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SPPN
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Please, what am I suppose to do when i witness favoritism everyday at work? I want everybody to be treated equally, I clearly see the person behavior changing from person to person.
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Buck_Crosswhite
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Prayer will make the difference. Pray for the offender.
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XRU
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Can you explain in a little more detail please?
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SPPN
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I can. I see many signs of favoritism towards certain employees. His voice tone, Hatred, attitude overall is not the same. He’s very polite and calm to his favorites and completely ignorant and mean to the rest. Anger management might also be an issue. But if the favorites do a mistake, its all fine, but if it’s someone else it’s a big deal. I don’t like seeing all this happening in front of my eyes. It hurts me a lot and I feel compassion for others. Insults, blasphemy is usually present before, during or after conversation with the not favorites. Is there anything I can do to established Peace? How should I act?
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R_C
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I hope you forgive me, but I think that although you are right in wanting all to be treated equal, you should not personally be disturbed by the witness of unequal treatment, for this may hint to the sin of invidia, which the Doctor Angelicus St. Thomas Aquinas describes as “sorrow for another’s good”.
If someone benefits from that treatment, why are you feeling bad?
If you suffer from that unfair treatment, then you may humbly mention to your superior how you are being adversely affected by the way he (or someone higher in the hierarchy) is treating you.
But while the “apostolate of laity” (Apostolicam Actuosittem) calls us to work together to renew and constantly perfect the temporal order, we ought to always practice the virtue that St. Ignatius calls “holy indifference”, which is reflected in the Lord’s command that His followers must “abneget semet ipsum”, that is, “deny theirselves”.
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Joe_5859
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I think Buck is right that prayer is obviously the most important thing to do.
I have been fortunate enough not to work is such a place, but I know plenty of people who have had to deal with environments like this. Really, I think the best thing a person can do is just be the better person. Be the model. Treat everyone the way you would like to be treated. Don’t add to the drama. If someone starts talking negatively, deflect the conversation elsewhere.
I have been fortunate enough not to work is such a place, but I know plenty of people who have had to deal with environments like this. Really, I think the best thing a person can do is just be the better person. Be the model. Treat everyone the way you would like to be treated. Don’t add to the drama. If someone starts talking negatively, deflect the conversation elsewhere.
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SPPN
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Agree, it’s very hard mentally to work in such a place. Yes i do my best and I deflect bad conversations, don’t partake into them. Thank you
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TheRealJuliane
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No, there is nothing much you can do, except perhaps report true abuse to the authorities, or at least the next person up in the chain of command (unless he is the owner of the company, even then there may be a Board of Directors you could approach).
The employees are not slaves, so if the treatment is truly horrible, they should quit and find other jobs. It sounds like this person is a terrible supervisor and does abuse his employees, but if no one quits…
It’s as if everyone is saying it’s OK to act that way.
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sedonaman
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I think you have to be a little more clear on this. As a supervisor, I had 13 subordinates, mostly good workers. I also had a few problem employees. Am I supposed to treat the bad employees the same as I treat the good ones?
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Mickey_Finn
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Juliane is right. There is very little, aside from reporting it up the “chain of command”, that you can do.No, there is nothing much you can do, except perhaps report true abuse to the authorities, or at least the next person up in the chain of command (unless he is the owner of the company, even then there may be a Board of Directors you could approach).
The employees are not slaves, so if the treatment is truly horrible, they should quit and find other jobs. It sounds like this person is a terrible supervisor and does abuse his employees, but if no one quits…
Seeking employment elsewhere, might be a choice to consider.
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Mickey_Finn
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Yes, your supposed to treat all of your co-workers equally. If you can’t. Then supervision may not be your calling.
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sedonaman
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It would be uncharitable to tell you what I really think of this idea, but let me just say it is crazy. Where did you get it? Is it written in stone somewhere?
One year, we tried treating all employees equally by giving everyone the exact same cash bonus at annual evaluation time, and guess what happened. Poor performers didn’t get better; good performers got worse. Good performers told me, “Why should I put in an extra effort for nothing, since I will get the same reward in any event?”
“Activity that is rewarded is likely to be repeated. Conversely, activity that is not rewarded is likely to be discontinued.”
I think you should try being a supervisor so you can implement your ideas and learn first hand.
“If incomes are equalized, they will be equalized at a low level.” – Economist Vilfredo Pareto, c. 1925
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1ke
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I think you have misunderstood. I do not believe the other poster was advocating some sort of communist system in which everyone is paid and rewarded exactly the same regardless of performance.It would be uncharitable to tell you what I really think of this idea, but let me just say it is crazy. Where did you get it? Is it written in stone somewhere?
One year, we tried treating all employees equally by giving everyone the exact same cash bonus at annual evaluation time, and guess what happened. Poor performers didn’t get better; good performers got worse. Good performers told me, “Why should I put in an extra effort for nothing, since I will get the same reward in any event?”
“Activity that is rewarded is likely to be repeated. Conversely, activity that is not rewarded is likely to be discontinued.”
I think you should try being a supervisor so you can implement your ideas and learn first hand.
The situation here seems to be public mistreatment of people deemed “not favorites”. The OP mentioned verbal abuse including “blasphemy” (which I take to mean profanity directed at employees). We don’t even know if those singled out for the abuse have actually done anything wrong, other than not be the boss’s buddy.
When an employee has a performance issue, certainly it needs to be addressed. But it needs to be addressed privately AND with respect and caring. Publicly one should not be treating an employee on a discipline plan any differently than any other employee. It isn’t personal. A supervisor who puts an employee in the doghouse publicly is a poor supervisor. The purpose of coaching and performance improvement plans is to improve the employee’s performance to acceptable levels. If you show contempt for them publicly it will embarrass them and demoralize them, not improve them.
Reward and recognition are a separate matter.
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SPPN
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Your bold sentence is very similar to Matthew 20:1-16 with the workers in the vineyard.It would be uncharitable to tell you what I really think of this idea, but let me just say it is crazy. Where did you get it? Is it written in stone somewhere?
One year, we tried treating all employees equally by giving everyone the exact same cash bonus at annual evaluation time, and guess what happened. Poor performers didn’t get better; good performers got worse. Good performers told me, **“Why should I put in an extra effort for nothing, since I will get the same reward in any event?” **
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sedonaman
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His statement was,
Out of which I’m supposed to extrapolate,
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Gimme a break. He made a sweeping statement, and I gave a situation that prove it wrong. If what you say is the case, then I didn’t misunderstand; he misstated what he meant. :sad_yes:
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sedonaman
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Then you are not treating people equally.Correct in private. Praise in public. …
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Mickey_Finn
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How so?
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SamH
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Why would you correct a person that doesn’t need correcting?
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