But that’s what I’m getting at - WHY is it evil?
How is me expressing my deep love for my wife, in the most intimate of ways, without the procreative process - mechanical? Where in that fullest expression of love for another am I treating her as an object?
Okay, I know you’ve posted a few messages since this one, but I had to go to mass and didn’t have a chance to respond…so I appreciate your patience.
First, let’s take God out of the picture for a moment, and just speak about this contraception issue from a strictly humanitarian point of view. This is a bit difficult for me as I don’t know how one can seperate man from God, but for conversation sake, let’s say there is no God, and only us humans running the world.
As such, we humans are mammals. No other species of mammals that I’m aware of proactively takes the pro creative function out of the sexual act. Survival of the species depends upon it. So one could posit that non-contraceptive sex is the natural law in mammals.
Now you exist today because your biological parents had sex. And they exist because their biological parents had sex. If you go back a thousand generations in your family tree, then you discover that thousands of your ancestors existed and theirs and your very existence was contingent upon non-contracepted sex. If just one of those folks in the chain had used contraception…you and thousands others never come into being. So the choices you make today in this regard have a very real consequence upon not only the next generation, but even the very make up of the species a thousand years from now. Who are we to say that anyone should not exist in the future?
You could even throw in a Darwinian slant to this. If the best and brightest of the species is also the demographic of the species that practices contraception the most, then fewer of the good genes get passed on to the next generation and weakening of the species begins to occur.
That’s the best I can do leaving God out of the equation.
Let’s touch on the marriage. Do you really give yourself totally to your wife if you are contracepting? Are you not saying “I give all of myself to you except my fertility?” So it’s not a total gift. Do you give yourself freely if you’re contracepting? You can’t because you’re enslaved by your fear of pregnancy. Do you give yourself faithfully if you’re contracepting? No, because contraception is an act of self-absorption versus the a self-donating act. You’re holding back from wife. Finally, do you give yourself fruitfully to your wife if you’re contracepting? Absolutely not. Without the openness to the normative purpose of the act, it’s merely an outlet for lust, which is the very thing that turns your wife or you into that mechanical entity. It is an affront to your human dignity. That’s what makes it evil. Simply stated, as a human being, you deserve better.