Worried about having to pay more on medical expenses for my children

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I do that now. I work three days in a row and get them the next day after my third day of work for three nights and three and half days.

The less that I have them, the more in child support I will have to pay. I also live my kids dearly and want to spend as much time with them as I can as they only see me less than half the week now.

Why in the world would I want to lose the time that I spend with them?

The time that get to spend with them is more valua me then any amount of money I can spend on them.

My mother was a single mom who worked constantly. I didn’t care about what she could by me, it was the time spent with me that I wanted more than anything.
 
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I do that now. I work three days in a row and get them the next day after my third day of work for three nights and three and half days.

The less that I have them, the more in child support I will have to pay. I also live my kids dearly and want to spend as much time with them as I can as they only see me less than half the week now.

Why in the world would I want to lose the time that I spend with them?

The time that get to spend with them is more valua me then any amount of money I can spend on them.

My mother was a single mom who worked constantly. I didn’t care about what she could by me, it was the time spent with me that I wanted more than anything.
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I think that Xantippe the first was referring to the idea that you cannot take them out of school for a day. In most states that’s not going to be legal.
 
Not sure that is what I implied and definitely know that I didn’t mean that. 😊
 
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I think that Xantippe the first was referring to the idea that you cannot take them out of school for a day. In most states that’s not going to be legal.
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I also meant that if the OP can’t cover the children’s medical insurance working his current hours, it’s not even an option for him to be home with them.

You’ve got to do whatever it takes to get your kids medical insurance and appropriate medical care.

And I say that as a former kid whose parents didn’t have medical insurance and skipped a lot of necessary medical and dental care.
 
I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. 😦 I don’t know the system enough to know what is available to you. I will say that my husband is on his own insurance, I’m through the marketplace, and our daughter is on our state’s medicaid program. That was the cheapest option for us. But different states work differently.

I might suggest finding a forum on reddit to see if you can get advice on people more informed on how things work in your state.
 
You are correct, but it should not be at the loss of my time with me kids either

Loss of time with my kids is never an option for me.
 
What I am hearing from you is that I should essentially be a workaholic that doesn’t see his kids.

If I work two more days to afford their insurance that leaves me only two days of time with them because you better believe that my ex-wife won’t allow me to have them if I am working.

So I only get my kids on the weekends? That doesn’t make alot of sense to me!

They currently have health care, but the state deems that I must pay for their premium which I am affording as well as half of their copays which I cannot afford.

My kids should be punished by having my time with them taken away to make sure I can pay for their copays when I am already paying so much for their premiums.

What really doesn’t make sense to me is that you value time with children so little.

Time is the most valuable resource that can be given to a child. I’m sorry that you do not see that.
 
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What I am hearing from you is that I should essentially be a workaholic that doesn’t see his kids.

If I work two more days to afford their insurance that leaves me only two days of time with them because you better believe that my ex-wife won’t allow me to have them if I am working.

So I only get my kids on the weekends? That doesn’t make alot of sense to me!

They currently have health care, but the state deems that I must pay for their premium which I am affording as well as half of their copays which I cannot afford.

My kids should be punished by having my time with them taken away to make sure I can pay for their copays when I am already paying so much for their premiums.

What really doesn’t make sense to me is that you value time with children so little.

Time is the most valuable resource that can be given to a child. I’m sorry that you do not see that.
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No, you need to figure out a way to bridge the gap. It is clear from your background that you feel as if your mother neglected you to earn a living.

When your children are in school and you are off, you can find different things to earn money.

If the state/goverment can’t help you out then you are, indeed, at a cross roads. You can’t deny your child a trip to the doctor because you don’t have the money. That is negligent and could end up with you loosing custody of your children.
 
I’m done here!

I got one or two good answers that seemed to understand.

I will do as instructed and look into a Reddit sub forum and talking with the state and seeing if something can be done there.
 
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What I am hearing from you is that I should essentially be a workaholic that doesn’t see his kids.

If I work two more days to afford their insurance that leaves me only two days of time with them because you better believe that my ex-wife won’t allow me to have them if I am working.

So I only get my kids on the weekends? That doesn’t make alot of sense to me!

They currently have health care, but the state deems that I must pay for their premium which I am affording as well as half of their copays which I cannot afford.

My kids should be punished by having my time with them taken away to make sure I can pay for their copays when I am already paying so much for their premiums.

What really doesn’t make sense to me is that you value time with children so little.

Time is the most valuable resource that can be given to a child. I’m sorry that you do not see that.
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So, what’s your plan?
 
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