I took care of a woman many years ago who had dementia. She had troubles eating, when she’d eat, she’d say “I can’t eat, if I get fat he will hate me” “oh no, no food, I’m getting fat” and more. These things were said in a panic stricken voice. This woman weighed 80 pounds and was 5’6" tall. She was little more than skin and bones. He husband took her home every weekend, and then when she’d get back on Sunday she was even more anxious about eating and weight. This woman was in her 70’s.
Then unexpectedly her husband died, and with there being no more visits, she gradually became less panic stricken about food. When I left the facility, she was at about 130 pounds and we discovered that she was a beautiful woman and quite pleasant to be around because she was much more relaxed. When she weighed 80 or 90 pounds, you couldn’t see the beauty.
This woman had been told for 50 years that if she gained weight her husband would leave her. Their children told us of how important it was for the husband that she stay very slender, and how it really ruined their mothers enjoyment of anything to do with food, birthdays, holidays etc.
Isn’t it a shame that she had to be 70+ years old and in the middle of Alzheimer’s before she could enjoy a meal and look pretty and healthy?
I don’t think any man has the right to demand that someone stay thin and make it a requirement of their marriage. While I don’t think it’s good to be 150 pounds overweight, some women carry extra pounds with ease and really have no health issues with it. And we have to take into the picture the woman’s age and that we usually weigh more as we get older.
This man who finds it so easy to stay in shape doesn’t realize that it IS MUCH easier for men to lose weight and easier for them to stay in shape. Add a few pregnancies to the mix and yes,women tend to gain weight much more easily and it’s more difficult to get it off.
Not necessarily. But anyway, I never said that no man is ever attracted to, or willing to sleep with, a woman over 40! Unlike animals, human connections play into our attraction to one another.
