Yes understand the sacrament stuff where we differ. As far as doing what they did in bible not sure what P’s don’t do as far as governance. I mean they had one council which no one does anymore (where all attend). Not sure I call a pastor leaving because of sin as a split. A split is usually over dogma, doctrine, interpretation. Many churches deal with “sin” in a biblical way. Sorry about your experience. Sounds very strange to me, foreign, the threat of violence, like an inquisition or a mob or Salem. I dare say it was more than SS that lies at the root of such ugliness. Just remember all churches have ugly in their history, those with SS and those without, those with strong central authority and those without. Anyways sorry . The busybody in me wonders what precipitated your events… From our point of view one can certainly be in error in interpreting scripture as well as a church also. An individual can twist , as well as a “church”. In the end, it is divine illumination that is needed to discern, to be placed in the castle, the proper castle. Thanks for your story.
Over the years, I’ve written on CAF what happened at our final Protestant church.
In brief, there were authority issues. The Evangelical Free Church that we attended (for 7 years) had an unclear authority structure, and we were not sure who was actually in charge. So we constantly butted heads in our various ministries, and the church accused us of undermining their authority. WHAT authority!!! If we asked the Senior Pastor, he would say, “Go ask the Music Committee.” If we tracked down the Music Committee and asked, they would say, “Go ask the Treasurer.” And so it went.
BTW, no one ever came to us and said, "Hey, you’ve done something wrong. Instead they waited and brought all the “charges” against us at a “tribunal.” That’s not the Biblical method to deal with problems in the church.
Along with this, a woman pastor in that church (the “children’s pastor”) became extremely jealous of me because of my success with my children’s ministries, especially my children’s choir (it grew from 24 members to over 60 members in two years). She spread very evil rumors about me. Thank God I had used good common sense and always, ALWAYS had other adults in the rooms with me whenever I was involved with the church children. But this woman was the hired “pastor,” and I was just a lay volunteer, so her words carried a lot of weight. Also, the parents were not told what was happening–they were only told that “Cat” decided to leave.
A year after our ousting, I wrote a letter to the parents (following the advice of one of the few Protestant pastors that I still trusted, a man from my childhood church), and many of them wrote me back stating that they were never told, that they had gone to the church to ask, and had been told that I had decided to leave. They were quite upset, because they truly did support me.
Also, within the year after I left, the only parent in that church who kept contact with me informed me that the children’s pastor–yes, that same woman who accused me–had been fired because she had been caught in a lie. Turned out she was a pathological liar.
But no one from the church has ever contacted me and my husband to tell us that they were wrong about us.
The tribunal was terrifying. It consisted of several men who had NEVER MET ME OR MY HUSBAND, along with the children’s pastor and the other pastors in the church. All of them twisted things that we had said or done over the years to prove that we rejected their authority.
E.g., we had gone to the youth pastor and asked if he could ask other teenagers to please reach out to our daughter and be friendly with her. At that time, she was a member of an elite synchronized skating team and was often gone (this is OK in the Protestant churches–there is no obligation to attend church every Sunday). As a result, whenever she did attend the youth group activities, she felt left out and ignored. (She was extremely popular in school and on her skating team and in all the other activities that she participated in–a beauty pageant competitor, so not a misfit in any way, other than the elite skating.)
At the tribunal, the pastor re-told this story and made it appear that we were criticizing him and his ministry and trying to tell him what to do!
The worst accusations came from the children’s pastor, who implied that I was abusing and frightening the children. There were no parents present at the tribunal, but I was able to give the names of parents who had sat in on all my work with the children and could clear my name.
This same children’s pastor had been part of a group that my older daughter had led to the March for Life. She implied that my older daughter was trying to take over the ministry, too–for heaven’s sake, this was her school “senior project!” She chose to take a group of teens and adult chaperones to the March for Life, and did a short film about it–she had the approval of the Senior pastor of the church! How could THAT be a subsersive thing?!! But this children’s pastor was a very very good liar.
Anyway, we were told to leave, and when we got home, our younger daughter, who was 16 at the time, started screaming, “I told you so! From the very beginning, I told you that that church is EVIL. We should have left way back then!”
We suspect that my younger daughter might have suffered some form of sexual abuse or harassment at that church, but have never found out for sure. There were signs that we ignored, because we naively thought that we could trust “Christians.”
At the time everything happened, I wrote it all down in great detail, with dates. It’s about 70 pages long, and it’s pretty disturbing. Perhaps someday it will be published in some form, but I can’t imagine why a publishing house would ever publish it because we couldn’t possibly name names.