Why sadness and anger?

[AmericanRose]

So something happened that made me very upset. I have to wait until December before I can (hopefully) resolve the situation. For some reason I waver between anger and sadness. I’ll be angry for a bit, but then all of a sudden I’ll get really sad. Unfortunately I don’t have the privacy to cry like I need to so I’m holding all my emotions in. How do I get over this? Feeling empty would be better than this rollercoaster. On another note, why does God lets sad things happen? I know suffering is reparation for sin but I still just don’t understand why He would do this.

 

[Crusaderbear]

Don’t keep it bottled up! You have plenty of opportunities throughout any given day to cry when you need to…even a few minutes in the shower, or at night while in bed. Do it, or you will only hurt yourself physically!

I know, I just went through a period of this, and I am a 61 year old man (that’s to show I’ve had a lot of experience with this, nothing sexist…)! My cries were about 30 seconds at a time, but it released the pressure, and things got better.

Won’t it drive you nuts if come December, you bring up your issue, and the other party says, what are you talking about? I don’t remember that!

 

[Trishie]

What comes to mind is how sad Saint Therese was when she couldn’t join to live her Carmelite life when she yearned to, as the religious authorities considered her to be too young.
She was so saddened, that her father (now Saint Louis Martin) took her to Rome, accompanied by her sister Celine, to ask the Pope to allow her to enter ‘now’.
She was so full of hope and fervor that it was painful to wait.
She had to wait, despite her personal appeal to the Pope.

Her solution, to live as well as she could, in little kind acts of self-denial , and in prayer, in becoming to become a better person, more ready for entry to Carmel than she had been if she had been allowed to enter earlier.
Perhaps there is some way you can prepare and grow in spirit and ability while you wait?
Perhaps you could as Therese and her family to pray for you? Therese’s mother is also canonized, Saint Zellie Martin.

God bless. I hope December seems to come quickly.
But your feelings are very human, and most of us understand how hard it is to wait for something precious that we really want.

 

[JamalChristophr]

Suffering is veiled in the mystery of God’s Providence. It can have various good effects or purposes. For example, sometimes, suffering changes who we are as a person in a good way, over time. It still hurts a lot. It is still suffering. But it’s going to have a good effect on us somehow.

It might bring us closer to God. It might make us more compassionate. Perhaps it is purifying us and preparing us for something great that we cannot yet foresee.

I am a person of strong emotions so I can relate to your turmoil. Not everyone is as emotional, I think, as others. Eventually, though, those terrible emotions about some event or person fade away and we mostly forget them. It takes time.

 

[joeybaggz]

On another note, why does God lets sad things happen? I know suffering is reparation for sin but I still just don’t understand why He would do this.

A very sad thing happened a long time ago. A Carpenter from Nazareth was nailed to a cross and crucified. Why did God let this happen. Maybe to draw something very good from it?

When you ask yourself, where is God when bad or sad things happen, realize that he is in the same place he was when that Carpenter was crucified. He is there to bring good out of sadness and suffering, if you give Him a chance.

Be patient with God, He is very patient with you (and with all of us)