The bridal tradition is not that old. It goes back to the late 1800s or early 1900s in some communities. Many of our monasteries use it, but it is not in the Franciscan Ritual.
The title “Bride of Christ” has been debated in many circles, because of the sexist overtones. Friars, monks, canons and clerks also make the same vows as nuns and sisters make. The feeling among many male religious is that the investiture of women religious has been played up to the detriment of male religious. The other argument of equal weight or maybe more is that male religious are not referred to as grooms. Over the years, something very sad happened. People began to promote vocatioins to the priesthood and the sisterhood. The male religious life became “the forgotten vocation,” as Archbishop Timothy Dolan said. He’s very good about this, actually. At every mass that he celebrates he deliberately greets the male religious to help the priests and the laity realize that there are male religious.
The bride analogy has a place when correctly understood that the person is transitioning from one way of life to another, just as a woman tansitions from being single to being a wife. You can also say that a religious (male or female) is the spouse of Jesus Christ in the sense that Jesus is the beloved and there is nothing and no one else with whom that love is shared. There is an intimacy between the religious and Christ, that is not possible for the married person and not appropriate either. I would not expect a married person to embrace destitution, celibacy, absolute obedience to the will of another. These are qualities that would do damage to a marriage. In a marriage they would not be virtuous, but potentially destructive. For a married person to deny his/her spouse intimacy, because all intimacy is reserved for Christ in contrary to the married state.
Entrance into religious life has certain “marital” atrributes, but it’s not a marriage. Notice that I use marital in quotation marks. I prefer mystical attitudes.
Fraternally,
Br. JR, OSF