Would this Confession be valid? (Urgent)

[PMV]

Consider my mother does not allow me to have more hair (when it makes my head much more even and puts me in an emotional stable state) and does not allow me to shave. If I made my hair look as if I got it cut, then when I was away from her put it back to normal, and if I shaved behind my mother’s back, and I claim that I got my haircut and does not let her know I shaved, would this lieing be sinful? It may not sound like much I have to put up with but to me it’s emotional abuse because my mother is depriving me of cleansiness and is not concerned about my dignity.

Is it a sin for me to say a little fib to my (what I believe to be) mentally disturbed mother about doing something minor to keep my dignity?

If I went to Confession with the intention of later saying these slight fibs to my (what I believe to be) mentally disturbed mother, would my Confession be valid? I’ve never gotten a solid answer about this.

 

[Fr.Vincent_Serpa]

Dear PMV,

The matter of such actions is not considered seriously sinful. You are not obliged to confess imperfections or venial sins. The Confession would be valid. I doubt that your mother’s concern for the hairs on the top and front of your head are so strong that any deviation on your part should warrent eternal torment in hell.

Fr. Vincent Serpa, O.P.