Well, first off, let’s start with your Hispanic friend. My brother lived at home until he was in the neighborhood of 30, and he wasn’t sponging off of my parents. He lived there as an adult and contributed as an adult, just as my MIL lived with us after she sold her house. It’s called interdependency, and families who practice it are scandalized by the idea that you’d need or want to kick an 18 year old out of your house. One of my brothers did that, too, but as you imply, he had an 18 year old dependent who was neither continuing his education nor getting a job. I don’t know about Hispanics or anyone else, but taking a break for working was permitted for about 2 weeks in our family. At that point, Dad would find something that needed doing to keep you busy! Other than occasional vacations that everyone would get, from the time you are tall enough to get forks onto the table until you’re too old to clear dishes off of it, you’re expected to make yourself useful! It’s a matter of personal dignity as much as it is a matter of fairness to everyone else.
Those are the twin considerations that I think balance out how healthy interdependence differs from an unhealthy (and unsustainable) dependence. The practical problem in our times is this: For independence to work, you have to have knowledge of yourself and each other, care for yourself and each other, and honesty with yourself and each other. When a society gets very large and connections are less obvious, the percentage of people who don’t know each other, don’t care about each other, and who are willing to lie to each other and themselves gets higher and higher. The misconceptions go up, the shared values upon which agreements about how much interdependence is appropriate–how much contribution and what kind does a person with self-respect expect of himself, herself, and others?–go down.
We live in a pluralistic society. Everyone wants to answer those questions in their own way. That’s all find, but it is not an easy situation in which to find a just and charitable way for everyone to live together and care for each other.
But like I was saying earlier, we have people out of work for many reasons, including a bad economy… But I have a solution, it’s called the Dual or Split economy. It involves a dual monetary system.
The Dual economy, begins with donations and no federal money. First you create a monetary system –we’ll call it the AMERO. Once we set up exchange centers where the Dollar and the Amero can be exchanged we buy say an oil field as an example, with donated money. Everyone who works at the oil field gets paid in Amero’s where they can exchange them for dollars if they choose at the center located next to the field. Then we buy gas stations but only sell gas for Amero’s which will be transferrable with the dollar from inside the station.
The process goes on and on, and all the employees from clerk to operator to management to accounting will be paid in Amero’s. There will be no background checks, except for experience and everyone will be invited to work and get paid for every hour they put in, even the homeless. Everyone will make close to the same wages, and like a co-op, all the profits get divided up into the hands of the workers from top to bottom, bottom to top. There will be a set percentage of money that comes out of each check (like dues) put into swiss bank accounts for expansion purposes, overhead, health insurance, etc.
To work, one must be an American Citizen with a social security card. No passports, no visas.
When working, one must cancel all government aid such as food stamps, etc.
Once established, all corporate taxes must be cut dramatically across the board in the US.
Eventually, the only ones on welfare would be the handicapped and mentally ill.
It’s privatized/patriotic socialism working in tandem with government sponsored/globalized capitalism. Two systems under one roof… This way, we have choices. We can shoot for the stars, or we can work together.
But the best thing about it all -is that when people learn to work together, the morality of our nation would increase. …And along with more conservative laws put in place on the media, we would be a better “tribe”.