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My boyfriend and I have been dealing with problems regarding Masturbation for some time now and we’ve promised God we would quit several times and have for periods of time but eventually give in and done it again.
I made a promise to God that I’d sacrifice for a week, I know that may not seem like a big sacrifice to some, but it’s what I promised. I lasted for 4 days, I didn’t really masturbate but did something a bit perverted (not fornication I’m a virgin), nor sexually contact with another, if you want to know I’ll message it to you, I’d rather not say publicly here in case it offends some.
Anyway, I didnt fully masturbate and I felt bad over that but tonight I did it fully and now I’m wondering if I’m going to be punished. I asked for forgiveness but I keep getting thoughts like God is going to punish me badly and I get thoughts of losing people I love and of people I love hurting me, etc.
I’m not really sure what the logic is regarding this.
Thanks for taking the time to read this and I’m sorry if I’ve offended anyone by being blunt.
I’m not a Catholic either so I can’t go to confession, if anyone recommends that.

Thanks
 
Believe it or not you might be able to go to confession (see the CCC exerpt below). You would have to call a priest though and see if he would consider this grave necessity, which in the case of mortal sin may qualify. Doing this will be very intimidating if you have never confessed. But if you can, it’s anonymous and you’ll feel much better. I would encourage you to be brave and try it.

“When, in the Ordinary’s judgment, a grave necessity arises, Catholic ministers may give the sacraments of Eucharist, Penance, and Anointing of the Sick to other Christians not in full communion with the Catholic Church, who ask for them of their own will, provided they give evidence of holding the Catholic faith regarding these sacraments and possess the required dispositions.” (CCC 1401)

Masturbation is a sin. A sin that many people suffer from and have to deal with. You are not alone. Keep praying for God to help you overcome this. Repetative sin is like slavery. You have become a slave by the evil ones false promises. This is very likely why you feel trapped and lost.

Have you considered being Catholic? The Church has everything you need to patch up the wounds on your soul and send you back out into battle against evil.
 
Hi Convert,
thank you so much for responding.
Yes I’ve considered becoming Catholic. My boyfriend is a Catholic, but my family isnt so in order for me to convert I’d have to wait til my boyfriend and I are out on our own together or else do so in private.

I agree with you that we’ve become enslaved.
There was a time when I use to be really dedicated to us stopping and I feel like I’m getting to that point again but to be honest I gave up and felt like I didnt really care, or like there was no use in trying because we wouldnt do it.
I shouldnt say I didnt care because I’ve always cared.
I tempt my boyfriend a lot and thats usually where it springs from.
I feel sometimes as if i’m like the females in the bible that men warned their sons to stay away from.

I really do want us to stop, and to become pure and give ourselves to each other in marriage, and so does he.

I’m just worried now that I’m going to be punished because of my sin. I could’ve stopped easily but selfishly chose to continue.
Thank you for your time. I’m still a bit unsure.
 
Our Heavenly Father is ready willing and able to forgive you.Scripture tells us:We have an Advocate with the Father,He throws our sins in a sea of forgetfullness and will remember them no more.Remember,a saint is someone who falls,and gets back up.Will be praying for you.We all have things we need to overcome.Peace,Rocky.
 
wardrandolph said:
Our Heavenly Father is ready willing and able to forgive you.Scripture tells us:We have an Advocate with the Father,He throws our sins in a sea of forgetfullness and will remember them no more.Remember,a saint is someone who falls,and gets back up.Will be praying for you.We all have things we need to overcome.Peace,Rocky.
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Your post was really helpful as well. Thanks so much. Have a lovely day. Happy New Year
 
Not to freighten you or anything. Your soul and what God is calling you to do is wayyyy more important than pleasing your family. I know this sounds strange. But God is first, everyone else is second.

Heaven forbid you die having not taken the steps toward becoming Catholic. The state of your soul needs to be in good order.

There is no time like now. Call the Church get into RCIA. If you feel you have to do this in private, do so.

Lastly I find that the best way to keep from sinning is to avoid situations that can lead yourself into sin. Avoiding sin is much easier than trying to fight it head on. The “sneaky serpant” is the most cleaver of all creatures. He is very convincing. He will promise you all of the pleasures you desire and leave you face flat in sin. He will leave you for dead.

Father Corapi told a story about how he was in Hollywood and found a 14 year old girl dead in a garbage can. She was addicted to drugs and a prostitute. He went on to say that he realized that is how Satan loves and cares for our children, this is what Satan wants. He wants God’s children to be dead in a dumpster. This is the same Satan that tempts us all.

A finaly suggestion. Pray the rosary. There are how-to articles online if you can find a rosary. If you can’t there are pamplets and rosarys cheap at any local Catholic store. You don’t have to be Catholic to pray the rosary. The rosary is a very effective weapon in the war between good and evil. Pray this with your boyfriend. Especially when you are tempted by each other. You should pray the hardest in times when it seems like you can’t pray at all.
 
06convert said:
Not to freighten you or anything. Your soul and what God is calling you to do is wayyyy more important than pleasing your family. I know this sounds strange. But God is first, everyone else is second.

Heaven forbid you die having not taken the steps toward becoming Catholic. The state of your soul needs to be in good order.

There is no time like now. Call the Church get into RCIA. If you feel you have to do this in private, do so.

Lastly I find that the best way to keep from sinning is to avoid situations that can lead yourself into sin. Avoiding sin is much easier than trying to fight it head on. The “sneaky serpant” is the most cleaver of all creatures. He is very convincing. He will promise you all of the pleasures you desire and leave you face flat in sin. He will leave you for dead.

Father Corapi told a story about how he was in Hollywood and found a 14 year old girl dead in a garbage can. She was addicted to drugs and a prostitute. He went on to say that he realized that is how Satan loves and cares for our children, this is what Satan wants. He wants God’s children to be dead in a dumpster. This is the same Satan that tempts us all.

A finaly suggestion. Pray the rosary. There are how-to articles online if you can find a rosary. If you can’t there are pamplets and rosarys cheap at any local Catholic store. You don’t have to be Catholic to pray the rosary. The rosary is a very effective weapon in the war between good and evil. Pray this with your boyfriend. Especially when you are tempted by each other. You should pray the hardest in times when it seems like you can’t pray at all.
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This is excellent advice. 👍
 
CinnamonPetal said:
My boyfriend and I have been dealing with problems regarding Masturbation for some time now and we’ve promised God we would quit several times and have for periods of time but eventually give in and done it again.
I made a promise to God that I’d sacrifice for a week, I know that may not seem like a big sacrifice to some, but it’s what I promised. I lasted for 4 days, I didn’t really masturbate but did something a bit perverted (not fornication I’m a virgin), nor sexually contact with another, if you want to know I’ll message it to you, I’d rather not say publicly here in case it offends some.
Anyway, I didnt fully masturbate and I felt bad over that but tonight I did it fully and now I’m wondering if I’m going to be punished. I asked for forgiveness but I keep getting thoughts like God is going to punish me badly and I get thoughts of losing people I love and of people I love hurting me, etc.
I’m not really sure what the logic is regarding this.
Thanks for taking the time to read this and I’m sorry if I’ve offended anyone by being blunt.
I’m not a Catholic either so I can’t go to confession, if anyone recommends that.

Thanks
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You might not be Catholic, but by reading your post I can see that you have a very well developed conscience. Yes, these are sinful acts of impurity but you are right in the same boat as the rest of us. We all struggle to follow God’s law. I have spent the vast majority of my adult life in persistent sexual sin. The only things I have never been guilty of is rape or homosexuality. Yet, in recent years, since I have started attending regular confession, my evil inclinations are rapidly fading.

God isn’t up there waiting to pounce on us whenever we sin. He simply doesn’t work that way. His mercy is far beyond anything we can comprehend.

For the time being, simply do the best you can to live in purity. This might mean avoiding being in the car alone together (at night anyway). If he isn’t okay with your efforts to live according to God’s laws, then you should consider ending the relationship.

Start visiting Catholic churches and talk to a couple of different priests about the faith. You would make a fantastic catholic. This really is the only church that can trace it’s roots all the way back to the apostles and Christ himself.

IMMEDIATELY stop worrying! You are a normal and healthy young woman with normal and healthy desires. You just need to start channeling them in the appropriate direction! The Church doesn’t exist to ruin your fun. Yea, we are only on this earth for a short while, but the Church is here to help you get to Heaven so you can be happy with God for all time and eternity.

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Avoid all occasions of sin. If that means that you are never alone with your boyfriend, then never be alone. If texting causes you to sin, throw away your cell phone. If being alone in your bedroom causes you to sin, then, leave your bedroom door OPEN all night long. Avoid movies, music or websites that lead you to impure thoughts.
 
CinnamonPetal said:
My boyfriend and I have been dealing with problems regarding Masturbation for some time now and we’ve promised God we would quit several times and have for periods of time but eventually give in and done it again.
I made a promise to God that I’d sacrifice for a week, I know that may not seem like a big sacrifice to some, but it’s what I promised. I lasted for 4 days, I didn’t really masturbate but did something a bit perverted (not fornication I’m a virgin), nor sexually contact with another, if you want to know I’ll message it to you, I’d rather not say publicly here in case it offends some.
Anyway, I didnt fully masturbate and I felt bad over that but tonight I did it fully and now I’m wondering if I’m going to be punished. I asked for forgiveness but I keep getting thoughts like God is going to punish me badly and I get thoughts of losing people I love and of people I love hurting me, etc.
I’m not really sure what the logic is regarding this.
Thanks for taking the time to read this and I’m sorry if I’ve offended anyone by being blunt.
I’m not a Catholic either so I can’t go to confession, if anyone recommends that.

Thanks
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How old are you?
 
CinnamonPetal said:
I’m wondering if I’m going to be punished. I asked for forgiveness but I keep getting thoughts like God is going to punish me badly and I get thoughts of losing people I love and of people I love hurting me, etc.

Thanks
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those thoughts of losing a loved one are coming form the same one who tempts you into sin.it is his effort ot keep you down and feeling worthless…God is JUST,how is it just that some one is punished by your sinning?
 
CinnamonPetal said:
I agree with you that we’ve become enslaved.
There was a time when I use to be really dedicated to us stopping and I feel like I’m getting to that point again but to be honest I gave up and felt like I didnt really care, or like there was no use in trying because we wouldnt do it.
I shouldnt say I didnt care because I’ve always cared.
I tempt my boyfriend a lot and thats usually where it springs from.
I feel sometimes as if i’m like the females in the bible that men warned their sons to stay away from.

I really do want us to stop, and to become pure and give ourselves to each other in marriage, and so does he.

I’m just worried now that I’m going to be punished because of my sin. I could’ve stopped easily but selfishly chose to continue.
Thank you for your time. I’m still a bit unsure.
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why do you tempt your boyfriend?do you feel you are a disgrace in the eyes of God?if you do is this why you try and “prove” yourself to be a disgrace?..God loves you"not one sparrow falls to the ground without His knowing,you are worth so much more than a sparrow"
 
God is just and if you are truly sorry (which it sounds like you are) then He will forgive you even if you screw up again He will forgive you again because He tells us to forgive seventy times seven and He would never tell us to do something that He won’t do. This has already been said a few times but it is very important. Avoid ALL near occasions of sin and ANYTHING that makes you want to do this. It’s really annoying but it WILL be really hard and the only way to be able to do that is to PRAY!!!

I will keep you in my prayers.

JMJ+
~Betsy
 
God will **never **take one of your loved ones *just *to punish you, or *just *to offer you atoning suffering. NEVER. The suffering is only a “by-product” of the loss.

Do you understand Purgatory? It is an atonement after death, for those who are bound for Heaven, but not clean enough to go there yet. Their sins have been forgiven, but the marks are still on them.

It’s kind of like being a little kid who gets all muddy playing in the rain. He’s sorry, when he thinks about it, because he knows his parents won’t like it. He tells them so, and is forgiven - but he still needs to take a shower. That’s what purgatory does. It washes off all that mud.

We can do things and experience things that will do some of the cleaning for us. One of those experiences could be grieving for loved ones we lose.

But, as I said above, God will **never **take one of your loved ones just to punish you, or just to offer you atoning suffering. NEVER. The suffering is only a “by-product.”

God bless you,

Ruthie
 
I will be praying for you during my rosary. Avoid places that tempt you, like the other posters have suggested. It is absolutely vital that you do this - or you will succumb to the temptation again. You will not go to hell if this is what you may be thinking. You are sorry. Say a little prayer to yourself whenever the feeling comes over you. It will help you stop the thoughts dead in their tracks. That’s where it all begins. Satan is a tricky fella. Don’t let him win! We’re here to help you!
 
CinnamonPetal:

The Devil is a liar, and the lie is his weapon of choice.
He will tempt you to sin by offering you pleasures, and saying it doesn’t matter if you sin to get them.
Then, once you give in, he’ll throw it in your face that you’ve sinned, and tell you that you’re worthless - which is a lie, because God Himself died on the cross to save you. You are *that *precious to Him.

Also the Devil will lie to you about God. He’ll threaten you with disaster, saying that God is going to punish you, and there is no forgiveness.

It’s another lie. God is rich in mercy. God wants nothing more than to help you become holy and happy in this life, and to have you live in joy forever with Him in the next life.

When you have thoughts of losing loved ones, it’s the Devil lying to you. When you think you can’t overcome this problem, that you might as well give in because the temptations will never stop, it’s another lie from the father of lies.

God is rich in mercy. God wants you to be holy and happy in this life and live forever in joy in the next.

Others have given you excellent advice about what to do. I add only that God is with you. God wants you to be happy. It’s the evil one who tries to make you believe otherwise.

May the peace of Christ, the peace that is beyond our comprehension, fill your heart and your life, and that of your boyfriend also.
 
Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, Rejoice. Let all men know your forbearance. The Lord is at hand. Have no anxiety about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which passes all understanding, will keep your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is gracious, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. (Phil 4:4-8 RSV)

For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall understand fully, even as I have been fully understood. So faith, hope, love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love. (1 Cor 13:12-13 RSV)
 
CinnamonPetal said:
My boyfriend and I have been dealing with problems regarding Masturbation for some time now and we’ve promised God we would quit several times and have for periods of time but eventually give in and done it again.
I made a promise to God that I’d sacrifice for a week, I know that may not seem like a big sacrifice to some, but it’s what I promised. I lasted for 4 days, I didn’t really masturbate but did something a bit perverted (not fornication I’m a virgin), nor sexually contact with another, if you want to know I’ll message it to you, I’d rather not say publicly here in case it offends some.
Anyway, I didnt fully masturbate and I felt bad over that but tonight I did it fully and now I’m wondering if I’m going to be punished. I asked for forgiveness but I keep getting thoughts like God is going to punish me badly and I get thoughts of losing people I love and of people I love hurting me, etc.
I’m not really sure what the logic is regarding this.
Thanks for taking the time to read this and I’m sorry if I’ve offended anyone by being blunt.
I’m not a Catholic either so I can’t go to confession, if anyone recommends that.

Thanks
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If you keep woking on getting better, God will give you the grace to overcome the temptations. Also, as long as you keep trying, God will recognize that. Just keep praying and trying to do what’s right and God will be with you.

Your brother in Christ.
 
CinnamonPetal:

We will all be punished eventually, some in purgatory and some here and a combination.

But focus instead on your objective. If you don’t give up and keep praying and going to confession you will make gains. Sacrifices are excellent along with prayer and together will unseat the demon oppressing you. There is one powerful aid to this problem, and some have found dedication to the Rosary daily have brought on success.

Good luck.

Andy
 
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