Of course in 1990 the LDS Church changed the temple ceremony so that newbies don’t have to make these oaths any longer.
Unfortunately, this isn’t the case.
My sister, BIL, and their 3 kids are mormon (they all live in Utah) and I remember when I was little (around 8 or so) I asked my sister what the sayings were on her garments (she was folding clothes at the time) and she told me she couldn’t tell me. When I asked about her wedding, ie: what it was like, etc - she told me (in a nice way) that it was none of my business(!).
2 years ago my nieces got married and when I “stupidly” asked how the weddings went, I was told that it was not for me to know about their temple ceremony, however I could inquire about the reception. :ehh:

So I went on-line and researched what exactly happens during a ceremony and every site I went to said they still do the “slit throat” thing and the “handshake” thing, and that they had to promise never to tell anyone who is not in good standing w/ their church anything at all pertaining to their temple business. Of course everything I read was written by ex-mormons, but they didn’t seem hostile about it, just matter-of-fact.
I understand the whole freedom of religion thing, but why would you want to have to live in secret?! When I got married in the Catholic Church, I wanted
everybody there, but my sister and her family didn’t attend.
I don’t know, the whole thing just seems kind of sad.