Wish me luck?

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Tomorrow is a big day for me. I have waited to be serious with a female for almost 4 years after my divorce, looking specifically in Church. I met my former wife at age 17 and have no “game” in my mid-30s. So, last week I saw a beautiful girl with a child and parents in a pew. I prayed to Jesus to help me many weeks before, like, “its been so long and I have no idea how to meet the right one!” Putting it in his hands, we went to the hall after mass and I started a conversation then introduced myself. Her child is 3, and she had to go after a quick conversation. I’ve been consulting friends about this matter and will possibly try to give her my phone number tomorrow if she shows. So, I want to give it a shot… Wish me luck! 🙂
 
It’s always worth a shot in these circumstances!~ Hope she is there and can get your phone number.

God Bless,

Mary,
 
CatholicSpirit said:
I have waited to be serious with a female for almost 4 years after my divorce, looking specifically in Church.
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umm… unless you have an annulment, you really shouldn’t be dating. The church does not recognize civil divorce
 
Anglewannabe said:
umm… unless you have an annulment, you really shouldn’t be dating. The church does not recognize civil divorce
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You had to put a damper on this guy’s hopes. 😉

Actually, I was thinking the same thing.
 
CatholicSpirit said:
Tomorrow is a big day for me. I have waited to be serious with a female for almost 4 years after my divorce, looking specifically in Church. I met my former wife at age 17 and have no “game” in my mid-30s. So, last week I saw a beautiful girl with a child and parents in a pew. I prayed to Jesus to help me many weeks before, like, “its been so long and I have no idea how to meet the right one!” Putting it in his hands, we went to the hall after mass and I started a conversation then introduced myself. Her child is 3, and she had to go after a quick conversation. I’ve been consulting friends about this matter and will possibly try to give her my phone number tomorrow if she shows. So, I want to give it a shot… Wish me luck! 🙂
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Good luck! Take it slow and see where it goes.
 
Thanks everyone, her name is Mary too, go figure. I hear ya on the annulment situation for sure. My ex was some sort of non-denominational who wouldn’t convert by taking RCIA courses and took off with my little one for an atheist guy and they had yet another civil union or whatnot. I’ve been thinking about this all week, I’m so ready to try. If this goes sour ill be like “nooooo!” Lol. Thanks for everything <3
 
HI CatholicSpirit,

I wish you all of the best, and hope that all goes well for you! 🙂
 
Thanks OGM2, I’m heading out! Hopefully I will have good news. Happy Sabbath!
 
Well, it seems she’s engaged, God bless 'em! Hopefully this means The Lord has someone better in mind 🙂
 
CatholicSpirit said:
Well, it seems she’s engaged, God bless 'em! Hopefully this means The Lord has someone better in mind 🙂
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Ok,
  1. luck is for pagans…😉
    2 still unclear on if you have an annulment.
    3). Are you involved in your child’s life?
 
CatholicSpirit said:
Thanks everyone, her name is Mary too, go figure. I hear ya on the annulment situation for sure. My ex was some sort of non-denominational who wouldn’t convert by taking RCIA courses and took off with my little one for an atheist guy and they had yet another civil union or whatnot. I’ve been thinking about this all week, I’m so ready to try. If this goes sour ill be like “nooooo!” Lol. Thanks for everything <3
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My husband is a non-denominational Christian who won’t convert to Catholicism. I haven’t divorced him over it. :ehh: That would be shallow and cold-hearted with no respect for him or the sanctity of marriage. So that in of itself is no reason for divorce and you’d have a hard time getting an annulment for it. Which likely means you have yet to even seek an annulment. Which means you should absolutely NOT be dating, regardless of what your wife is choosing to do. There has to be something more going on here. 🤷

Did you get married in a Catholic Church? (It is required to. )

Did you receive a dispensation from your Bishop to marry a non-Catholic Christian? (It’s also required you know.)

If yes to both of these questions were you not instructed beforehand of the difficulties you may face as a mixed marriage couple?
 
Yes I am in my child’s life, no I did not pursue a Bishop prior to a mixed-religion marriage, no I have not filed any annulment paperwork because I was told that process begins if I want to marry in the Church (more or less at the time myself and a significant other of the same faith decide to marry)

To add: The term “wish me luck” was a cliche’ please do not redirect the topic of the thread by simply taking it literally. That was clarified by Saint Patrick quite some time ago. And as an update, I will possibly be seeking the paperwork for this annulment, as I have reviewed a website explaining it’s function.
 
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no I have not filed any annulment paperwork because I was told that process begins if I want to marry in the Church (more or less at the time myself and a significant other of the same faith decide to marry)
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That was not good advice. Applying for an annulment in no way guarantees it will be granted. You could meet someone, talk about marriage, apply for the annulment and then find out you won’t get one and will have to break up. A wise woman would never take that risk and date you in the first place

Angie
 
Anglewannabe said:
That was not good advice. Applying for an annulment in no way guarantees it will be granted. You could meet someone, talk about marriage, apply for the annulment and then find out you won’t get one and will have to break up. A wise woman would never take that risk and date you in the first place

Angie
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This! You are considered a married man until proven otherwise. I think this just worked out well for you… now you know that woman you met isn’t an option and you are not tempted tp pursue her, and you know you can start the annulment process to find out if you are indeed “available” or “taken”!
 
This sure did teach me a lot. I am going to pursue the annulment because it seems like the major barrier keeping me from dating progress. I guess you learn some things over time. Wise people usually say, “if only I knew then what I know now.” So true. The right step is the annulment and I’m sure the right one will arrive.
 
CatholicSpirit said:
This sure did teach me a lot. I am going to pursue the annulment because it seems like the major barrier keeping me from dating progress. I guess you learn some things over time. Wise people usually say, “if only I knew then what I know now.” So true. The right step is the annulment and I’m sure the right one will arrive.
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Good luck and my prayers, buddy.
 
CatholicSpirit said:
Thanks everyone, her name is Mary too, go figure. I hear ya on the annulment situation for sure. My ex was some sort of non-denominational who wouldn’t convert by taking RCIA courses and took off with my little one for an atheist guy and they had yet another civil union or whatnot. I’ve been thinking about this all week, I’m so ready to try. If this goes sour ill be like “nooooo!” Lol. Thanks for everything <3
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If you were a baptized and non-aposthasized Catholic at the time and had not obtained a dispensation — which in plain English mostly means a JP wedding without talking to the Church — you have a 99% chance that your marriage was invalid through lack of form (there are rare exceptions when e.g. a general dispensation is given because of lack of priests to witness marriages in the area). In those cases marriages tend to be regarded as probably null, but you should still go through the process before dating. You don’t want to be dating if you aren’t sure you’re free to.

But once you are, good luck! I can certainly hear ya. Turning 34 next week, as single as malt in good whisky, with plenty of epic experience from ‘the game’. The game sucks, and you’re best off skipping it. Apparently best advice is marry a friend (or someone who can be).
 
Convert_in_99 said:
My husband is a non-denominational Christian who won’t convert to Catholicism. I haven’t divorced him over it. :ehh: That would be shallow and cold-hearted with no respect for him or the sanctity of marriage. So that in of itself is no reason for divorce and you’d have a hard time getting an annulment for it. Which likely means you have yet to even seek an annulment. Which means you should absolutely NOT be dating, regardless of what your wife is choosing to do. There has to be something more going on here. 🤷

Did you get married in a Catholic Church? (It is required to. )

Did you receive a dispensation from your Bishop to marry a non-Catholic Christian? (It’s also required you know.)

If yes to both of these questions were you not instructed beforehand of the difficulties you may face as a mixed marriage couple?
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He said his wife left him for an atheist and you’re going after him?
 
CatholicSpirit said:
This sure did teach me a lot. I am going to pursue the annulment because it seems like the major barrier keeping me from dating progress. I guess you learn some things over time. Wise people usually say, “if only I knew then what I know now.” So true. The right step is the annulment and I’m sure the right one will arrive.
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I wish you well, CatholicSpirit! May you find resolution soon 🙂
 
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