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I was wondering if there are other women out there who have similar experiences or feelings and can shed light on my situation. About two years ago I started feeling burned out especially at work. I felt like what I did wasn’t making a difference and I lost some motivation and desire to try. Well, I changed locations thinking something fresh would make it better. The feelings didn’t change in fact they got worse. Someone told me maybe it is hormonal. I am 39 and just really don’t have any motivation or desire to do much. I have “brain fog” most of the time, feel tired and blah. I feel like a robot just going through motions with little feeling. I can’t imagine at 39 beginning menopause and don’t really have other “bodily” changes. It’s not depression because I am not sad or tearful or hopeless…etc. I just feel blah and can’t lift myself out of it.
 
Hi, my friend - -

I agree 39 seems too young for menopause. Have you had a checkup? That would be the first thing I’d recommend. It could be hormonal but not related to menopause.

Do you exercise regularly? A regular walking regimen might help. Sometimes just getting out into the sunshine every day can clear up the “brain fog”.

Make an appointment for a thorough physical and meantime, go for a walk. And keep posting here, if it helps. That’s what your fellow Catholics are here for. 👍
 
I sort of can understand where you are coming from. Last week I lost my job. Now I just feel so sad and unmotivated. I do the bare minimum and for now I guess that’s enough. I keep praying, because I know that it’s what keps me “sorta sane”. I don’t like feeling this way and hope that soon things will change. I guess what I mean is it is ok to have a self pity party. Just don’t let it go on for too long.

Kathy
 
cakmke said:
I was wondering if there are other women out there who have similar experiences or feelings and can shed light on my situation. About two years ago I started feeling burned out especially at work. I felt like what I did wasn’t making a difference and I lost some motivation and desire to try. Well, I changed locations thinking something fresh would make it better. The feelings didn’t change in fact they got worse. Someone told me maybe it is hormonal. I am 39 and just really don’t have any motivation or desire to do much. I have “brain fog” most of the time, feel tired and blah. I feel like a robot just going through motions with little feeling. I can’t imagine at 39 beginning menopause and don’t really have other “bodily” changes. It’s not depression because I am not sad or tearful or hopeless…etc. I just feel blah and can’t lift myself out of it.
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Please go get a checkup and mention this to your doctor–it very well could be a clinical depression. You don’t necessarily have to have feelings of hopelessness, sadness, etc. It also could be a physical problem, such as a thyroid problem or some other things.

When I had a depression a number of years ago, my first symptoms were tiredness and fatigue. People would talk to me, and it was like I did not hear them. I had to drag myself to work, and I felt like everything was in slow motion. I slept a lot also, and lost all interest in my hobbies, housework, personal care, etc. I transferred to another department, thinking it was “burnout”, but things only got worse. The rest of the stuff came later.

Your body is trying to tell you something, whether it is depression or something else, please listen to it and go see your doctor. I have said a prayer for you.
 
Make sure to get your thyroid checked. Hypothyroidism can often mimic the symptoms of depression, and sometimes is misdiagnosed as clinical depression instead of an endocrine problem. (This is not medical advice, just speaking from experience.) Also make sure you eat a balanced diet which includes plenty of fruits and veggies, and get some physical activity. But definitely speak with your PCP soon.
 
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Make sure to get your thyroid checked. Hypothyroidism can often mimic the symptoms of depression, and sometimes is misdiagnosed as clinical depression instead of an endocrine problem. (This is not medical advice, just speaking from experience.) Also make sure you eat a balanced diet which includes plenty of fruits and veggies, and get some physical activity. But definitely speak with your PCP soon.
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Celiac disease can too. Some viruses can leave you with such lethargy also.

Please God you find a doctor who can help you rule out what isn’t the cause, and find the real cause for your problems. Meanwhile, our love and prayers.
:grouphug: :coffee: :coffee:… all of us in a spiritual cafe with you!
 
Do you live where it snows? I suffer from severe depression this time of year, but other people have lesser mood changes.
 
Cakmke, others have made some good suggestions especially in regard to health checks re your burnout - wonder if environmental features at work could be relevant. For example:
  1. what feedback do you get at work about what you do and who you are?
    Its hard to feel motivated if you get no recognition or are not “one of the golden people”
  2. could you be working in a “sick building” eg viruses, extremes of hot or cold (or one followed by the other), draughts
However much you enjoy the content of your work doing it in bad physical conditions can be unmotivating.
  1. *a general poor atmosphere at work *
If other people are unmotivated it can be hard to keep you motivation up.

Sounds from your original post that there are some areas of your life where you have more motivation. Maybe it would help if thought about- what areas and why.
 
i feel like that too sometimes… i’m twenty!
it helps me to get out of my brain fog by doing something i enjoy (scrapbooking, going on walks, drinking the perfect cup of coffee… spending time with my younger siblings, parents, my friend and my fiance). i am a full-time student and work 32 hours a week, so i have a busy schedule… and its hard to find time for alot of “fun things”… but everyone needs a break once in a while. you’re working too, so it seems like you’re busy as well!!! i think maybe taking time for yourself (WITHOUT FEELING GUILTY) may help you =]
 
I had a lot of issues with brain fog and just that “blah”, unmotivated feeling. After doing some reading I wondered if I could possibly have gluten intolerance. After cutting gluten out of my diet (not a small undertaking), not only did the brain fog lift for the most part, but I had more energy, and digestive issues I thought were just normal for me went away.

It’s worth looking at your diet. Are you drinking enough water? Add more water if you drink coffee in the mornings. I have to drink water after I’m done with my morning coffee. :o Are you eating too much sugar? In me, at least, eating excess sweets makes me lethargic and fuzzy.

While i’m sure hormones can play into it–I tend to be more fuzzy, mentally, around my period, and i do think lower estrogen has something to do with it–it could be a lifestyle issue as well. Also make sure you’re getting enough B vitamins–they play a large role in our moods.
 
I do not think that this is a women problem only! I am not a physician and so I suggest that you consult with one. I go through that phase form time to time and in my case has to do with sleep deprivation. Sleep deprivation is possible and it might go unnoticed. Even in the case you have a regular sleeping schedule you might wake up often or you might not be able to achieve a state of deep sleep. Sleeping apnea can be the cause of sleep deprivation. Talk to a doctor, it could be a minor and fixable problem.
 
Only your doctor can tell you what is wrong… but your symptoms are not LIMITED to menopause… could be depression, could be thyroid, or someone mentioned celiac, etc… who knows!

I wouldn’t just chalk it up to your age or menopause… I’d see your doctor.
 
I can certainly relate. It may be what they call “perimenopause”. People can have symptoms of fatigue, depression, etc b/c of this. So, you might want to talk to your Dr. about it.
Hugs and blessings,:console:
Eli
 
Aside from seeking medical evaluation, which I think is a great idea, frequenting the Sacraments can help too. A good confession, receiving the Eucharist frequently, making time to talk with God about everything going on, etc can all do wonders too 🙂
 
Time for a retreat!!

That is, after you have your thyroid checked (my mom almost died from thyroid failure last year).
 
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