I tried to leave the original within the context of your statement by referring back to the military again :
Maybe I didn’t do a very good job -

Sorry if it irked you. That wasn’t the intention.
I did say that my observation was on a personal scale. Maybe if you knew how many times I had to find out personally (by being on the receiving end of numerous distasteful physical homosexual affronts from individuals from all walks of life every one of which had to be repelled] ) you’d see where I’m coming from and just how unreal it is to assert or suggest that homosexuals as a group are better at controlling their impulses than anyone - let alone straight men.
I believe your original context intended in the comparative suggestion/assertion,
" Either gay men are better at controlling their impulses than straight men are. . . " is alluding to heterosexual man’s natural impulses going beyond what is permissible - to the inordinate, and this being acted out ( please don’t hesitate to correct me if I’m wrong). But where I fail to see the connection in a specific region of your reasoning, is when you equate homosexual impulses with heterosexual impulses. Heterosexual impulses within reason are natural - the same cannot be said for homosexual impulses at all.