that’s a bit harsh. I kept small children in my home for years so that I could stay at home with mine. People were grateful that I took them to morning Mass, that I treated them as my own. I was a good babysitter. You needn’t fear Catholic sitters.
Are you saying that you are only a part time dad? Because having a full time job means you are not at home much. How many hours a week do you spend with the kids?
Provided this isn’t a troll thread, though I’m pretty sure it is, there’s your solution. Speak with the wife and see if she’s cool with waiting to go back to work until kids are in pre-k or kindergarten and then work while they’re at school.
Or plenty of time to catch a night shift at a hospital the night before and then get some sleep once the kids are off to school the next morning. She could even start back to work before the youngest is in pre-k by working on a weekend or a 4 hour evening or night shift during the week. I did that for many years and we didn’t have to use outside childcare. I even managed to homeschool while I worked such shifts. Healthcare provides much more flexibility than a usual office job.
And it’s in crazy high demand. Your schedule doesn’t sound like you had much time for sleep though!
Weekend night shifts mostly. Go in on Friday and Saturday at 11pm, back in cozy bed by 8:30 on Saturday and Sunday mornings. Went to a lot of Saturday 5pm and Sunday evening Masses during those years. Other times it was a Saturday evening from 3p-11p and one or two 7p-11p shifts during the week.
HEAR HEAR!
:clapping:Thanks for the laugh! You do realize that to get her degree and keep her nursing license she would have had to have experienced the long exhausting hours as a nurse, right? She knows exactly what she wants and who are you to tell her to do otherwise? You know, she can always quit a job - except, as it seems, being a 24/7 nursemaid to the children. Also, remember that the marriage covenant is about the good of the spouses and that there is mutual submission. Having the husband dictate how life must be run is not part of that equation since she is his equal and not a child or a slave. Yes, they had an initial agreement, but like most things that are neutral in themselves and do not involve morals, it can and perhaps in this case should change. Being a provider also means loving support of the true needs of the spouse. Just because working might not fit the “traditional” marriage pattern doesn’t mean it isn’t valid. Again, look at Proverbs 31. Only the very wealthy traditionally had the luxury of keeping their wives at home doing nothing but paying social calls. Our “traditional” stay at home mom model is not really traditional in history. Most women had to work their tails off as laundry women, farmers, maids, and in other jobs to feed the family. It’s not wrong for a woman to work and it’s certainly not right for a husband to insist that the woman limit her society to their offspring because of mere pride. If she needs to get out of the house to keep sane, then it is a no brainer for a loving husband to support. It’s not as if she’s leaving the house 24/7 and vacating her responsibilities.
I hope you never go to a doctor or hospital, lest you fuel the “demon slave snare”
Did you ever think that maybe they’re complex individuals with their own feelings, desires, and interests? You know… human? Just a thought.
Do you mean moms or women in general?
I absolutely, totally agree. Why, if I had the choice, I’d never work a day in my life!
Couldn’t agree more. You have to accept that people change over time.
He said he didn’t understand why any woman would want to work outside the home. He then goes on to reference his mother as an example of someone that apparently enjoyed it. So by his logic all women should have this inborn need to be the Leave It To Beaver mom.