Women should appreciate masculine virtues

[Xantippe]

I never know what to do with pieces like this one. I go into them with an open mind and inevitably I find that the descriptions given of both sexes don’t remotely relate to my own marriage. My husband doesn’t possess the “characteristic male reluctance to ask for help or acknowledge neediness.” I do not “excel at long-suffering patience.” Why do people feel a need for these kinds of generalizations?

Right.

My husband is naturally MUCH more emotionally expressive than I am, so I’m the one who has had to learn to deal with that and be more emotionally expressive myself.

 

[Bruised_Reed]

I never know what to do with pieces like this one. I go into them with an open mind and inevitably I find that the descriptions given of both sexes don’t remotely relate to my own marriage. My husband doesn’t possess the “characteristic male reluctance to ask for help or acknowledge neediness.” I do not “excel at long-suffering patience.” Why do people feel a need for these kinds of generalizations?

To set the stage for their agenda.

I know you know that but I wanted to answer it anyway. I too started reading it with interest and and hoped it would broaden my perspective or give me words to articulate an idea more clearly.

As it turns out I agree with the criticisms here. To me, the article seems to be inspired by a event or experience that the author has had to deal with and she is using her column to drive the point home. The article feels very passive-aggressive to me.

 

[hwriggles4]

Ladies and Gentlemen:

Last weekend, I was at the National Catholic Singles’ Conference. One thing that came up in our men’s session is today, many women feel like “they do not need us.” From my own experience over the years, I have been yelled at once or twice offering to open a door, and know other men who have.

However, I have had female friends over the years ask me to help them with their car (i.e. wanted a guy to help them change a tire or go with her to the auto shop, to avoid being taken and to help with the technical aspects) or to help them move. I’ve also helped start a woman’s car that had a dead battery, or put air in tires at a gas station when the “air warning light” came on. At least it got a girl home safely. (BTW - I have had an interest in cars and bicycles since I was a kid and I’ve learned how to do these things - I’m amazed how many men today have no clue, even to change their own oil.)

I have also helped a group of religious sisters (along with a volunteer group) to help them fix up things at a convent (i.e. building a fence, painting, relaying a sewer line), which saved quite a bit of money. Those are times it’s nice to feel that women do need us.

I had a woman help me pick out some things for my house - as a guy, I’m terrible at interior decorating and matching colors.

 

[mcmlxix]

As a woman, I very much appreciate masculine virtues. Modern feminism plays a huge role in confusing women and even worse, insisting women don’t need men. Of course we need good, virtuous and strong men. I totally support men rising up and taking back their manhood. We so desperately need them in our culture today. :knight1: