Benhur. You said
in post 1044:
Mary and Joseph WERE MARRIED.
The angel doesn’t say “to take Mary for his wife”.
The angel said to
take Mary, your wife . . . meaning taking Mary your wife into your home.
The Marriage was two-stage but the actual marriage was the first stage.
That is called “
betrothal” or “
kiddushin”.
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- Old Covenant kiddushin = betrothal = Married (and to break this would require a “divorce”)
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After Kiddushin
After kiddushin occurs, then the bride goes and “prepares a place for you”, I mean “His wife”.
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- Kiddushin (Betrothal) = The Marriage Liturgy
- Nisuin = The Ceremony of the Groom Taking His Bride Into His Home
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Then the groom comes back after He prepares a place for His bride and brings His BRIDE (notice she is His “bride”) into His home.
Jesus (the Bridegroom) uses this SAME nuptial language with His Bride (the Church) too.
JOHN 14:1-3 1 "Let not your hearts be troubled; believe in God, believe also in me. 2 In my Father’s house are many rooms; if it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you? 3 And
when I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and will take you to myself, that where I am you may be also.
See Ephesians 5 to see how St. Paul just matter of factly inter-mixes the two marriage paradigms (a man and wife and Jesus and the Church—His bridegroom).
Jesus (the Bridegroom) uses this nuptial language with His Bride (the Church).
Then after preparing a place for his bride, Jesus, I mean, “the groom” comes back and fetches his bride and takes her to His home (this is accompanied by a liturgy too and is called “nisuin”).
Yes this “completes” the marriage, but the marriage is still fully a “marriage” even after kiddushin or “betrothal”.
For you and I, when we are married, we are . . . well . . . “married.” But then when we take our bride into our home and consummate the marriage, this “completes” the marriage for us in a sense too.
But
we are really married to our wives (or husbands as the case may be) right after (during) the wedding ceremony. Even before the bride is “taken into the home”.
Jews still do it this way today too, but kiddushin and nisuin are on the same day now as in our age the husbands usually have a place prepared for their brides. In days past, nisuin may have been soon, or it may have been several months.
St. Joseph and the Blessed Virgin Mary had completed kiddushin.
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St. Joseph and the Blessed Virgin Mary were already “married”. **
St. Joseph and the Blessed Virgin Mary were “betrothed”. This IS being married. The initial stage but “married” never the less.
Let’s go to the Jewish website, Judaism 101 and “Frequently Asked Questions” (
here) for more details.
As Judasism 101 states:
Heaven knew that. That is WHY the Angel refers to Mary as St. Joseph’s “WIFE”.
MATTHEW 1:18-20 18 Now the birth of Jesus Christ took place in this way.
When his mother Mary had been betrothed to Joseph,
before they came together she was found to be with child of the Holy Spirit; 19 and her husband Joseph, being a just man and unwilling to put her to shame, resolved to send her away. 20 But as he considered this, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream, saying, "Joseph, son of David, do not fear to take Mary
your wife, for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Spirit;
Mary was never an “unwed mother” (see
here by by the late Mary J. Giovanoni for more details on the pernicious poisoning effects of that viewpoint).
The fact that Mary was ALREADY married to St. Joseph when the angel came to Her in Luke 1, makes it even MORE
obvious that Mary’s response to the angel can only be that of a
Consecrated Virgin (who is married—as Numbers 30 lays out).