I don’t think that enjoying people looking after you is cultish and childish. It only becomes cultish when they try to control you or the situation. When I haven’t heard from friends I give them a call. Even my rugby team, I sent out a general e-mail to them asking for prayers for my father (cancer), and I can’t tell you how good it felt to receive a boatload.
If you use that as a reason to leave a church that’s childish.
I think sometimes Catholics are a little jealous of some stories like BJ’s. Because while we feel like we are doing the right thing, we would like more of what someone has (typical humanity

) While they is a quickly growing surge of community bonding in Catholic Churches, there are still Churches that still follow the stereotype of a “run away after Eucharist” church.
I grew up Catholic, and during college I never persay “left” the church, but I spent most of my time with “non-denominational christian groups”. I REALLY enjoyed my time with them, and I visited A LOT of different churches. Dated one of the girls who was VERY fundamentalist! The more she questioned my Cahtolic side, the more I studied, and the more I came to love the Catholic Church. Her family was part of a fantastic church, one of the Vineyard offshoots. Great people. But as I grew, I really wanted to be apart of my Catholic Church I grew up in (it was one of the better ones, now with a thrieving Youth program). But I do find myself a little jealous sometimes of the churches I used to hang out in (not as if I can’t visit). It doesn’t take anything away from the Catholic faith, but some of the “non-denom” churches do some social/bonding things VERY WELL!
The Catholic Church socially is diffinately changing, changing quickly, and for the good.
In some ways I feel that God had me experience the good ways of other churches in hopes that I’d bring those attitudes/ideas/bonding back to the Catholic Church, and help it grow in that area.
My two cents…