you will think differently a year from now and may not think you are called to the priesthood. I dont understand why you call multiple seminaries trying to get in when you havent even graduated from high school. Plus your bishop would decide. not you. I honestly have a feeling you arent called. might just be me. You seem to be obsessing over stuff like this because of OCD/Scrupulosity. Overcome that and then think about the priesthood.
 
…I dont understand why you call multiple seminaries trying to get in when you havent even graduated from high school. Plus your bishop would decide. not you…
Just a note, the FSSP are content with gentlemen going on the mandatory retreats and beginning the application process before graduation. In fact I’ll be applying while still seventeen and likewise going to that mandatory retreat while still seventeen. Discernment of the Priesthood in high school is a perfectly fine thought to foster. I am only in contact with two Seminaries, Saint John’s Seminary in Boston, Mass and Our Lady of Guadalupe Seminary for the FSSP. Bother are very different in their working it seems as if I discern the former then I would be sent to Our Lady of Providence College Seminary in Providence Rhode Island to earn a degree. While if I discern OLGS, I would stay there for seven years (save a few bumps and kinks a long the way).
Plus your bishop would decide. not you…
While this is true for Diocesan seminarians, the FSSP and ICRSS are Societies of Apostolic Life. It is, indeed, so that while the two aforementioned Societies of Apostolic Life need a Diocesan Bishop’s approval to operate with faculties in a Diocese, a Diocesan Bishop cannot bar a man from studying at an FSSP, ICRSS, or IGS Seminary.

Also I’d like to thank all of you who commented on my previous posts and offered such good intentioned advice. It is truly encouraging.
 
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