I am a rather western guy, and it’s hard for me to picture me thinking I ought to change Churches. I have a feeling there is a lot of inculturated understanding that would be hard for a person of my background to ever quite pick up. I remember a cousin of mine who traveled to Italy and, while driving to the Brenner Pass, saw a valley which she felt was the most beautiful place she had ever seen. She turned into that valley, deep in the Alps. As she progressed, it seemed more and more beautiful. Everything placed just right. Gardens, houses, everything. The colors were just right. Even the way the woods and fields were. All perfect. Then, after driving some miles, she came to a city limit sign that said “Caoria”. She was thunderstruck! She remembered her mother, of Italian ancestery, telling her that her grandmother came from a town in the alps near Austria named “Caoria”. A friend of mine had a similar experience on a bicycle tour of Germany. Like my cousin, he came to the “perfect place”. Only later did he learn his great grandfather had come from there. Something about the way things were designed; the way the people looked and acted. He couldn’t put his finger on it.
Things like that are hard to change; hard to learn. I am sure there are millions of tiny (and not so tiny) things a Ukrainian learns that have very deep roots; things that I, a western European by ancestery, could never quite pick up. I think that would be true even of very Americanized people of Ukrainian ancestery. And so, completely aside from a desire to preserve the integrity of the Eastern Churches, I think it is wise for a person of an Eastern Church to remain with it, and to keep his children in it. His children will pick up many of those subtle “Eastern Church” ways of thinking and feeling, no matter what, and it would be best to let them grow in understanding of something that is a part of themselves.
Having said that, I do not dispute that some Romans may properly be drawn to the Eastern Churches. I am sure there are wrong reasons, but I am equally sure there are right ones. I don’t know much about the Eastern Churches, other than that their liturgies, decor, etc are beautiful. But I think I know, just barely, that there is a deep mystical part of it, and I think I have known people who would have been drawn very strongly to it.
Finally, I have long thought dioceses should encourage Eastern liturgies in Latin parishes on occasion; in order to deepen understanding and the sense of brotherhood. But it’s rare. I do know that in St. Louis, every once in awhile one of the Eastern liturgies will be celebrated in the Cathedral. Interesting that the Latin Cathedral is very Byzantine in design and decor. There should be more of that.