Wondering about Baptism

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I haven’t called to talk to anyone about it yet but I am curious about it. About how long does the prep take? What should you do if you don’t have Godparents picked out, can the parish help with that?

I want to be Catholic someday and my husband is Catholic, but I am scared about this especially since I didn’t take care of it when I was supposed to and I don’t know what goes into it.

My son is 13 days old now, and I know I will have to take care of it really soon.
 
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KittyKat:
I haven’t called to talk to anyone about it yet but I am curious about it. About how long does the prep take? What should you do if you don’t have Godparents picked out, can the parish help with that?

I want to be Catholic someday and my husband is Catholic, but I am scared about this especially since I didn’t take care of it when I was supposed to and I don’t know what goes into it.

My son is 13 days old now, and I know I will have to take care of it really soon.
Not to pass the buck but, speak to your Pastor and he will guide you in the proper direction to fulfill all things that are necessary for your Diocese.
 
you do have to call your parish, because they differ on what they require as far as classes, etc. If you are not registered, you belong to the parish in whose geographic boundaries you are living (i.e., look for the nearest Catholic Church).

if you have no one suitable in your family to serve as godparents, the pastor will suggest someone for you. parents of other children being baptized at the same time are possible candidates to consider if you are friendly with them. Some type of preparation class will be required for parents and godparents. In some parishes it is a couple of hours, and children are baptized once a month after the last Mass. In other parishes, classes are 6-8 weeks, 2 hours a week, baptisms are done 4 times a year at a time, but not during a Sunday Mass. Some parishes will baptize during Sunday Masses. so you have to find out what the deal is where you live. Parents must be able to assure the pastor that this child will be raised Catholic, taught the faith and helped to fill the obligations of Catholics when he is old enough.
 
the priest that baptized someone dear to me required that the Godparents must be Catholic, and requested proof (ie, baptism certificate, etc).
 
1.) Read what puzzleannie wrote. She should know.

2.) Relax. Thank you for thinking so much about this! 13 days old is not a big deal nowadays.

3.) Call the local Catholic parish. Or have your husband call. If you don’t like the answer you get, call another one. You will probably get the parish office manager or secretary. She can give you the scoop on what you need to do.

USUALLY, the class is an evening or two, possibly a Saturday morning class. Some are longer. It depends where you live and what kind of rules there are in that diocese. If you don’t belong to a parish, please have your husband register in one, or go to the one that’s closest to you. If you live in an area where there are bunches of parishes, pick one where the priest is friendly and wants to to do the right thing by your little one and you. Nobody is going to expect you to go to RCIA (to become a Catholic) until you make known your desire to do so.

Pick a godparent, following the canon law on godparents. If you pick two, one must be female, one male. All godparents should be practicing Catholics who have received their initiation sacraments without an impediment (not divorced and remarried or practicing an immoral lifestyle). Some places ask for a letter of proof that one is a practicing Catholic, some don’t. If you want someone to be godparent who is qualified but can’t be physically present, then anybody can proxy for that person. The other person will still be the real godparent.

Depending on whether your (new) parish immerses or pours the water, show up at the appointed place and time with Junior in whatever cute little outfit you picked for the occasion, or bring it along. If you have the money, or in your husband’s family there is a christening gown, either dress the little guy up in it or bring it along. But they’ll baptize him just fine without the finery. Double-check to see if you need to bring your own towels and baptismal candle.

If the parish does not have an honorarium or small fee for baptism, it is still nice for the parents or godparents to make a SMALL offering. Put it in a small envelope and hand it to Father after the Baptism or Mass. If you can’t afford such a thing, it is certainly NOT necessary.

If you choose, you can invite your parents, in-laws and anybody who might have an interest in your baby to the baptism. While it is not required, a modest gathering at your home is nice after the baptism. It does not need to be a gonzo party to the max. Potluck or deli or even just dessert and coffee (tea, pop, water?) is fine.

If – HEAVEN FORBID– something should happen before you get the little guy baptized regarding his health where your son stands a chance of dying, just take him over to the sink and with the intention of doing what the Church wants done, POUR the water over his head and say, “I baptize you in the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit.” Any moving water will do.

And God bless you for being such a conscientious mom!:clapping:
 
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OutinChgoburbs:
If – HEAVEN FORBID– something should happen before you get the little guy baptized regarding his health where your son stands a chance of dying, just take him over to the sink and with the intention of doing what the Church wants done, POUR the water over his head and say, “I baptize you in the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit.” Any moving water will do.

And God bless you for being such a conscientious mom!:clapping:
Wow! I didn’t know it had to be moving!
Makes sense!
 
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KittyKat:
I want to be Catholic someday and my husband is Catholic, but I am scared about this especially since I didn’t take care of it when I was supposed to and I don’t know what goes into it.
KittyKat,

If I may quote the late John Paul the Great, “Be not afraid!” Mother Church is much more interested in setting things to right than she is in pointing fingers at things gone wrong.
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Wow! I didn’t know it had to be moving!
Makes sense!
It doesn’t. Baptism by imersion is also valid, although an emergency baptism probably would not be done by this method. But you don’t need to worry about this if the situation comes up, God forbid. Poured water is moving water.
 
Thanks for all the great information! I know I have to call the parish and talk to them about it. Thankfully everybody is really nice where we have been going. It is where my husband went with his Grandma.

I completely forgot about it until I was thinking about how much I am looking forward to taking him to Mass the other day. I am hoping to make this Sunday as long as I am awake as he is starting to figure out the difference between day and night and I can comfortably sit.

I was trying to find Godparents before I called, but that isn’t going to work. I only know one Catholic family that is practicing right now. Most people interested in being Godparents haven’t set foot in a church in years. Who knew that this would be the first major dilema?
 
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It doesn’t. Baptism by imersion is also valid, although an emergency baptism probably would not be done by this method. But you don’t need to worry about this if the situation comes up, God forbid. Poured water is moving water.
Ezactly. Maybe I didn’t explain it well. Poured water is moving water.
 
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KittyKat:
Thanks for all the great information! I know I have to call the parish and talk to them about it. Thankfully everybody is really nice where we have been going. It is where my husband went with his Grandma.

I completely forgot about it until I was thinking about how much I am looking forward to taking him to Mass the other day. I am hoping to make this Sunday as long as I am awake as he is starting to figure out the difference between day and night and I can comfortably sit.

I was trying to find Godparents before I called, but that isn’t going to work. I only know one Catholic family that is practicing right now. Most people interested in being Godparents haven’t set foot in a church in years. Who knew that this would be the first major dilema?
Glad it was helpful. Yep, those little buggers take it out of you, sleepwise.

Godparents do NOT have to be relatives. They have to be practicing Catholics. So, if that one Catholic family has what you want- grab 'em, I say! You and your husband get to pick, though. Nobody can force you to take them on as godparents.

If you know somebody in your husband’s parish who seems to be good Catholic material, what better way to start a friendship?
 
We have to talk to that couple about it. I was going to ask their son to be the Godfather, but then I found out that they were upset because he decided he is an athiest. It is such a scary thing to try to bring up the topic. They don’t go where we go, but atleast I know that they do go. If they don’t want to, we will have to ask for volunteers. Ben is so cute that I am sure we can get someone!😉
 
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OutinChgoburbs:
“I baptize you in the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit.” Any moving water will do.
I remember learning that, in an emergency, even spittle will do.
 
. According to Canon Law # 774 §2, “before all others, parents are bound to form their children, by word and example, in faith and in christian living. The same obligation binds godparents and those who take the place of parents.”

According to Canon Law # 872, “in so far as possible, a person being baptised is to be assigned a sponsor. In the case of an adult baptism, the sponsor’s role is to assist the person in christian initiation. In the case of an infant baptism, the role is together with the parents to present the child for baptism, and to help it to live a christian life befitting the baptised and faithfully to fulfil the duties inherent in baptism.”

According to Canon Law # 873, “one sponsor, male or female, is sufficient; but there may be two, one of each sex.”

According to Canon Law # 874 §1, "to be admitted to undertake the office of sponsor, a person must:

Canon 874 §1.1 “be appointed by the candidate for baptism, or by the parents or whoever stands in their place, or failing these, by the parish priest or the minister; to be appointed the person must be suitable for this role and have the intention of fulfilling it;”

Canon 874 §1.2 “be not less than 16 years of age, unless a different age has been stipulated by the diocesan Bishop, or unless the parish priest or the minister considers that there is a just reason for an exception to be made;”

Canon 874 §1.3 “be a catholic who has been confirmed and has received the blessed Eucharist, and who lives a life of faith which befits the role to be undertaken;”

Canon 874 §1.4 “not labour under a canonical penalty, whether imposed or declared;” Canon 874 §1.5 “not be either the father or the mother of the person to be baptised.”
 
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