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I really feel badly for your grandmother. And please understand I in no way mean anything negative by anything I say and I’m not tyring to be sarcastic (no one can tell how you sound on here!) - but do you think that had she had access to how to use NFP that she would have wanted to have that many children? I have no doubt that since she was in the states that less than three years later many of the family had died from the influenza epidemic that claimed so many thousands upon thousands. But you also said she was 38 and had 14 children - it makes me wonder how old she was when she got married. But it makes me want to bring up another, well I guess point is the main way to put it. I might should just begin another thread, but I thought I’d see how it went on here first. When I got married, I know that I wasn’t thinking, nor was my husband thinking - “oh boy, now we can go have babies!” - I see on here so often that people say that the main purpose of marriage is to have children. I guess I’m just the odd person out, because when we got married, we thought about how happy we were to be together and not have to live without the other. How we’d be able to go on holidays together and not ever have to be apart (except when he was out to sea)- we had thought that it might be nice to have children, but we knew we wanted to have time to get to know how to live with the other. Although I had stayed with him when we were in the same state, we hadn’t really lived together. I worked in Florida and went to school and he was in Washington and often out on a sub. We also knew that I needed to be on ABC at that point due to my health issues but that we wouldn’t really stand in the way of pregnancy - (and believe me, I did get pregnant - on abc and on NFP when we were able to try it for certain amounts of time). I guess my point is that I see too often on here where it is said that the point of marriage is to have children - I believe that may be something that can be a product of marriage but to us getting to know our new spouse was our main point. Currently, I pray my husband will get excited about trying to have kids again - I ask all of your prayers so that we get the o.k. from the doctors but taht also we have no huge financial reasons to put off trying even after that. Sorry about going off on a tangent!Old Style Families
My grandmother, wife of a cotton farmer in Texas, had fourteen children. She died at age 38, in 1917, giving birth to the last two, twins, that also died.
God Bless
Rye