Why not gay marriage?

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If you’ve not read much on the need for something transcendental to have morality I’d suggest reading on the subject. In one way it is as simple as who would be the judge of an act? If it is simply me or a group of men then it is nothing more than my reason or a vote. That isn’t morality.
Why is a judge necessary for morality? A judge isn’t obviously necessary for determining mathematical truth. Maybe mathematical truth is like moral truth.
I do not think it is self-evident that people have intrinsic worth.
It is foundational to my thinking. It’s where I start my ethics.

Kant spends some time discussing where this comes from. I don’t think the work is necessary.
 
So, you are saying that the only people with any morality in the world are those who accept the Church? Do I understand you correctly? Is every system of morality baseless except the Church’s?
In the first paragraph I asked who has moral authority and how we know this.

In the second I might not have been clear. I believe that people can be fairly moral without the Church (though worshiping God is a duty and therefore to not is a moral failing). What I was getting at is most people have no idea how they arrived at their moral conclusions. So how can they refute any moral authority? Secondly, many people deny anything transcendental and thus proclaim a lack of morality (since morality must be transcendental). That does not mean they do not act morally but it does mean that they have no reason or duty to do so nor the right to condemn those who do not by whatever standards they maintain.

The Church’s morality is the most complete. Any other system is inadequate. Any system that recognizes something transcendental is not baseless but incomplete and wrong on details. Any system that denies the immaterial is completely baseless and incoherent.
 
Entirely untrue, lock, stock and barrel. A loving home is not gender specific. Studies are showing that children raised by two females do better on every measure of mental health than their peers raised in any other gender permutation. This is presumably because women tend to be more nurturing than men.

Should we ban heterosexual couples from raising children for this reason? I think not. It turns out that even if a household is not the very best environment that it could be for children, that they can still be raised with love and guidance.

All this time, there has been the assumption, based on ignorance, that a heterosexual household was that most healthy for children. But then, this assumption was made by heterosexuals, wasn’t it? Now that the data are improving, we are finding otherwise.
So I’m going to assume by your post that you must believe that abortion causes a higher risk for breast cancer right? I can point to about 20 times more/better evidence of that, than you can that two lesbians are better parents than a heterosexual couple in principle.

If two lesbians who were together provided the best home for a child why the heck is it that sex between two heterosexual parents creates the babies? That same kind of sex also makes it so that man and woman bond together to raise the child together. It seems pretty clear what is supposed to happen and how we have been created to work biologically.

I also love the rampant feminism in your post. If two lesbians are the best environment in which to raise kids, why do we need males if we can find a way to create sperm artificially… Are you a eugenicist?
 
There are no definitive teachings in secular society, save the categorical imperative: the belief in the dignity and worth of every human being, and our inherant duty to preserve that dignity and to protect and allow total individual autonomy, except when it interferes with the autonomy of others.

How the individual autonomy is balanced with societal stability and function is a matter of pragmatism. Determinations should be made to this end, based on the empirical results from social experiments.

This isn’t really what I see the Catholic Church becoming very involved in, except for articulating proclaiming and defending the Categorical Imperative, as John Paul II and Jacques Maritain accomplished so well. How badly these principles need to be articulated, especially as they concern the unborn children in our society!

This is an entirely different topic (which if you want me to pursue it, let me know and I’ll start a new thread), but I find that an absolute moral metaphysic can be derived from reason and human will alone. God and Church are unnecessary.
Can you provide a framework or actual example of an “absolute moral metaphysic”? I think human history contains too many experiments that turned out to be failures. What I’ve seen over the last 40 years were attempts (some still ongoing) to destroy the basic building block of rational societies: marriage. The Pill, The Sexual Revolution (pleasure is first, which leads to casual sex or meaningless ‘just sex’), the National Organization for Women providing, as an institution, a reason for women to distrust all men and to encourage separation as opposed to solving the very real problems that exist between men and women. The hyper-sexualization of most media - pleasure is job one.

I watched a special on TV about an Asian country that was less advanced than most in the West. They had a pragmatic solution for family problems. In one case, a woman was having trouble with her husband. He yelled at her and made her feel bad if dinner was not on the table when he got home from work. She had tried to explain why each time but it didn’t seem to help. There was a small group known to all in her village for such situations. And they were respected by all. The woman brought her problem to them.

Three men arrived one day, introduced themselves and asked if they could come in. The husband instantly knew who they were. One of the group asked the husband about these incidents and if they were true. The husband said yes. They then asked the husband why he yelled at his wife and made her feel bad.

He explained that on one occasion, his boss had given him a hard time and that having dinner on time was not the issue. Instead, he had become angry at his wife. In another case, he was just tired and hungry and got angry. He apparently tuned his wife out when she tried to explain that, in one case, she lost track of the time while trying to help a sick neighbor. After everything was out in the open, the husband responded positively, told his wife he was sorry and that he would try to behave better in the future. One of the members of the group encouraged him and his wife to communicate more. The narrator added that this group helped married couples sort through their problems and that many had been helped.

Peace,
Ed
 
Entirely untrue, lock, stock and barrel. A loving home is not gender specific. Studies are showing that children raised by two females do better on every measure of mental health than their peers raised in any other gender permutation. This is presumably because women tend to be more nurturing than men.
 
Entirely untrue, lock, stock and barrel. A loving home is not gender specific. Studies are showing that children raised by two females do better on every measure of mental health than their peers raised in any other gender permutation. This is presumably because women tend to be more nurturing than men.

Should we ban heterosexual couples from raising children for this reason? I think not. It turns out that even if a household is not the very best environment that it could be for children, that they can still be raised with love and guidance.

All this time, there has been the assumption, based on ignorance, that a heterosexual household was that most healthy for children. But then, this assumption was made by heterosexuals, wasn’t it? Now that the data are improving, we are finding otherwise.
More Mudgely nonsense.

The Case for the Two Parent Family -
A study of Australian primary school children from three family types (married heterosexual couples, cohabiting heterosexual couples and homosexual couples) found that in every area of educational endeavour (language, mathematics, social studies, sport, class work, sociability and popularity, and attitudes to learning), children from married heterosexual couples performed better than the other two groups.
 
Why is a judge necessary for morality? A judge isn’t obviously necessary for determining mathematical truth. Maybe mathematical truth is like moral truth.
I’m happy to answer but it would be nice if you could answer my original questions about what constitutes a moral authority.

Mathematical truth and moral truth do have many similarities. Both are objectively true. They exist and are true without any person existing let alone thinking about them. But these are not exactly the same. A moral system by its nature is about obligations. An obligation requires someone to be obligated to. If only one person existed in the world there would still be moral obligations such as the obligation to preserve your own life and make good use of your time. But it being an obligation it must be to someone. That someone is the judge of your fulfillment of your obligation to them. Of course you could in the moral system have an appeals system, like in our legal system. But eventually you would have to arrive at a final authority, like in our legal system. This must be God.

Another difference in moral truth and mathematical truth is in how we treat obedience to it. In math one can add numbers wrong and violate mathematical truth. When this happens we dont have any sense of outrage that someone got the math wrong. We simply try to correct their understanding. But when someone breaks the moral law we want to not only correct them but punish them. Moreover we assign different degrees of punishment depending on the gravity of the error. In our own human treatment of math and morals there is a world of difference in how we act. As humans we seem to not treat these truths the same.
 
I have greater outrage at mathematical errors than moral errors.
 
When I think about my moral failings and my mathematical failings, it is my mathematical failings that cause me greater shame.

This is probably subjective. How we feel about morality and mathematics shouldn’t determine their objectivity or origin.

But I’m going to start a thread on this, because it’s a very interesting topic, and appeals to my Spinozistic/Platonic tendencies.
 
Alright, the contraception question I asked you answered. That made some sense, so I can imagine why you don’t like gay activity or why you don’t do gay marriage.

But what about people who aren’t Catholic? They get divorced and do all kinds of other things that you don’t agree with. Why can’t two men get together and the state can call it marriage or whatever else they like? They do this sort of thing anyway about divorce, with a lot less arguments and protests from you guys.

Why should you care if other religions want to recognize gay marriage?

What about gay adoption? Why not allow it for limited cases, to see what effect it has, and if its a good idea overall, or not?
I don’t think this is the right question. The burden of proof is on the advocate of social change, not on others. Your question has been carefully exploited to put on the defensive those who oppose the change. So your question should be “Why SS‘M’?" [same-sex ‘marriage’] Be that as it may, here is a four-part presentation on “Why not?”, and none of the reasons are religious. Each part is about 15 minutes:
Jennifer Roback Morse, Phd
Same Sex Marriage: Why Not? (Part 1 of 4) youtube.com/watch?v=osCnn-ATrcI
Same Sex Marriage: Why Not? (Part 2 of 4) youtube.com/watch?v=ZdzCFMCsIb4
Same Sex Marriage: Why Not? (Part 3 of 4) youtube.com/watch?v=atsAiYpyI9M&feature=related
Same Sex Marriage: Why Not? (Part 4 of 4) youtube.com/watch?v=VwyOHhJAYko&feature=related
 
I don’t think this is the right question. The burden of proof is on the advocate of social change, not on others. Your question has been carefully exploited to put on the defensive those who oppose the change.
I see things in the exact opposite way. If there’s no apparent good reason against trying something, I say we should try it.

See my motto from Post #96:

"My motto:
When in doubt, do it again.

Maybe something different will happen the second time."

Maybe this is reckless, but I think it’s the best way to find out for sure if something is going to work or not. If there’s a good reason for not doing something, I’ll be against it. But if there’s no apparent good reason for or against doing something, I err on the side of trying it.

Maybe we’ll learn something.
 
When I think about my moral failings and my mathematical failings, it is my mathematical failings that cause me greater shame.

This is probably subjective. How we feel about morality and mathematics shouldn’t determine their objectivity or origin.

But I’m going to start a thread on this, because it’s a very interesting topic, and appeals to my Spinozistic/Platonic tendencies.
That’s obviously not entirely true. Perhaps you believe that saying 2+2=5 might be a more shameful failing than stealing a cookie from a cookie jar. But saying that 2+2=5 is a greater failing to you than intentionally or accidentally hitting a man in your car is obviously untrue.

If that were the case it would be unsafe for other human beings to be in close proximity to you, and you’d probably be committed to a mental institution.

Humans are moral beings first, and cold, mathematical and logical beings second. Every mentally sane human being, whether a mathematician or a magician, will assert his/her right to go about his business without injury, and that assertiveness comes from an objective moral truth that one should not be harmed without just cause.

I can’t imagine Albert Einstein (a German Jew and a mathematician during the height of Nazi persecution as we all know) hanging around in the Third Reich and saying to the SS men breaking down his door “you’re welcome to beat me to a pulp, but please don’t touch my mathematical formulae.”

I think life-and-limb was higher on his list of priorities than his groundbreaking work, and he got out of Dodge, rightly so.
 
That’s obviously not entirely true. Perhaps you believe that saying 2+2=5 might be a more shameful failing than stealing a cookie from a cookie jar. But saying that 2+2=5 is a greater failing to you than intentionally or accidentally hitting a man in your car is obviously untrue.
I agree. There are mortal and venial mathematical sins, just as there are mortal and venial moral sins.

I have done worse things than steal cookies from a cookie jar.

But the one mistake in my life I regret the most is attempting to publish a paper where the Einstein B coefficient for stimulated emission was neglected.

Mistakes like 1+1=3 are venial; minus-sign errors are fairly minor as well (but risk grave matter); but mistakes that show a deep misunderstanding of the universe. If God exists, he should be just as angry about these mistakes, because they show a flawed understanding of his nature and creative purpose.

Treating error as truth is one of the worst things someone can do, in my mind. To try to force a wrong proof to work, or to cheat the data to make it fit your own ideas; this feels as bad to me as intentional murder.

But these are just feelings. Objective determinations are more important. I just don’t see how to make such determinations in this case.
I can’t imagine Albert Einstein (a German Jew and a mathematician during the height of Nazi persecution as we all know) hanging around in the Third Reich and saying to the SS men breaking down his door “you’re welcome to beat me to a pulp, but please don’t touch my mathematical formulae.”
This hypothetical case makes me think of the tale of Archimedes, when confronting the Roman soldier. He did not object to what the soldier did to his friends or family or might do to him. He instead remarks: “Don’t disturb my circles!”
I think life-and-limb was higher on his list of priorities than his groundbreaking work, and he got out of Dodge, rightly so.
If you are dead, you cannot do work.
 
  1. I agree. There are mortal and venial mathematical sins, just as there are mortal and venial moral sins.
I have done worse things than steal cookies from a cookie jar.
  1. But the one mistake in my life I regret the most is attempting to publish a paper where the Einstein B coefficient for stimulated emission was neglected.
3.Mistakes like 1+1=3 are venial; minus-sign errors are fairly minor as well (but risk grave matter); but mistakes that show a deep misunderstanding of the universe. If God exists, he should be just as angry about these mistakes, because they show a flawed understanding of his nature and creative purpose.
  1. Treating error as truth is one of the worst things someone can do, in my mind. To try to force a wrong proof to work, or to cheat the data to make it fit your own ideas; this feels as bad to me as intentional murder.
But these are just feelings. Objective determinations are more important. I just don’t see how to make such determinations in this case.
  1. This hypothetical case makes me think of the tale of Archimedes, when confronting the Roman soldier. He did not object to what the soldier did to his friends or family or might do to him. He instead remarks: “Don’t disturb my circles!”
  2. If you are dead, you cannot do work.
  1. I agree that there are degrees of wrongdoing.
  2. However, I fail to imagine a mathematical error (whether intentional or accidental) of any calculable magnitude that would cause you to behave as a guiltstricken murderer or a drunk driver whose reckless behavior resulted in decapitating or burning another human being alive in a fiery accident. I’ll elaborate, persuasively I believe, on why I believe this in the successive points below.
  3. If God is indeed a rational being, as the presence of rational laws in His universe appear to indicate, I think He is patient with the intellectual failings of human beings. Humans can learn a great deal about the universe through observational experimentation, but there’s a limit to what humans can know that DOES NOT meet or exceed the breadth of the universe. A rational being does not expect more from humans than their naturally determined abilities are capable of achieving.
  4. In our judicial system, the severity of a given punishment for a transgression of the law is often determined by distinguishing between offenders who feel genuine remorse for their crimes and those who are unrepentant, and this is because the presence of remorse is a strong indicator that an offender may be successfully rehabilitated, and that recidivism is less likely.
Genuine remorse is often indicated by a refusal of the offender to contest his just punishment. Certainly no two cases are identical and some genuinely remorseful defendants may plea-bargain for lesser sentences due to, for example, perfunctory obligations to spouses or children and friends or to settle the affairs relating to the stewardship of his/her estate while under incarceration.

However, that being said, as was previously stated, genuine remorse often accompanies an obedient resignation to punishment. I believe that if you truly equated academic dishonesty or sloppiness with murder, you’d probably be seeking the HIGHEST penalty applicable to the offense of academic dishonesty; your guilt would not allow you to live with what you’d done without paying your debt to those whom you deceived or misled, and the emotional turmoil would profoundly and permanently color your relations with other human beings for the remainder of your natural life.
  1. There are many contextual variables at work here, and I won’t attempt to account for all of them, however:
i. Was travel as readily available to ancient peoples as is to us? Where might Archimedes have gone? Einstein on the other hand had many means of travel at his disposal, he need only stay under the radar.

ii. Perhaps knowing that no intervention on his part could have stopped the brutality of the Romans, he attempted, with nothing further to lose, to protect his work.

We could speculate all day.
  1. Point taken. Well done.
 
…See my motto from Post #96:

"My motto:
When in doubt, do it again.

Maybe something different will happen the second time."

Maybe this is reckless, …
It is one definition of insanity … doing the same thing over and over, hoping for a different result.

Besides, are we to structure society after your mottos? Where is the proof that they work? What happens if they don’t work? Can’t go back without great human suffering. Previous generations of social experimenters have caused unimaginable misery for millions of people. None of these people have ever been held accountable. Just look at the great social experiments of the last century: 169 million victims of democide [death by government trying to realize the impossible dream of salvation in this life] hawaii.edu/powerkills/NOTE1.HTM .

Ideas are dangerous things because power hungry people have to have an idea to sell to the masses to gain their power. All ideas start with the academy and migrate out. SS"M" is academia’s current cause célèbre. An example of a past academic causes célèbre: Describing National Socialism’s academic roots, F. A. Hayek states,
It is a common mistake to regard National Socialism as a mere revolt against reason, an irrational movement without intellectual background. If that were so, the movement would be much less dangerous than it is.” – Hayek, F. A., Road to Serfdom, Chapter 12. “The Socialist Roots of Nazism”.
Then there is Victor Klemperer:
They [the intelligencia] were the guilty party, not the ordinary Germans. Given the opportunity to mete out punishment after it’s all over, he wrote the following in one of his published diaries, I Will Bear Witness: A Diary of the Nazi Years 1933-1941:
If one day the fate of the vanquished lay in my hands, then I would let all the ordinary folk go and even some of the leaders, who might perhaps after all have had honorable intentions and not known what they were doing. But I would have all the intellectuals strung up, and the professors three feet higher than the rest; they would be left hanging from the lampposts for as long as was compatible with hygiene.
“Heil Professor!” by Phil Orenstein

Communism which killed over 100 million.​
There has been an inability of the social sciences and humanities to produce a useful social product in anything like the amounts generated by the study of nature. Absent the prestige, support, and self-confidence that such social product confers, the humanities and social sciences have sought them instead through affiliation with what they believe to be deserving movements and causes, each in need of intellectual justification and defense.
Maybe we’ll learn something.
Maybe you need to do some research. You can start with the videos.
“The study of history is a powerful antidote to contemporary arrogance. It is humbling to discover how many of our glib assumptions, which seem to us novel and plausible, have been tested before, not once but many times and in numerable guises; and discovered to be, at great human cost, wholly false.” – Historian Paul Johnson
 
sedonaman:
All the examples you list fall under two (non-exclusive) categories.

Rule 1: Start small.
Rule 2: Make sure there isn’t already a good reason not to do something before doing it.

I say err on the side of innovation and experiment, but experiment and innovate with caution.

Start small. Learn from mistakes. If it’s really a failure, abandon it.

Maybe adopting to gay couples will be a failure. But maybe it will be a great success, both for gay couples who want children, and also for the children, who now have more healthy couples to adopt them.

Possible good all the way around. And no good reason not to try it.
 
Deus_lo_vult,

A longer comment to appear after I think about what you said.

But one thing struck me.

It seems the God of the Catholics is too lenient about intellectual errors, and too harsh when it comes to moral errors.

The God of the Jews has the opposite problem.
 
//. If God exists, he should be just as angry about these mistakes, because they show a flawed understanding of his nature and creative purpose.]So, those among us who are, shall we say, ‘mathematically challenged’ and who make mistakes, will incur God’s wrath? You also assume a direct connection between mathematical understanding and understanding of God’s nature and creative purpose.
Treating error as truth is one of the worst things someone can do, in my mind. To try to force a wrong proof to work, or to cheat the data to make it fit your own ideas; this feels as bad to me as intentional murder.
 

-]Rule 1: Start small.
Rule 2: Make sure there isn’t already a good reason not to do something before doing it.
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Rule 1: Let society evolve without government intervention.
Rule 2: If you don’t like Rule 1, see Rule 1.
 
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