"Why should I go to Mass if I don't get anything out of it"

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Okay this is the situation… One of my friends reccently said that she rarely goes to mass…
she said that when she does goes she gets distracted or she doesn’t understand the homily and in the end she has wasted an hour for nothing… she didn’t get anything out of it and doesn’t see how all of “THIS” applies to life… and because of her being distracted she hasn’t offered anything to God… and it’s all for nothing.

Can someone help me… I tried explaining how mass is the holy sacrifice and a memorial and climax of the mass is the Eucharist and not the homily… and i don’t know what i can say… someone please help me…
 
Okay this is the situation… One of my friends reccently said that she rarely goes to mass…
she said that when she does goes she gets distracted or she doesn’t understand the homily and in the end she has wasted an hour for nothing… she didn’t get anything out of it and doesn’t see how all of “THIS” applies to life… and because of her being distracted she hasn’t offered anything to God… and it’s all for nothing.

Can someone help me… I tried explaining how mass is the holy sacrifice and a memorial and climax of the mass is the Eucharist and not the homily… and i don’t know what i can say… someone please help me…
Maybe you should work on her belief in God. Because a devout believer wouldn’t say this, she must be struggling. It would be hard to convince her of the value of mass when she remains a doubter underneath.

If it were me the first step would be to post something in prayer intentions for her. And pray for her yourself too… And of course be a really good example for her:D

God Bless
 
Maybe you should work on her belief in God. Because a devout believer wouldn’t say this, she must be struggling. It would be hard to convince her of the value of mass when she remains a doubter underneath.
I very much disagree with this.

There are a LOT of reasons she could be struggling in mass. She could be having issues with seeking to be “entertained” or letting her mind wander. I personally come from a very vibrant and energetic worship experience as a former protestant. I am going through a major culture shock trying to adjust to the hot-and-cold different between mass and “service.” My belief in God is not wavering, I am just learning to speak another worship language. I did fine in seattle when I lived there because I attended a parish that focused on traditional liturgy with chant and gorgeous music which touched me. However, in my current parish the homilies are simply stories and anecdotes with no application, and the music is all 1970’s throwbacks. It works for the parish, but its hard for me.

So what do you do? You need to tell your friend to make a commitment to go anyway. If she is finding one thing in particular that she doesn’t like, maybe she can volunteer in the church to change that. I am currently working with the music and ministries people to incorporate something a little more classical in the way of music, and since I studied music in college, I am helping by offering my talents to make this a reality. Also, if she commits to going, and praying to God when she finds herself frustrated, eventually she’ll come around. There are many times the vapid homilies and making me feel frustrated. Rather than tune out entirely and start thinking about my favourite TV show, I will pray. I will pray that God opens my ears to what he is try to tell me, or to speak to me through the eucharist.

I think, as is true in my case, we need to seek God in all things. Whether it is a vibrant and evergetic service focused on experiening the Holy Spirit, a subdued service with chant and organ music, or a service with same same 6 songs from the 70’s played ad nauseum. God wants us to come to him despite obstacles, and he will reward that. The best place to start is the eucharist. There is so much grace in that, and it sustains and fills, even when the music and homily does not.
 
I have to wonder how anyone could be in the presence of God and feel it is a waste if they don’t have something fundamentally wrong with their faith. Another question I would ask anyone who says they didn’t get anything out of it is “what did you bring to it?” If you go expecting it to be worthless, a waste of time, you’ll probably get your wish every single time, not just with Mass but with a movie, a ballgame, or a picnic.

I would ask your friend if she really believes Jesus is truly present in the Eucharist. Find out that answer and I think you’ll be better able to help.
 
I believe the only response to a statement like that is a clarification: We got to mass to WORSHIP God. You give, that’s it. Getting something from it is not why you go, and if it is, stop wasting your time and go to a movie. You’ll get something out of that. (My opinion only, feel free to think it’s too harsh if you’d like).

I’ve found that most people who are like that either really don’t have a faith in God, or they’ve come from Protestantism and all that comes with that.
 
I believe the only response to a statement like that is a clarification: We got to mass to WORSHIP God. You give, that’s it. Getting something from it is not why you go, and if it is, stop wasting your time and go to a movie. You’ll get something out of that. (My opinion only, feel free to think it’s too harsh if you’d like).

I’ve found that most people who are like that either really don’t have a faith in God, or they’ve come from Protestantism and all that comes with that.
Yes, worshipping God is one of the reasons for assisting at Mass. The other 3 in no specific order are atonement for our sins, petitioning God for specific causes, and thanksgiving.

To the OP, i would ask the person why they go to Mass in the first place? As others have said already, it may likely be them not knowing what the Mass is about in full. Or lack of faith in the Real Presence.

Simply being exposed to Jesus’ Real Presence in the tabernacle bestows graces upon us. So to say i’m not getting anything out of Mass is misguided.
 
Another point you could bring up is that she really ‘is’ getting something out of Mass but that for some reason (s) she just has not fully realized it.

As others have noted, Mass is the unbloody sacrifice of Christ for us. In receiving the Eucharist we receive Christ’s Body and Blood, Soul and Divinity. In attending Mass we receive graces from the Mass itself, as well as the grace of being obedient to God in attendance. We give good example to others.

Those homilies she doesn’t ‘get something out of’ right now could suddenly have a great deal of meaning for her if she experiences either a great evil OR a great good in her life (not all experiences have to be ‘bad’ to turn us to God), or simply with the passage of time itself. How often have we ‘older ones’ found ourselves thinking back to advice given years ago which we ignored then but find great insight, comfort, and help now that WE have advanced enough to appreciate it?

Mass is not Burger King. It’s not for us to have it ‘our way’ and it’s not ‘fast food’. (nothing wrong of course with either, in their proper sphere). Sometimes just realizing that we’re looking at something from an ‘off’ perspective is enough to make us start to appreciate it more.
 
Another point you could bring up is that she really ‘is’ getting something out of Mass but that for some reason (s) she just has not fully realized it.

As others have noted, Mass is the unbloody sacrifice of Christ for us. In receiving the Eucharist we receive Christ’s Body and Blood, Soul and Divinity. In attending Mass we receive graces from the Mass itself, as well as the grace of being obedient to God in attendance. We give good example to others.

Those homilies she doesn’t ‘get something out of’ right now could suddenly have a great deal of meaning for her if she experiences either a great evil OR a great good in her life (not all experiences have to be ‘bad’ to turn us to God), or simply with the passage of time itself. How often have we ‘older ones’ found ourselves thinking back to advice given years ago which we ignored then but find great insight, comfort, and help now that WE have advanced enough to appreciate it?

Mass is not Burger King. It’s not for us to have it ‘our way’ and it’s not ‘fast food’. (nothing wrong of course with either, in their proper sphere). Sometimes just realizing that we’re looking at something from an ‘off’ perspective is enough to make us start to appreciate it more.
Great points 👍 Thanks for posting this. 😃
 
Okay this is the situation… One of my friends reccently said that she rarely goes to mass…
she said that when she does goes she gets distracted or she doesn’t understand the homily and in the end she has wasted an hour for nothing… she didn’t get anything out of it and doesn’t see how all of “THIS” applies to life… and because of her being distracted she hasn’t offered anything to God… and it’s all for nothing.

Can someone help me… I tried explaining how mass is the holy sacrifice and a memorial and climax of the mass is the Eucharist and not the homily… and i don’t know what i can say… someone please help me…
Here is an explanation I put together for our confirmation students - but it might be helpful.

sites.google.com/site/stjamestheless/Home/confirmation/Mass_explanation.pdf?attredirects=0
 
Okay this is the situation… One of my friends reccently said that she rarely goes to mass…
she said that when she does goes she gets distracted or she doesn’t understand the homily and in the end she has wasted an hour for nothing… she didn’t get anything out of it and doesn’t see how all of “THIS” applies to life… and because of her being distracted she hasn’t offered anything to God… and it’s all for nothing.

Can someone help me… I tried explaining how mass is the holy sacrifice and a memorial and climax of the mass is the Eucharist and not the homily… and i don’t know what i can say… someone please help me…
Here is an explanation I put together for our confirmation students. Maybe it will help…
 
Can this woman in all sincerity, recite the Creed with conviction? Mass isn’t attractive for people who don’t have the faith. She might need to start from scratch, like a pagan, only she needs confession rather than baptism. Maybe she needs your prayers a lot more than any wise words that could be offered.
 
Okay this is the situation… One of my friends reccently said that she rarely goes to mass…
she said that when she does goes she gets distracted or she doesn’t understand the homily and in the end she has wasted an hour for nothing… she didn’t get anything out of it and doesn’t see how all of “THIS” applies to life… and because of her being distracted she hasn’t offered anything to God… and it’s all for nothing.

Can someone help me… I tried explaining how mass is the holy sacrifice and a memorial and climax of the mass is the Eucharist and not the homily… and i don’t know what i can say… someone please help me…
Does she partake of the Body and Blood of Our Lord?
 
Okay this is the situation… One of my friends reccently said that she rarely goes to mass…
she said that when she does goes she gets distracted or she doesn’t understand the homily and in the end she has wasted an hour for nothing… she didn’t get anything out of it and doesn’t see how all of “THIS” applies to life… and because of her being distracted she hasn’t offered anything to God… and it’s all for nothing.

Can someone help me… I tried explaining how mass is the holy sacrifice and a memorial and climax of the mass is the Eucharist and not the homily… and i don’t know what i can say… someone please help me…
Deuteronomy 5:12 **Observe the day of the sabbath, to sanctify it, as the Lord thy God hath commanded thee. **

What YOU get out of it is obeying God’s commandment. That’s a start
 
Fr Corapi on EWTN says that all the Bible is about Jesus Christ.

In the garden of Eden, Adam and Eve are presented with the Tree of Life, and eating the fruit presumably keeps one alive (Adam and Eve were created as temporal beings who would eventually die, except for eating from the Tree of Life).

It is that image that pervade the Bible. The Jews believe that it is the Torah that is the Tree of Life. In the fulness of Christianity, we realize that it is Jesus Christ in His Eucharistic presence that bestows on us the graces of eternal life.

With eternal life as our goal, the Mass should interest us greatly, really above all else.

My own spiritual discipline involves turning away from a lot of things, immediately, to what is always more important. There is hardly a TV program that I will not walk away from, to do something that is more important, especially if that other thing has an eternal component to it.

I can view a nice shiny car on TV yet immediately pray, “yes, Lord, that is nice, but what I really need is You.” Obviously I can turn many TV moments to prayer. I try to live my whole life this way.
 
Deuteronomy 5:12 **Observe the day of the sabbath, to sanctify it, as the Lord thy God hath commanded thee. **

What YOU get out of it is obeying God’s commandment. That’s a start
This 🙂

Only remember to say it in a spirit of Charity.

Some parishes are better than others, and some people are better suited to different parishes; so to a certain extent she might want to “shop around” a bit. But the important thing is that God commanded it, and we hear weekly mass out of respect for him. Even if we don’t like the music or the homily or the building (and I’m sure many of the people here can relate to that!), the important thing is that we worship God there and, if in a state of Grace, eat his body and drink his blood as he commanded, even if we dislike the “other stuff”.
 
I believe the only response to a statement like that is a clarification: We got to mass to WORSHIP God. You give, that’s it. Getting something from it is not why you go, and if it is, stop wasting your time and go to a movie. You’ll get something out of that. (My opinion only, feel free to think it’s too harsh if you’d like).
I agree with Sarah here; we go to Mass to Worship the Lord and give Him Thanks and Praise, if anyone of us are going to “get something out of it” you have indeed wasted your time. Period. Give to the Lord all of you, every part of you, totally unselfishly and you will most definitely “GET” something back…HIS LOVE and HIS GRACE!!!
 
WHY SHOULD WE GO TO MASS?

When we go to church we tell the world around us who we are and what we represent. Simply by going to church makes us all evangelists to our family, friends, neighbors and the community in which we live. Jesus says very clear in his Gospels that anyone who stands up for Him before the world, He will stand up for us before God the Father (Mt.10:32). In the light of our life in eternity, what more could anyone ask, for so little effort on our part.

Attendance at church is not just simply joining in a social or community action taking place in a certain type of building. We are actually and formally worshiping God in a community setting. At this time we can thank Him for His many graces and favors to us over the past week . Most of all, though, we can acknowledge our absolute dependence on Him. It is only by His grace and mercy that we get to draw our next breath.

At church, God is able to communicate to us in a way which we may not find anywhere else. Through the prayers of the Mass/service itself, the scripture readings that change each day, and the homilies/sermons on Sundays (and other days of the week), God is able to help, encourage and instruct us in a unique and personal way. Many times one will have come away from Mass/service with a particular thought or phrase going through one’s mind, which usually and not surprisingly applies to something that is going on in one’s life at that time. We may find answers through our communications with God at Mass.

For Catholics, unless we are ill, aged or shut-in, attending Mass is the only time when we have the opportunity to go forward and receive from the hands of the celebrating Priest (or if at home, by an Extra Ordinary Eucharistic Minister), the actual body and blood of Jesus Christ. This is not simply a memorial of the Last Supper. The wafer we receive is not a rite of remembrance but the most real Body and Blood of Jesus… Once again, Jesus said very clearly in the Gospel of John: “Unless you eat the flesh of the Son of Man and drink his blood, you do not have life within you… My flesh is true food and My blood is true drink. Whoever eats my flesh and drinks my blood remains in Me and I in him… who feeds on me will have life because of Me.” (Jn.6:53,55-57). Mass, for most of us, is the only time we can go forward and take the food which will give us the life that Jesus talks about in the above quotation from the Gospel of John.

Over the years of my life many Christians have told me that they can worship God just as well while strolling in the woods, or seated in some quiet place at home or elsewhere. This may be true enough in its way, but when you ask them when was the last time they strolled in the woods for an hour worshipping God, the chances are there would be no answer.

The word of God, when it is preached, presents to us the truth that the Lord wants us to know. We need to hear the word of God presented to us, analyzed, and applied to our lives so that we can live better, accomplish what God desires for us, and can bring glory and honor to Him.

The other very good reason mentioned above for going to church is to experience friendship with other Christians. We need friends in order to be well balanced and healthy. Also, in church we discover opportunities to serve and be served. Therefore, we learn to apply what is taught out of God’s word and then we learn to extend it to others outside the church.

Also, in church we share in the successes and failures of others and learn how the Lord has worked in the lives of other people. In this we are encouraged. Remember, God did not make us to be alone. We need the friendship of other believers.

So by going to church, you can have the word of God explained and learn how it can be applied to your life, see how God works in people’s lives, and experience the friendship of other Christians.

In closing, I would like to add that if you happen to be away from the practice of your faith, why not give it a try once more. Slip into a back pew on a Sunday or attend a weekday Mass, or service, somewhere, in the church of your choice. . If you live in a city of any size there is usually a Church somewhere in that city that offers a Mass or a service. Whatever the reason is that keeps you away, don’t let it stop you. Jesus is always welcoming and if you put yourself in His hands, He will find a way to bring you home.

I believe that a Christian church is God’s house on earth. What better way to be with God then to visit with Him in His own earthly home. For me this is the Catholic church. For others it may be a Protestant church - and if they are Christian churches, God will be there for each of us…

Remember, if we are serious about doing what God wants us to do in order to enter His Kingdom, then we should strongly consider going to church. How else can we do what God wants us to do if we don’t really know what it is that God wants us to do. The best way to know this is to (1) Read the Bible to see His words as presented to us by His Apostles - authors of the Gospels and (2) GO to church to hear His words, and have them explained, from the pulpit… How else will we know how God’s teachings apply to us if we won’t make ourselves available to hear them? We must know what God’s teachings are for us. Living a good life does not necessarily mean that we are following the teachings given to us by our Lord Jesus. We need to develop a personal relationship with Jesus. We need to take His words to heart.

I found this inscription on an entrance door of the Naval Amphibious Base Catholic Chapel - something to think about::

“Whenever I pass a church
I always pay a visit.
So that when I am “carried” in,
The Lord won’t say, “who is it?”

Something to think about!
 
Besides, receiving our Lord (when we are in a state of grace), because the Pope, who is the steward/caretaker of our souls on earth, according to Jesus Christ, and was given the ability to “bind and loose” by Him, says to go every Sunday even if we’d rather do something else.
 
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