Why should a priest not marry?

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How could marriage prevent a priest from performing his duties faithfully? One issue raised is that a priest would not be as committed to God if he were to marry, and have a family. By that statement, it can be assumed that married men are not as committed to God as bachelors… But that simply is not the case. It would not blight the faithfulness of a man to take a woman as his lawfully wedded wife. With that being said, why shouldn’t a priest be able to marry?
I can only speak from my own personal observations. My son is a Presbyterian Minister and is a devout and good minister. He is married to a lovely woman and they have a son. His Church loves them and he loves the people in his church.

This works for them. However, when my son was looking for a church to minister, he kept firmly in mind the needs of his family. Good school. Safe environment for his son. A decent home.

A very dear friend of mine is a wife of a Baptist Preacher. Good man! Lovely family. Four girls and now 10 grand children. When he became a preacher he and his wife wanted to minister to those near the border in southern Texas. This worked real for them until his girls were in grade school and junior high school. The school they attended was unsafe. Since they were Anglos, the children were subject to some serious problems. The family then moved to a small town in Eastern Colorado. Their girls were two and three years behind in all their studies. He had to make a choice between his family’s needs and his calling.

These are important things to think about.
 
I believe it was about 30 years ago that Rome allowed Anglican/Episcopal priests to come in via a Pastoral Provision, and become (with proper preparation) Catholic priests, even though married. Has anyone heard of whether anything like this is being considered for other married Protestant clergy who want to be Catholic priests? I am thinking of Lutherans or others with similar liturgical backgrounds.

I note that there seems to be a tradition, or discipline, in some areas that married men can be ordained priests but priests cannot marry, or remarry. Why is that?

My theory is that being already married is perhaps a tolerable degree of distraction, for a priest, but it is a stable state; whereas being an unmarried priest with a potential for marriage creates a higher level of uncertainty and potential anxiety, that would strain the priest’s ministry. But that’s only my uninformed guess. I just wondered how much the rationale is theological as compared to practical psychology.

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Very happily uncelibate for over 30 years with same wife
 
I believe it was about 30 years ago that Rome allowed Anglican/Episcopal priests to come in via a Pastoral Provision, and become (with proper preparation) Catholic priests, even though married. Has anyone heard of whether anything like this is being considered for other married Protestant clergy who want to be Catholic priests? I am thinking of Lutherans or others with similar liturgical backgrounds.
There have already been ministers from other Christian faiths that have been allowed to become married Catholic priests.

Here are some examples:

Lutheran:
articles.philly.com/2006-04-15/news/25395018_1_pastoral-provision-catholic-priests-catholic-church

Methodist:
freerepublic.com/focus/news/2213738/posts

Presbyterian:
oregonlive.com/news/index.ssf/2010/06/post_108.html

Baptist:
clericalwhispers.blogspot.com/2008/08/married-ex-baptist-minister-to-become.html
 
The explanation that hit home with me is this:

He cannot split his heart in two. A priest is married to his parish (or if he’s a different kind of priest then…I dunno)

He has people’s souls on the line. When someone is dying, he needs to leave right then and there. That is his first duty. There is no way you can be that devoted to both your community and then also your children. Who would come first? That is a horrible position to be put in. And the act of splitting his heart up like that is just a horrible thing to ask of anybody.

I feel like Jesus wasn’t married because, ew that’d be like me marrying a worm. It doesn’t seem to have anything to do with setting an example of how to be a priest. A priest isn’t required to convert to Judaism first, or to have a beard or to be whatever ethnicity Jesus was, but if that’s the official answer from the Vatican then that’s the answer.
 
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Also as noted above, there was a time through the first millenia or so of the Latin Church’s existence that married priests were allowed. Of course this led to the issues they had at that time that drove the reform toward celibacy.
False.

It is vital to know the history and the meaning of the celibate priesthood. Not only is the celibate priesthood from Christ, it is most scriptural, and the reality is that certainly from the beginning most candidates were married, and as Catholic priests they were required to be continent.

St. Peter asked Our Lord, “What about us? We left all we had to follow you.” The Divine Master answered: “I tell you solemnly, there is no one who has left house, wife, brothers, parents or children for the sake of the kingdom of God, who will not be given repayment many times over in this present time and, in the world to come, eternal life” (Lk 18:28-30, cf. Mt 19:27-30; Mk 10:20-21).

Among the Apostles, only Saint Peter is known to have been married because his mother-in-law is mentioned in the Gospels, but no mention is made of his wife or children. Tradition tells us that he was a widower who was caring for his wife’s aged mother. Some of the others might have been married, but there is no indication of this and it is a clear that they left everything, including their families, to follow Christ.

Speculation and feelings can only cloud an issue. The mind of the Church is the reality – these are the facts.

“32. This doctrine of the excellence of virginity and of celibacy and of their superiority over the married state was, as We have already said, revealed by our Divine Redeemer and by the Apostle of the Gentiles; so too, it was solemnly defined as a dogma of divine faith by the holy council of Trent,[57] and explained in the same way by all the holy Fathers and Doctors of the Church. Finally, We and Our Predecessors have often expounded it and earnestly advocated it whenever occasion offered. But recent attacks on this traditional doctrine of the Church, the danger they constitute, and the harm they do to the souls of the faithful lead Us, in fulfillment of the duties of Our charge, to take up the matter once again in this Encyclical Letter, and to reprove these errors which are so often propounded under a specious appearance of truth."
(Sacra Virginitas, Encyclical Of Pope Pius XII, 1954)

The superiority of the state of virginity or celibacy for the love of God is taught infallibly (Council of Trent, D.S. 1810), and Vatican II affirms this. “The crucial factor is the leading of a celibate life for the sake of the Kingdom of Heaven (Mt 19:12). One can be unmarried for any number of reasons, good, bad or indifferent.” Catholic Thinking, John Young, Cardinal Newman Catechist Centre, 1990].

“From the beginnings of the Church, and throughout the Greco-Latin world, a single rule prevailed: Priests were celibate; or else, if they had married before ordination, they and their wives promised to live together thereafter without the use of the marriage. This rule was an Apostolic norm; it was proclaimed and practiced by the Apostles; and that norm in turn was founded upon the example of our Lord Himself.”
[George Sims Johnston,* Our Sunday Visitor, 1998]

While the fact of priestly celibacy is a discipline, it is also more than a discipline because it is an Apostolic norm from the choices made by Jesus, and Sacred Scripture attests to its roots. The celibacy required for priests from the apostles was mandatory, and obligatory.

“Clerics were often chosen from among married older men. After ordination they were required to abstain from conjugal intercourse. In effect then, they were not married. Qui habent uxores, tamquam non habentes sint. “Let those who are married live as if they do not have wives”. Pope Leo the Great in 458 AD borrowed those words of Saint Paul in order to describe the celibacy of the clergy.” Letter from Pope Leo to Rusticus, Bishop of Narbonne]. The Origin Of Priestly Celibacy, by Hugh Ballantyne, June 2003]
 
Well let me tell you ,s this. When I was in my teens, a priest at the Fatima Shrine thought I had the calling to become a priest,so he let me stay with them and go threw what they were doing to become priest,after awhile, I told them that I don,t feel like I belong here.What happen is that I got married,and been for 39 yrs so far,If God want me to become a priest than I would and I would n,t think about getting Married ,for my life would be to serve Christ,to bring people closer to Jesus,to comfort those that need comfort,the visit the sick,and keep my life focus on serving GOD,and not worry or have thoughts of getting MARRIED.
 
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