Worried about my engaged Brother

[goout]

You say you don’t know if he’s shared the info with her. Consider that maybe he has. Always assume the best of people and situations. Prudently of course.

Here’s the risk: if you interject yourself into this situation and ruin your brother’s life you may cause a lifetime rift in your family.

Be the iron that helps sharpen your brother and do it confidentially, not the tattletale that ruins his life.

(it’s always good to do self examination, and discern whether you might be jealous of your brother’s finding a good woman. Or whether you might be afraid of “losing him” to this woman…just something to consider)

 

[blackforest]

Correct me if I’m wrong, but isn’t this issue routinely addressed in Catholic premarital counseling and the whole marriage discernment process? I heard anecdotally from a priest that porn is one of the most frequent sins mentioned in his confessional, so I’d hope that it would be among the many “red flags” for which couples are screened.

 

[TheDumbFox]

Thanks everyone for the help. I realize that its probably not best if I tell his fiance. I’ll probably talk to him about it when we have our next heart to heart, and at least let him know that it might be something that should be addressed in pre-cana or something. Plus, Honesty is always the best policy.