In the United States, the
option indicated in the Vatican II documents to use hymns in the place of chant was radically overplayed. We’re Americans; we’re going to take any opportunity to exercise our “independence.” It’s just what we do.

The Roman Missal still contains chant settings for almost all of the priest’s prayers. (Maybe all of them?) Priests are given the option to speak, but encouraged to sing as much as possible. When this is done, chanting the other parts of the Mass begins to make more and more sense.
If you read the VatII docs carefully, you’ll see that “active participation” is defined in some places, particularly during the Eucharistic Prayer, as attentive silence. Proponents of the four-hymn-sandwich choose to interpret the phrase solely as
vocal participation, except in those cases where it is explicitly defined otherwise. This is problematic for many reasons. One of the less-mentioned ones is that the Mass is divided into Ordinary parts, which are the same from week to week and therefore intended for vocal congregational participation; and the Propers, which vary from week to week and are therefore more suited for a group (or in the case of absolute necessity, a single person, i.e. cantor) with sufficient training to learn the changes quickly enough.
I believe the Church in America has been greatly impoverished by its compromise in the musical realm. And frankly, Protestants do both hymns and the modern-music thing much, much better. Many Protestants churches have full-on rock bands, and stage actual 30-45 minutes rock concerts before their services. They are very effective at emotional manipulation. I would personally prefer it if we’d stick to what we’re good at, and honor our heritage and its efficacy. The reason music was introduced into the Mass was to lift the heart and mind to God. Chant well-performed does that.
That said, and seriously, I could go on about this from many different angles for a very long time… music in the Mass is a pastoral decision. If you don’t like the music at your church, you can have a respectful conversation with your pastor, in which case I urge you to first research your position and come at it from something other than an emotional perspective. This, of course, is the primary reason the music of Mass is such a mess. Music strongly accesses emotions. Therefore, it occurs to very few people to
think about music: its power, its subtleties, its challenges, its purpose, its limits, or its responsible use. They just know how they *feel *about it. Feelings aren’t usually terribly discerning.
You may well find that having a respectful, thoughtful, and educated conversation with your pastor could start some changes. Even if it does, expect those changes to be extremely slow – the education and formation of the musicians and congregation will take a long time.
Especially since arts education is in such dire straits in many schools and in our culture… but that’s another topic…