Worried for friend and her Teaching Career

[SICforlife11]

Hello everyone,

I need some advice. My friend, who is a strong Catholic, recently confessed to me that she’s been living with her fiance at his aunt’s house for the last four months. She assures me that they are not having sex and are living “like brother and sister”. The primary reason she decided to do this was to save money. Besides immediate family and myself, no one else knows.

My friend currently works at a catholic school in a small strongly catholic town. She’s a great teacher and loves her vocation and her students, but has admitted to me that she has been getting more and more stressed out due to the fear that someone will find out and she could lose her job. Once more, the couple is soon to start Pre-Cana at the Parish my friend currently belongs to and is very, very active (fiance was baptized Catholic but didn’t finish…very long and sad history there). She is scared to death that once revealed that she would lose her job, but she’s not in a financial position to find a separate apartment until their June 14, 2014 wedding. She obviously does not wish to lie to the priest but she doesn’t wish to lose her job either.

She’s really stressed out about this and I don’t know what to say to her to ease her besides pray for her.

What can I do? What good Catholic advice can I give her?

 

[Mrs_Sally]

Is the aunt living in the house also? And does your friend have her own room? So can she truthfully say is she renting a room from the aunt?

I assume if she moved 4 months ago that she had to update her address at her workplace, so they already know even if they don’t know that the nephew is also living there.

I recommend she talk to her priest and the principal at the school. Tell them truthfully that she is living with the aunt and that he nephew/fiance is living there also. With the aunt as a chaperone, she may be fine. If she is violating the rules of her workplace (which I doubt), she should ask the principal to help her find another place to live that she can afford.