Why is marriage necessary?

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I am aware of the theological reasoning for why marriage is. I realise that it reflects the oneness of God the Father and God the Son and the love of the Holy Spirit thus produced. However I was hoping to discover the answer as to why it is necessary. Does a sacramental Union between a Man and a woman need to take place in order for the relationship to reflect the Holy Trinity. Can’t the Holy Trinity be reflected without the Blessed Union.

Just so you know I am not against the sacrament of matrimony and support of 100% but for my own knowledge I would like to discover how to answer this question if it ever arises.

So why is marriage necessary?

AP Quinn
 
You’ve got it backwards.

The Blessed Union reflects the Holy Trinity. The Trinity has no need for our reflection.
 
If you are talking about marriage in the sense of a sacrament, it is necessary for a relationship to receive that sacrament because through the sacrament graces flow to the couple.

Just as in confession people ask, why do you have to say your sins to a priest, why not just say it in your heart to God?

It is because God Himself instituted these sacraments as a channel to receive grace from Him.

So when we partake in these sacraments, we receive sanctifying grace through the sacrament from God.
 
When two non Catholics marry they are considered unknowing of the full extent of God’s plan, their marriage is considered sacramental. When two Catholics marry they are taught God’s plan, their marriage is considered sacramental. When a catholic marries outside the Church it is considered turning away from God’s plan and this marriage is not considered sacramental.

Marriage is a vocation in God’s plan. The objective to raise the next generation for God. If you do not know god’s plan you can not raise the next generation correctly. So you are expected to be Baptized, first Eucharist, confession, confirmed, and marriage prep first.

Hope that helps
 
Covenent Marriage is necessary (from a species point of view) to produce and raise spiritually healthy new human beings.
 
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The original poster asked about two people in a relationship, but I want to make sure no one misunderstands Catholic teaching about marriage. No individual “needs” to get married, so in that sense marriage is not necessary. St. Paul writes in I Corinthians 7: 8 “To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is well for them to remain unmarried as I am.” (please note: St. Paul was chaste!)

Priests and nuns take those words in the Bible quite literally and therefore take vows of celebacy. Some individuals choose not to marry (or perhaps wish to marry but never find a spouse.) Single people can live lives that reflect our God–Who is the Holy Trinity. In those situations it is the *individual *person that reflects God, rather than the relationship.
 
Raising children is a lot of work. I couldn’t do it without a husband who promised before God to stick by me through thick and thin. We couldn’t do it without a loving God to help us out.
 
Just today a visiting priest said in his homily that marriage is necessary because that’s how God chose to bring Jesus into the world. Not in an earthquake, not sailing on a cloud, but to a mother and father.
 
ocuinn said:
I am aware of the theological reasoning for why marriage is. I realise that it reflects the oneness of God the Father and God the Son and the love of the Holy Spirit thus produced. However I was hoping to discover the answer as to why it is necessary. Does a sacramental Union between a Man and a woman need to take place in order for the relationship to reflect the Holy Trinity. Can’t the Holy Trinity be reflected without the Blessed Union.

Just so you know I am not against the sacrament of matrimony and support of 100% but for my own knowledge I would like to discover how to answer this question if it ever arises.

So why is marriage necessary?

AP Quinn
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True Sacramental Marriage is indissoluble ¨Mark 10:7-9 (RSV-CATHOLIC) “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder.” ¨1 Corinthians 7:10-11 “But to them that are married, not I but the Lord commandeth, that the wife depart not from her husband. And if she depart that she remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband. And let not the husband put away his wife.” ¨Romans 7:2 (RSV-CATHOLIC) "Thus a married woman is bound by law to her husband as long as he lives; but if her husband dies she is discharged from the law.

Marriage was and is the plan of God.
 
ocuinn said:
I am aware of the theological reasoning for why marriage is. I realise that it reflects the oneness of God the Father and God the Son and the love of the Holy Spirit thus produced. However I was hoping to discover the answer as to why it is necessary. Does a sacramental Union between a Man and a woman need to take place in order for the relationship to reflect the Holy Trinity. Can’t the Holy Trinity be reflected without the Blessed Union.

Just so you know I am not against the sacrament of matrimony and support of 100% but for my own knowledge I would like to discover how to answer this question if it ever arises.

So why is marriage necessary?

AP Quinn
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All i can say is why i appreciate the idea of sacramental, indissoluable marraige (though i probably will never get married): i like the idea that it is forever. How does a person feel when his loved one abandons him/her? Not very good. Who wants love for a day or a month or even 10 years? i want love to last forever (which is why i’ll probably never marry. I don’t trust anyone to love me that long… and if you have trust issues, u probably shouldn’t marry).
Anyway… to be married in the eyes of God “forever” seems like a wonderful thing… As it says in Malachi: “God hates divorce.”
 
If a man and a woman are having sex, their bodies are telling each other they’re married.

So if they’re not afraid to make themselves intimate and vulnerable to each other in bed, why are they afraid to stand up together fully clothed and tell the world they are one? If they want to tell the world their love, why not get married and make it official, and get all the added graces? And why not stay married all their days, growing together and learning to be strong despite adversity?

And if you’re going to get married, why not wait on the sex until you are? If you want everybody else to give you gifts and make the wedding perfect, you should be willing to make the consummation of it even more special.

All that said, you don’t have to spend a lot of money on an elaborate wedding and reception and honeymoon to make the occasion sacramental and special. And if the premarital sex ship has already sailed, there are ways to deal with that, too.

But the proper question isn’t why marriage is necessary. It’s “Why wouldn’t a man and a woman who love each other want to marry each other, make wild public vows and promises in the sight of everyone, and celebrate a great sacrament of love that not everybody gets to? Why wouldn’t they want to live inside that sacrament as long as they both shall live, spreading its blessings everywhere they go?”
 
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If a man and a woman are having sex, their bodies are telling each other they’re married.

So if they’re not afraid to make themselves intimate and vulnerable to each other in bed, why are they afraid to stand up together fully clothed and tell the world they are one? If they want to tell the world their love, why not get married and make it official, and get all the added graces? And why not stay married all their days, growing together and learning to be strong despite adversity?

And if you’re going to get married, why not wait on the sex until you are? If you want everybody else to give you gifts and make the wedding perfect, you should be willing to make the consummation of it even more special.

All that said, you don’t have to spend a lot of money on an elaborate wedding and reception and honeymoon to make the occasion sacramental and special. And if the premarital sex ship has already sailed, there are ways to deal with that, too.

But the proper question isn’t why marriage is necessary. It’s “Why wouldn’t a man and a woman who love each other want to marry each other, make wild public vows and promises in the sight of everyone, and celebrate a great sacrament of love that not everybody gets to? Why wouldn’t they want to live inside that sacrament as long as they both shall live, spreading its blessings everywhere they go?”
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Right. If 2 people don’t love each other unconditonally (till death do we part), why sleep with each other? And the only way to know whether u love someone that way is through God, who knows everything. We need to wait to get married because we need time to pray to Our Higher Power (Consultant) about things we don’t know… like, is this marriage going to last, etc.?
I have been in love so many times, or thought i was. But i am human and didn’t know what i know now… much less what my FAther knows, about me or about the other… I don’t want to get my heart broken. Marrying the wrong person will result in that, one way or the other… I don’t want my life messed up… Maybe i will never be married because iam picky & don’t want a bad marriage. But i say better to be alone (wtih God) than to be with the wrong person & miserable, etc… Not that life should be entirely cross- less… But whatever…
The bottom line is: Do we trust Jesus enough to wait on HIm (and obey His Church?).
 
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