As a woman, I’d say the key is context.
From what I have read, in the time and in the areas where St. Paul was addressing his letters, there had been ‘recent’ movements (particularly among the “Greek” populations) where women had been attempting to ‘take over’ the ceremonies, and not for good. St. Paul is warning the believers, not that women per se are not ‘fit to speak’, but that in the circumstances going on which seem to happen in cycles (ever notice there is no new heresy, no real new sin, but only new ‘names’???

) believers are to be on guard against letting things not for God, but actively against God, be ‘preached’ in the church. Over and over, sometimes by men as ‘leaders’, other times by women, most often the majority of the faithful ‘followers’, these cycles come back and the people’s ‘itching ears’ hear the newest ‘spin’ on the same old sins. . .
Pride did Eve in once, and it is still IMO the chief vice that women fall victim to today. Adam, OTOH, allowed sloth (that laissez-faire attitude–hey, she’s got the apple, it must be okay, sure looks tasty) to conquer him and again, IMO that is the chief vice that men fall victim to.
I’m not offended by St. Paul, far from it. Women and men
are different. There is a time, and a place, and an individual ‘role’ that God gives every one of us. St. Paul addresses this further when he speaks of every part of the body being ‘part’ of the body, and that “if I am a hand and not a foot, I do not thereby say that I am not of the body.”