Would I Be Able To Remove Myself As A Childs Sponsor

[padrepio2008]

I know that this is a very difficult question to ask. I confirmed a bright young girl in April and since that point, her mother has done everything in her power to interfere with our relationship.

She has been lying to her child, keeping her child away from me, not welcoming me into her home, causing problems where none lay by making up tall tales.

I do not want to come between a mother and a child and the strain is starting to effect me.

I took the responsibilty to become this childs godmother because she does not have alot of family in this country, she attempted to commit suicide a year before confirmation and did not turn to her mother (single mother, now married) when this occured and it was me who she turned to during that hard time. This is when I decided to make sure that I would be a part of her life and try to guide her in any way that I can.

I feel embarassed to ask this question, because I love my “Sponsored Child” and I care about her well being, but I have come to a point where her mother is playing too many childish games and it’s seriously making me regret the process.

My relationship should be with the child, not with her mother.



I currently found out from a close friend that her mom also said that she felt “Jipped” because she wanted to choose her greek orthodox friend as her childs sponsor. Again, this is very childish and not what the Sacrament stands for. I’m not the most Catholic person around, but I do take Confirmation seriously and my faith.

I feel used and I feel like I was chosen for the material gifts that I could give her child. I know this now…

I am going to speak to my priest about this issue, but I am just curious, is there a way to remove yourself from being someone’s Confirmation sponsor after taking the sacrament with the child?

 

[Annie_B]

I know that this is a very difficult question to ask. I confirmed a bright young girl in April and since that point, her mother has done everything in her power to interfere with our relationship.

She has been lying to her child, keeping her child away from me, not welcoming me into her home, causing problems where none lay by making up tall tales.

I do not want to come between a mother and a child and the strain is starting to effect me.

I took the responsibilty to become this childs godmother because she does not have alot of family in this country, she attempted to commit suicide a year before confirmation and did not turn to her mother (single mother, now married) when this occured and it was me who she turned to during that hard time. This is when I decided to make sure that I would be a part of her life and try to guide her in any way that I can.

I feel embarassed to ask this question, because I love my “Sponsored Child” and I care about her well being, but I have come to a point where her mother is playing too many childish games and it’s seriously making me regret the process.

My relationship should be with the child, not with her mother.



I currently found out from a close friend that her mom also said that she felt “Jipped” because she wanted to choose her greek orthodox friend as her childs sponsor. Again, this is very childish and not what the Sacrament stands for. I’m not the most Catholic person around, but I do take Confirmation seriously and my faith.

I feel used and I feel like I was chosen for the material gifts that I could give her child. I know this now…

I am going to speak to my priest about this issue, but I am just curious, is there a way to remove yourself from being someone’s Confirmation sponsor after taking the sacrament with the child?

Hi - I am so sory for the grief you and the young girl are going through. Knowing that this is NOT the child’s fault and that she needs support even though you cannot give it to her now, why would you want to be removed as her sponsor? You do not need to be giving her gifts etc. unless you choose to. As far as what is happening, it is not the girl’s fault! There may come a day when she is able to communicate with you. What would you say to her? If she attempted suicide already, the last thing she needs is another adult giving up on her. Just love her and pray for her. If you are not able to do anything beyond that, then it is enough.

Annie

 

[quiet52]

You are permanently this girl’s sponsor of record. I hope you’ll remain so in practice.

By the way, you didn’t confirm the girl.

Allow yourself to be used – by God – as an instrument of love for this girl. Continue being her guide. What you agreed to do is to be her co-pilgrim on her journey of faith, not just during her preparation for the sacrament, but forever. First of all, pray for her constantly, forever. Try to be a model. Don’t react inappropriately when the mother angers you. Be Christian.

And sponsors must be practicing Catholics – the mother’s Greek Orthodox friend would not qualify to be a sponsor. Pray for the mother too!

Perhaps your role as sponsor is a gift God’s given you – an opportunity for you to develop stamina as a Christian, despite persecution (in this case, disrespect from the girl’s mother).

 

[padrepio2008]

You are permanently this girl’s sponsor of record. I hope you’ll remain so in practice.

By the way, you didn’t confirm the girl.

Allow yourself to be used – by God – as an instrument of love for this girl. Continue being her guide. What you agreed to do is to be her co-pilgrim on her journey of faith, not just during her preparation for the sacrament, but forever. First of all, pray for her constantly, forever. Try to be a model. Don’t react inappropriately when the mother angers you. Be Christian.

And sponsors must be practicing Catholics – the mother’s Greek Orthodox friend would not qualify to be a sponsor. Pray for the mother too!

Perhaps your role as sponsor is a gift God’s given you – an opportunity for you to develop stamina as a Christian, despite persecution (in this case, disrespect from the girl’s mother).

 

[kage_ar]

Sounds like this family needs your prayers.

 

[padrepio2008]

You are permanently this girl’s sponsor of record. I hope you’ll remain so in practice.

By the way, you didn’t confirm the girl.

Allow yourself to be used – by God – as an instrument of love for this girl. Continue being her guide. What you agreed to do is to be her co-pilgrim on her journey of faith, not just during her preparation for the sacrament, but forever. First of all, pray for her constantly, forever. Try to be a model. Don’t react inappropriately when the mother angers you. Be Christian.

And sponsors must be practicing Catholics – the mother’s Greek Orthodox friend would not qualify to be a sponsor. Pray for the mother too!

Perhaps your role as sponsor is a gift God’s given you – an opportunity for you to develop stamina as a Christian, despite persecution (in this case, disrespect from the girl’s mother).

Thank you for taking the time out to reply.

I fully understand that I promised to be here for the child. This is why I am fustrated. I will have no choice but to remove myself from this situation at this point and try my best to show her that I am here for her no matter what, without my road blocks.

Thank you again everyone!

 

[SanFrancesco09]

Padre Pio,

I agree with you…just try your best to be there for her despite what her mother may be saying. At this point I believe you need to look past the mother’s out look and look deep into your heart and soul to just focus on the child.

 

[Br.Rich_SFO]

I know that this is a very difficult question to ask. I confirmed a bright young girl in April and since that point, her mother has done everything in her power to interfere with our relationship.

She has been lying to her child, keeping her child away from me, not welcoming me into her home, causing problems where none lay by making up tall tales.

I do not want to come between a mother and a child and the strain is starting to effect me.

I took the responsibilty to become this childs godmother because she does not have alot of family in this country, she attempted to commit suicide a year before confirmation and did not turn to her mother (single mother, now married) when this occured and it was me who she turned to during that hard time. This is when I decided to make sure that I would be a part of her life and try to guide her in any way that I can.

I feel embarassed to ask this question, because I love my “Sponsored Child” and I care about her well being, but I have come to a point where her mother is playing too many childish games and it’s seriously making me regret the process.

My relationship should be with the child, not with her mother.



I currently found out from a close friend that her mom also said that she felt “Jipped” because she wanted to choose her greek orthodox friend as her childs sponsor. Again, this is very childish and not what the Sacrament stands for. I’m not the most Catholic person around, but I do take Confirmation seriously and my faith.

I feel used and I feel like I was chosen for the material gifts that I could give her child. I know this now…

I am going to speak to my priest about this issue, but I am just curious, is there a way to remove yourself from being someone’s Confirmation sponsor after taking the sacrament with the child?

You can tell the child that until she can decide for herself (when she is able to travel to see you on her own or when she is 18 and on her own) you can pick up the relationship again.

 

[SanFrancesco09]

or that…

Remember what Jesus always told us Padre Pio…I am The way The truth And The Light…I strongly believe that you can show this child of God The way The TRUTH and The LIGHT!! Maybe not today…but maybe tomorrow!..