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mommamia
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My grandma, who is 85 and not in the best of health said something today that has me very worried.
Here’s the situation, I will try to be brief. She has lived with my aunt and uncle for the last 15years or so. Now my aunt and uncle are good people, basically. But my aunt was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s about 8 years ago. Her mind has been getting worse lately. She is actually pretty far gone.
My uncle seems to be in denial. I totally understand why, his life has not turned out how he imagined it I suppose. Their oldest son had a heart condition, and had a massive heart attack, and multiple strokes 17 years ago. He in a mostly vegetative state and lives in a nursing home. Their daughter has been a constant disappointment, she only calls for money, is living with some alcoholic non-working loser, while her husband is in jail for a robbery she helped to plan. Her children steal from them, and have never been in school, nor are they properly homeschooled, she lives one step ahead of children’s service and most of the time we don’t even know where she is.
So uncle works, he cut down to three days a week, but still three days a week grandma is alone with my aunt. Obviously my aunt can not be left alone. She has started acting out in ways that my grandma says she scares her sometimes. Now, we have all suggested to my uncle they get someone to come in while he is at work. They have the insurance to pay for it. But he refuses to see they need help. He will not even so much as read a pamphlet about help for Alzheimer’s patients and families. He refuses to admit that there could be a problem at all.
They have no interest in religion, so trying to get a priest or other clergy to talk to him won’t help. He will not listen to me at all, he won’t listen to anyone. Grandma doesn’t want to upset anyone, so she won’t speak up to him. I have offered many times for her to come live with us, we do have an extra room, but she will not leave my aunt alone, and is afraid she will hurt herself if she isn’t there. I feel my uncle would step up if no one was there to deal with my aunt.
I’m just so worried, grandma says she gets mad and throws things. Yells, screams, hits and will take off on a walk by herself. This worries my grandma, then she ends up walking around the neighborhood looking for her. She can barely walk alone to the bathroom, she is weak and suffers from vertigo that can make her loose her balance.
I don’t know what I can do to make sure grandma is OK. I have to work and can’t be there during the day. I can’t force her to move in with me. I can’t talk to my uncle and make him see reality. Please pray that all will be OK and my aunt won’t end up hurting herself or my grandma one day. And any ideas on anything I can do to help would be great.
Here’s the situation, I will try to be brief. She has lived with my aunt and uncle for the last 15years or so. Now my aunt and uncle are good people, basically. But my aunt was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s about 8 years ago. Her mind has been getting worse lately. She is actually pretty far gone.
My uncle seems to be in denial. I totally understand why, his life has not turned out how he imagined it I suppose. Their oldest son had a heart condition, and had a massive heart attack, and multiple strokes 17 years ago. He in a mostly vegetative state and lives in a nursing home. Their daughter has been a constant disappointment, she only calls for money, is living with some alcoholic non-working loser, while her husband is in jail for a robbery she helped to plan. Her children steal from them, and have never been in school, nor are they properly homeschooled, she lives one step ahead of children’s service and most of the time we don’t even know where she is.
So uncle works, he cut down to three days a week, but still three days a week grandma is alone with my aunt. Obviously my aunt can not be left alone. She has started acting out in ways that my grandma says she scares her sometimes. Now, we have all suggested to my uncle they get someone to come in while he is at work. They have the insurance to pay for it. But he refuses to see they need help. He will not even so much as read a pamphlet about help for Alzheimer’s patients and families. He refuses to admit that there could be a problem at all.
They have no interest in religion, so trying to get a priest or other clergy to talk to him won’t help. He will not listen to me at all, he won’t listen to anyone. Grandma doesn’t want to upset anyone, so she won’t speak up to him. I have offered many times for her to come live with us, we do have an extra room, but she will not leave my aunt alone, and is afraid she will hurt herself if she isn’t there. I feel my uncle would step up if no one was there to deal with my aunt.
I’m just so worried, grandma says she gets mad and throws things. Yells, screams, hits and will take off on a walk by herself. This worries my grandma, then she ends up walking around the neighborhood looking for her. She can barely walk alone to the bathroom, she is weak and suffers from vertigo that can make her loose her balance.
I don’t know what I can do to make sure grandma is OK. I have to work and can’t be there during the day. I can’t force her to move in with me. I can’t talk to my uncle and make him see reality. Please pray that all will be OK and my aunt won’t end up hurting herself or my grandma one day. And any ideas on anything I can do to help would be great.
