My son will be distressed no matter how good your damage control is (he is a high functioning autistic child), so I guess that it is a little different for us.
Oh, I am not saying that that damage control will or can totally neutralize the effects. I don’t believe that it can. It can only work to mitigate them to the extent possible in the situation. There are many factors at work—the age of the child, the sensitivity of the child, the situation in which the exposure occurs, etc.
Vern is basically in the camp of saying that these giant color photos of bloody dismembered corpses of babies will have no effect whatsoever on any child outside of the way in which the parents react. I agree that that is totally inaccurate. Qutie young children are perfectly capable of knowing independent of their parents’ reactions that someone has done something really bad to that baby.
I have a friend with a child with Asperger’s, one with a child with a diagnosed anxiety disorder and worked for many years with children and adults with developmental disabilities, including autism. I have some understanding of where you are coming from (though I don’t have the 24/7 experience).
Our society deems it inappropriate to show visuals that the majority of people would agree are intentionally horrific to
any young child without the permission of that child’s parents, however, including those with developmental disabilities and rightly so. I know for both me and my child, visuals have a
much greater impact than words, precisely the reason vern wants to use them and precisely the reason that reasonable levels of care and discrimination should be exercised when using them as to the likely audience.
That is why I have told him over and over that if he deems it appropriate to show to his 3 year old, go right ahead, but don’t presume to make that decision for me and my child.
But not only that, I object to the “blame game” (its the parents fault) that goes on.
I agree.