Why???

[lukefan]

My most important job in this world is raising my kids! Since my kids are older I work outside of the home as a nurse but until my kids are moved out of the house, my primary job is being a Mom!

 

[pumpkinbeast]

Thank you all for your advice! You really got my boyfriend and I thinking!

We’ve decided that, if our financial state allows us, one more year of university for me won’t stop us from getting married(But not before third year is done!!). It’ll be tricky, since we would have to live apart for two 3-month periods (fall and then winter terms) but we could handle it… As husband and wife, one of us could always stay with the other for a weekend, something which is tricky for us to arrange right now, being unmarried. We couldn’t transfer, as my university is absolutely perfect for me, and it doesn’t offer an engineering program.

In the end, the ring has to be bought by him, so the final decision will be made by him. He’s got a good head on his shoulders, and I definately trust him to prayerfully make the right choice.

After marriage and graduation, I will move with him to whever he can get a job, and then see what I can find in the area… I’m going to see if I can get job/career advice from my professors once I’m not just another face in 200 other students in an intro bio course! (Our university is small, but big enough…) If all else fails, I will devote all my time to pro-life work, another passion of mine. No matter what happens, I’ll be involved in that ministry, but if I have no job and no kids, it’ll be my life. ^^ If kids come along, God willing, I will homeschool them.

Please keep us in your prayers! With God’s help, it is totally within our reach to live a chaste relationship, and I cannot believe otherwise.
Thanks again!!!

 

[leonie]

sounds to me like you have it together. I always get bashed for saying this, but my B.S. was a waste of time. (at least so far). I would have been better off working during that time… If I could to do it over, I’d get a two year medical tech degree and worked until we had children. I think living independently would have been better for me than living on campus taking a degree. But, everyone’s situation is different.

I think I got my degree as much for vanity as anything.

Your whole life, there will be people telling you the “correct” way to live. Don’t marry young. Don’t be a SAHM. Don’t be open to a large family. Don’t sacrifice. Don’t be ethical. Don’t rear your children this way or that way. Don’t move. Or, don’t sacrifice to live near family. Don’t breastfeed. Do breastfeed. It’s endless.

You have to develop strength to stand against the tide! And, you have to know whose advice you can really trust. It sounds like you are off to a good start.

God bless you.

 

[BLB_Oregon]

sounds to me like you have it together. I always get bashed for saying this, but my B.S. was a waste of time. (at least so far). I would have been better off working during that time… If I could to do it over, I’d get a two year medical tech degree and worked until we had children. I think living independently would have been better for me than living on campus taking a degree. But, everyone’s situation is different.

I think I got my degree as much for vanity as anything.

Your whole life, there will be people telling you the “correct” way to live. Don’t marry young. Don’t be a SAHM. Don’t be open to a large family. Don’t sacrifice. Don’t be ethical. Don’t rear your children this way or that way. Don’t move. Or, don’t sacrifice to live near family. Don’t breastfeed. Do breastfeed. It’s endless.

You have to develop strength to stand against the tide! And, you have to know whose advice you can really trust. It sounds like you are off to a good start.

God bless you.

Yes. I’m a big believer in all kids preparing to go to college, so they will be ready, should they want to make that choice when the time comes. I don’t think college is right for everyone, particularly not straight out of high school. Some adults are not fitted to learning in the way that colleges teach…and learning by lecture has been shown to be one of the poorest ways to pass on information ever invented. Some learn far better by just going out and doing it, and that is all there is to it. Some profit by having had a job before deciding on a major, too.

Why people believe so strongly in individual learning styles at the grade school level and yet still believe that everyone needs a college classroom to be intellectually finished is beyond me…and I was a “professional student”, if ever there was one.

You are right about the vanity thing, too. There is a lack of respect for those with non-college educations that is hard to ignore. My FIL had to write in “high school” for his educational level all through his career. Even as talented and respected as he was, it always irked him.

 

[pumpkinbeast]

Yes. I’m a big believer in all kids preparing to go to college, so they will be ready, should they want to make that choice when the time comes. I don’t think college is right for everyone, particularly not straight out of high school. Some adults are not fitted to learning in the way that colleges teach…and learning by lecture has been shown to be one of the poorest ways to pass on information ever invented. Some learn far better by just going out and doing it, and that is all there is to it. Some profit by having had a job before deciding on a major, too.

Why people believe so strongly in individual learning styles at the grade school level and yet still believe that everyone needs a college classroom to be intellectually finished is beyond me…and I was a “professional student”, if ever there was one.

You are right about the vanity thing, too. There is a lack of respect for those with non-college educations that is hard to ignore. My FIL had to write in “high school” for his educational level all through his career. Even as talented and respected as he was, it always irked him.

Very true, on the lack of respect… But I love the way we learn in university! It covers all learning styles, at least in the sciences. If you read the textbook before the lecture, you get the visual. You hear the lectures, and some times see slides, that’s both auditory and visual. And the lab sessions give you hands-on work… the lectures alone might be a bad way to learn, but add in the other aspects, and it’s great! It certainly isn’t for everyone, but it’s still a good place to learn, if you decide to go.