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skippykerrie
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(Would be good to have a workplace sub-forum under Catholic Living maybe?)
Hi All;
I just wanted to ask some advice about a workplace issue.
I recently started working in this place, but really struggling with a colleague. It is a small office, with only a few people. I work with someone who is supposed to be equal to me in pay grade and job.
For me, this job was ideal - I’m looking at it as a more-or-less temporary job- although I chose it for stability for a time. I was looking for something ‘simple’ for a while.
However, from the start, he has been extremely bossy and rude. He is a young person- I am about 10 years older than him with a lot of work experience. For him, this is is first job. I am very experienced in this field, and while it was made known to me that it would be a job where I would be his equal, I was also recruited in an excited way since they thought I could bring a lot of new ideas to the job, and use my experience to change this department, as they had a lot of concerns.
I feel since starting, I have very little support from ‘mid management’ although the company owners are supportive and recognise my work. I have worked extremely hard so far, and have tried to suggest positive changes to my so-called manager.
Everyone is very friendly, but the manager isn’t particularly authoritative, and I get the impression he thinks I’m a ‘know-it-all’. I often have to point out obvious things that they struggle with on a day-to day basis, but feel I can’t speak up in case it is taken as an attack somehow.
The workload in my department is probably 80-20 to me. Sometimes worse. I often work through break times and start early. I take calls during lunch while he is gone. He always takes his breaks to the full.
My colleague does things like ‘hide’ the main phone or keeps it on his person in order to deal with head office enquiries.
He tries to lock me out of our communications software, and takes it on himself to manage email. He tries to ‘hold all the keys’ in order to be supervisory.
He is extremely rude to me, condescending and lazy. He is often very childish, and swears constantly. At times he is randomly crude. I have no doubt now that he also smokes cannabis before work, and sometimes during his lunch break.
Not to be mean, but he isn’t particularly intelligent, and often makes mistakes, which I have to correct. He gets overly stressed by very ‘normal’ situations, and often is extremely angry and has tantrums which can be quite violent- chucking things around, etc. It is generally a really unpleasant environment.
I brought up the bossiness in an indirect way in a meeting we all had with the owners. He seemed annoyed by this as I think he expected them to make him an official manager.
He hasn’t been there very long, and I have dealt with the company from the point of view as a customer for 7-8 years. He has been there for maybe 1 1/2 years.
I find myself getting extremely annoyed. I am trying to live a good life, and living as a Catholic with my husband. I will be doing RCIA this year. I feel peaceful after Mass on Sundays and re-invigorated. But this really gets me down in the week and I just don’t know how to approach it.
He seems accepted in the company, and as I mentioned, where I work is very small with only a few people. There are a couple of people I can talk to, but since he is ‘mothered’ by some of them, and taken in good humour, it is difficult to raise concerns about him. It’s easy for them, as they have very little contact with him, although they often hear him shouting or swearing and speak up.
I want to say something- but the owners don’t seem to want to deal with the issues which I think they know exist- and middle management seems disengaged and as I mentioned, isn’t hands-on in an authority sense. He seems quote friendly with my colleague as they joke about, and I get the impression they talk about me behind my back.
I’m just not sure how to handle this. Maybe someone else has encountered this?
Hi All;
I just wanted to ask some advice about a workplace issue.
I recently started working in this place, but really struggling with a colleague. It is a small office, with only a few people. I work with someone who is supposed to be equal to me in pay grade and job.
For me, this job was ideal - I’m looking at it as a more-or-less temporary job- although I chose it for stability for a time. I was looking for something ‘simple’ for a while.
However, from the start, he has been extremely bossy and rude. He is a young person- I am about 10 years older than him with a lot of work experience. For him, this is is first job. I am very experienced in this field, and while it was made known to me that it would be a job where I would be his equal, I was also recruited in an excited way since they thought I could bring a lot of new ideas to the job, and use my experience to change this department, as they had a lot of concerns.
I feel since starting, I have very little support from ‘mid management’ although the company owners are supportive and recognise my work. I have worked extremely hard so far, and have tried to suggest positive changes to my so-called manager.
Everyone is very friendly, but the manager isn’t particularly authoritative, and I get the impression he thinks I’m a ‘know-it-all’. I often have to point out obvious things that they struggle with on a day-to day basis, but feel I can’t speak up in case it is taken as an attack somehow.
The workload in my department is probably 80-20 to me. Sometimes worse. I often work through break times and start early. I take calls during lunch while he is gone. He always takes his breaks to the full.
My colleague does things like ‘hide’ the main phone or keeps it on his person in order to deal with head office enquiries.
He tries to lock me out of our communications software, and takes it on himself to manage email. He tries to ‘hold all the keys’ in order to be supervisory.
He is extremely rude to me, condescending and lazy. He is often very childish, and swears constantly. At times he is randomly crude. I have no doubt now that he also smokes cannabis before work, and sometimes during his lunch break.
Not to be mean, but he isn’t particularly intelligent, and often makes mistakes, which I have to correct. He gets overly stressed by very ‘normal’ situations, and often is extremely angry and has tantrums which can be quite violent- chucking things around, etc. It is generally a really unpleasant environment.
I brought up the bossiness in an indirect way in a meeting we all had with the owners. He seemed annoyed by this as I think he expected them to make him an official manager.
He hasn’t been there very long, and I have dealt with the company from the point of view as a customer for 7-8 years. He has been there for maybe 1 1/2 years.
I find myself getting extremely annoyed. I am trying to live a good life, and living as a Catholic with my husband. I will be doing RCIA this year. I feel peaceful after Mass on Sundays and re-invigorated. But this really gets me down in the week and I just don’t know how to approach it.
He seems accepted in the company, and as I mentioned, where I work is very small with only a few people. There are a couple of people I can talk to, but since he is ‘mothered’ by some of them, and taken in good humour, it is difficult to raise concerns about him. It’s easy for them, as they have very little contact with him, although they often hear him shouting or swearing and speak up.
I want to say something- but the owners don’t seem to want to deal with the issues which I think they know exist- and middle management seems disengaged and as I mentioned, isn’t hands-on in an authority sense. He seems quote friendly with my colleague as they joke about, and I get the impression they talk about me behind my back.
I’m just not sure how to handle this. Maybe someone else has encountered this?
