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:clapping: :clapping: :clapping:I see a parallel to something so stick with me here (and please don’t get any wrong impressions).
When my 73 year old mother was a child, she was disciplined with a “cane”. There was structure - everyone had chores and ate at least one meal together. Very harsh, but she survived and turned out to be a wonderful person (and no, I don’t advocate caning children).
When she raised us kids 45-50 years ago, it was open hand discipline and ditto on the structure - everyone worked and ate together. We turned out fine, and once again I don’t advocate hitting children.
Some 25 years ago, when my sister raised her daughter, she wanted to be her friend. Dinner was in the living room, everyone eating at different times, and in front of the TV. Oh, and they all ate something different. The child didn’t have to do anything she didn’t want to do because “she was her own person”. (Uh-hmm - no comment)
Today, I see many parents learning to use techniques such as those taught by the famous “Nannies” of Nanny-911 and SuperNanny with great effectiveness. What are they teaching? Discipline and structure and they are doing it with outstanding results without caning or hitting.
Now my point…
The Catholic Church has gone through all of these stages. As I listen to mom talk about how she was petrified of the priests in her day, thinking she was going to hell no matter what (and I know they didn’t do this intentionally), I see the parallel to things in her day.
In the last 30 years, I feel that the Catholic Church in developed countries has treated us, the children, like friends, rather than as children who needed to develop a sense of discipline and structure. Not only was there no longer talk of sin and hell, but God was all loving and no matter what you did, or neglected to do, you were going to heaven and that’s all there is to it. My CCD training was this way in the 70’s. “God is love” and “love is God” to which I said, “but Sister, what does pride mean or lust, or gluttony?” And, sister would say, “Now don’t you fret about any of that because God is Love”. (not exact words by the way, but representative of how shallow catechesis became).
Now, in walks Benedict, the Big-Nanny. He is going to do to our Catholic Church what the Nannies have done for a few lucky families on TV. However, in time it will spread. What is now unfashionable, will become fashionable. Discipline and Structure were abhored in the 70’s and even the 80’s. Now, they are slowly making a comback. It will be the same with the Church. He is going to make the course correction as sure as I am typing this response and he will do it with Love and Compassion, not a cane or an open hand (to the disappointment of some, unfortunately).
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