Will porn addiction send to hell?

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Will an addiction to porn send a person to hell? What if they struggle with it and pray for forgiveness but keep going back? What if they are denied sexual intimacy by their mate? However, we all know even if their mate gave them all the sex they wanted they still would look at porn. Sin is that way.

Many of my Protestant friends would say you are still saved even if you’re addicted to porn, that the act of salvation will over that sin. I take comfort in that. However, I believe the Catholic faith teaches otherwise. This is frighting!! I don’t want to go to hell! And I don’t want anyone else to go to hell! This is not something that should be tossed aside to rethink another time. Any one of us can get killed at any instant. Then we have eternity to recon with.
 
Hi there,
I believe you’re going to find different opinions on this matter from different individuals, especially on this forum. However, I would relate you to this Catholic Answers “Ask and Apologist” answer. I think it will help. 🙂

The question is about culpability and addictive sins.

forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?t=17844
 
MainBrain said:
Will an addiction to porn send a person to hell? What if they struggle with it and pray for forgiveness but keep going back? What if they are denied sexual intimacy by their mate? However, we all know even if their mate gave them all the sex they wanted they still would look at porn. Sin is that way.

Many of my Protestant friends would say you are still saved even if you’re addicted to porn, that the act of salvation will over that sin. I take comfort in that. However, I believe the Catholic faith teaches otherwise. This is frighting!! I don’t want to go to hell! And I don’t want anyone else to go to hell! This is not something that should be tossed aside to rethink another time. Any one of us can get killed at any instant. Then we have eternity to recon with.
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You should talk to your priest. He is there to help you and there is nothing you can say to him that he has not heard many times before.
You should not take comfort in what a Protestant tells you about being saved as only the Catholic Church has the fullness of truth and many Protestant teachings are wrong.
 
The important thing is to never despair of salvation and keep on struggling and repenting for your sins. 🙂

Proverbs 24:16 For a righteous man may fall seven times and rise again, but the wicked shall fall by calamity.

A disciple came to a certain Elder, one day, and said, “Father, I have fallen!”

The Elder answered, “Get up!”

Again and again he came to the Elder and said, “I have fallen!”

And the Elder invariably answered, “Get up!”

“Until when must I continue getting up?” the disciple asked.

And the Elder answered, “Until the day when you give up your soul to God!”

Thus, every time when we feel that we have fallen, the Sacrament of Repentance tells us to get up.

Ezekiel 33:11 Say to them: ‘As I live,’ says the Lord God, 'I have no pleasure in the death of the wicked, but that the wicked turn from his way and live.

“Did you commit sin? Enter the Church, repent for your sin, for here is the physician, not the judge. Here one is not investigated; one receives remission of sins.” - St John Chrysostom
 
What sends someone to hell is by commiting sin knowing full well what they are doing is wrong and having full consent of the will when they do it…and being obstinately persistant in this state until death.

Are you working on fixing yourself?
Do you attempt to stop?
What are you doing to distance yourself from the sin (including throwing out your computer/tv etc etc)…this stuff tells you how serious you are in stopping.

You have an obligation to stop! It is hell-worthy because you know it’s wrong and are still practicing it…the only thing in question is how much of addiction you have v.s. how much control you have of your will…with this, you need to look at how you are distancing yourself from your sin and what you are activiley doing to stop it.

We know that nothing impure enters heaven…if you do not stop your addiction in this life, yet you were persistant in attempting to quit…you may at least get a spot in purgatory to purge your connection with this sin…if Christ the judge recognizes your willingness to truly put an end to this sin.
 
MainBrain said:
Will an addiction to porn send a person to hell? What if they struggle with it and pray for forgiveness but keep going back? What if they are denied sexual intimacy by their mate? However, we all know even if their mate gave them all the sex they wanted they still would look at porn. Sin is that way.

Many of my Protestant friends would say you are still saved even if you’re addicted to porn, that the act of salvation will over that sin. I take comfort in that. However, I believe the Catholic faith teaches otherwise. This is frighting!! I don’t want to go to hell! And I don’t want anyone else to go to hell! This is not something that should be tossed aside to rethink another time. Any one of us can get killed at any instant. Then we have eternity to recon with.
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Just because your partner doesn’t want to have sex isn’t a valid reason. If you struggle with it and try to stop then God may give mercy. You didn’t get addicted to over night and God know that yip will take a while to get off of it so as long as you keep trying to stop you won’t go to hell as far as I know. However if you go to porn sites and don’t repent it is basically a one way ticket to hell
 
MainBrain said:
Will an addiction to porn send a person to hell? What if they struggle with it and pray for forgiveness but keep going back? What if they are denied sexual intimacy by their mate? However, we all know even if their mate gave them all the sex they wanted they still would look at porn. Sin is that way.

Many of my Protestant friends would say you are still saved even if you’re addicted to porn, that the act of salvation will over that sin. I take comfort in that. However, I believe the Catholic faith teaches otherwise. This is frighting!! I don’t want to go to hell! And I don’t want anyone else to go to hell! This is not something that should be tossed aside to rethink another time. Any one of us can get killed at any instant. Then we have eternity to recon with.
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Addictions psychologytoday.com/basics/addiction . As the definition says, from the clinical and secular point of view

(emphasis mine)

“Addiction is a condition that results when a person engages in an activity that can be pleasurable but the continued use of which becomes compulsive and interferes with ordinary life responsibilities, such as work or relationships, or health.”

In the case of sin then, from the theological pov, it seems clear, avoid sin as passionately as one persued sin. And know one can’t do that alone. It requires lots of grace. Attend daily mass. Receive the sacraments, pray constantly for God’s help to rid us of sin. We DO something about our conditions then, not just have the desire to change. We persue activity that will change us for the good, as passionately as one might have persued sin. That way bad activity one is in now, can be replaced immediately with good activity. And hopefully a passion develops to continue in good activity replacing the bad activities…
 
I would have to say that those caught in the struggle of sin, and are trying to free themselves; being repentant and genuinely trying to abstain and understand that it is wrong are reaching a greater aspect of salvation.

Corinthians help define this problem that many are held in bondage yet want and desire freedom. It is no that I say one should just accept that state, but firmly address the issue with a sincere heart that is seeking freedom. Praying for deliverance from the bondage of that state.

Addictions are terrible, and really undermine a persons life and spirit. If you genuinely desire freedom you will obtain it.

Let not anything master a man, but lord JESUS CHRIST is the master whom died for our sins because he loved the heavenly father and us, and is the way, the truth and the life.

Praise be to GOD the heavenly father and his son lord JESUS CHRIST forever>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
 
You can beat this addiction replace it with something, make it an obligation you replace it with, soup kitchen helping the elderly if you have’nt the time to watch it you wont watch it!
 
To anyone struggling with porn addiction,
I am an ex addict now of four months. I am willing to help in anyway that I can. Feel free to send me an email at PrayersoftheFaithful2012@gmail.com if anyone needs a friend to talk to.

God bless.
Justin
 
Just happened to be reading this today, and I thought it may be useful to share:

THE DISCIPLE. O Lord my God, You have created me in Your own image and likeness. Grant me this great grace, so necessary to my salvation, that I may conquer the base elements of my nature that drag me down into sin and perdition. Within my being I can feel the power of sin contending against the rule of my mind, leading me away an obedient slave to all kinds of sensuality. I cannot resist its onslaughts, unless Your most holy grace is poured glowing into my heart to help me.
-“The Imitation of Christ,” Book 3, Chapter 55
 
MainBrain said:
Will an addiction to porn send a person to hell? What if they struggle with it and pray for forgiveness but keep going back? What if they are denied sexual intimacy by their mate? However, we all know even if their mate gave them all the sex they wanted they still would look at porn. Sin is that way.

Many of my Protestant friends would say you are still saved even if you’re addicted to porn, that the act of salvation will over that sin. I take comfort in that. However, I believe the Catholic faith teaches otherwise. This is frighting!! I don’t want to go to hell! And I don’t want anyone else to go to hell! This is not something that should be tossed aside to rethink another time. Any one of us can get killed at any instant. Then we have eternity to recon with.
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From my understanding given by Catholic education (which is liberally shaded) Peter screwed the pooch three times in a row and Christ forgave him. What’s important is you TRY to do what is right. (If I’m wrong I’ll be over there hanging out with Thor)
 
TStokes said:
You can beat this addiction replace it with something, make it an obligation you replace it with, soup kitchen helping the elderly if you have’nt the time to watch it you wont watch it!
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I don’t believe porn is wrong but if it is CONTROLLING you it is an addiction. Being busy won’t stop you in the evening. Figure out why you want to run to the porno man. Stress? Anger? Sadness? Loneliness? Boredom? (my personal reason) Address whatever is CAUSING you to always turn to porn and try to remedy that.
 
Lokadottir said:
I don’t believe porn is wrong but if it is CONTROLLING you it is an addiction. Being busy won’t stop you in the evening. Figure out why you want to run to the porno man. Stress? Anger? Sadness? Loneliness? Boredom? (my personal reason) Address whatever is CAUSING you to always turn to porn and try to remedy that.
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You forgot ‘Sexual Arousal.’
 
MainBrain said:
Will an addiction to porn send a person to hell? What if they struggle with it and pray for forgiveness but keep going back? What if they are denied sexual intimacy by their mate? However, we all know even if their mate gave them all the sex they wanted they still would look at porn. Sin is that way.

Many of my Protestant friends would say you are still saved even if you’re addicted to porn, that the act of salvation will over that sin. I take comfort in that. However, I believe the Catholic faith teaches otherwise. This is frighting!! I don’t want to go to hell! And I don’t want anyone else to go to hell! This is not something that should be tossed aside to rethink another time. Any one of us can get killed at any instant. Then we have eternity to recon with.
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If you do not overcome that addiction, it will send you to hell, that’s the truth.

Repentance means a sincere turning away, in both the mind and heart, from self to God. If you truly repent, and understand why it is a serious sin, God will give you the grace you need to overcome. When you are in Christ, you become a new creation. If you keep going back to the same sin, how can you have repented? You want forgiveness, but you don’t want to actually change, you are not made new. Being sorry and seeking forgiveness again and again is one thing, but repentance, that actually transforms your soul, is something else.

I’m sorry if this sounds very harsh to you. When Our Lady appeared at Fatima, she said that “More souls go to Hell because of sins of the flesh than for any other reason” and this is a sin of the flesh.

Maybe it would help you to meditate on the lives of the people who actually make their living from appearing in porn movies/pictures. Do you think their Creator is happy with their choice of occupation? Do you think that many of them suffer from abuse, low self esteem, uncaring backgrounds, drug addiction, sex trafficking, a lack of self-worth? Do you think any woman who knows and loves God would star in a porn movie? By accessing pornography, you are part of the demand that keeps people in this industry.

See your priest. Pray. Repent. Your Protestant friends are wrong.
 
Lokadottir said:
I don’t believe porn is wrong but if it is CONTROLLING you it is an addiction. Being busy won’t stop you in the evening. Figure out why you want to run to the porno man. Stress? Anger? Sadness? Loneliness? Boredom? (my personal reason) Address whatever is CAUSING you to always turn to porn and try to remedy that.
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You don’t believe porn is wrong??!
I see you are not a Christian, but even so!
Try reading Pornland:How Porn has Hijacked our Sexuality and maybe think again. It is written by a Gail Dines and among other things she has researched how the prevalence of porn means that men are becoming desensitised to it, and are therefore seeking out ever harsher, more violent and degrading images. Even the porn industry is shocked by how much violence the fans want!
“I have found that the earlier men use porn,” says Dines, “the more likely they are to have trouble developing close, intimate relationships with real women. Some of these men prefer porn to sex with an actual human being. They are bewildered, even angry, when real women don’t want or enjoy porn sex.”
Porn culture doesn’t only affect men. It also changes “the way women and girls think about their bodies, their sexuality and their relationships,” says Dines. “Every group that has fought for liberation understands that media images are part and parcel of the systematic dehumanisation of an oppressed group . . . The more porn images filter into mainstream culture, the more girls and women are stripped of full human status and reduced to sex objects. This has a terrible effect on girls’ sexual identity because it robs them of their own sexual desire.”
Images have now become so extreme that acts that were almost non-existent a decade ago have become commonplace. From studying thousands of porn films and images Dines found that the most popular acts depicted in internet porn include vaginal, oral and anal penetration by three or more men at the same time; double anal; double vaginal; a female gagging from having a penis thrust into her throat; and ejaculation in a woman’s face, eyes and mouth.
Not to even mention the high proportion of girls in porn who are coming from abusive homes, the care system, sex trafficking, drug addiction, pimps etc. But you don’t see anything wrong with it, presumably because you want to carry on enjoying it!
I don’t think you have to be Catholic, or Christian, to find porn utterly repellent and utterly degrading to the people in the films and those who watch it.
Maybe you should think again.
 
Zeno11 said:
You don’t believe porn is wrong??!
I see you are not a Christian, but even so!
Try reading Pornland:How Porn has Hijacked our Sexuality and maybe think again. It is written by a Gail Dines and among other things she has researched how the prevalence of porn means that men are becoming desensitised to it, and are therefore seeking out ever harsher, more violent and degrading images. Even the porn industry is shocked by how much violence the fans want!
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As a very kinky person this amuses me. I have a very healthy relationship without keeping things to missionary. Not everything is for everyone. We all have our lines.
Zeno11 said:
“I have found that the earlier men use porn,” says Dines, “the more likely they are to have trouble developing close, intimate relationships with real women. Some of these men prefer porn to sex with an actual human being. They are bewildered, even angry, when real women don’t want or enjoy porn sex.”
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This is more an issue of the fact that sex is so taboo boys don’t know anything about sex outside of pornos.
Zeno11 said:
Porn culture doesn’t only affect men. It also changes “the way women and girls think about their bodies, their sexuality and their relationships,” says Dines. “Every group that has fought for liberation understands that media images are part and parcel of the systematic dehumanisation of an oppressed group . . . The more porn images filter into mainstream culture, the more girls and women are stripped of full human status and reduced to sex objects. This has a terrible effect on girls’ sexual identity because it robs them of their own sexual desire.”
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Something that many do not know is “porno sex” I’m going to call it BDSM since I’m assuming that’s the “shocking” stuff, is that there is your life and relationship then there is the seperate BDSM sex. Sometimes they start bleeding together but thats the choice of responsible kinksters.
Zeno11 said:
Images have now become so extreme that acts that were almost non-existent a decade ago have become commonplace. From studying thousands of porn films and images Dines found that the most popular acts depicted in internet porn include vaginal, oral and anal penetration by three or more men at the same time; double anal; double vaginal; a female gagging from having a penis thrust into her throat; and ejaculation in a woman’s face, eyes and mouth.
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(yep thats got some BDSM aspects) Ok you seem to be throwing out the choice of the woman here, which I find far more degrading. I am submissive to my boyfriend during sex BY CHOICE. I have MORE self-confidence since entering our relationship.
 
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