Would this upset you?

[mommybug47]

I pray that you are using this “honey moon” phase as a calm time to quietly make all of the arrangements neccesary to remove both of you from this situation. It is too easy to be complacent when it is calm and easy and baby is happy. To protect baby, this is the safest time to escape. Be on guard. Always. You both deserve the right to be safe, our prayers for safety and strength are only as good as your commitment to go where you are led. God can and will lead you out of this.
Many prayers for the peace that surpasses all understanding.

 

[GerlyOne]

**Hi,

I would first like to say to you, God bless you and help you through this difficult time in your marriage. It does sound like the best thing for you to do is to leave, the sooner the better. I assure you that things will never get better if you hang in there with a shred of hope that he may change and turn things around…things will actually only get worse. The longer you wait, the harder it will get to leave. You need to think of your baby and of yourself, you need to leave and find your own happiness and fulfillment. Once you are away from your husband, you will begin to breathe again. Right now, you’re unsure of what to do, it is a lot like holding your breathe…just turn it over to God and he will pull you through.

If your husband is to have contact with the baby, make sure your attorney orders a psychological evaluation to make sure he is fit to take proper care of him.

Take care and God bless.**

 

[4EverHis]

I’m so sorry :hug1: I’m sure I would be really upset by this as well. I will pray for you and your son… God bless you.

 

[4EverHis]

Oki I just read over this thread… I agree with everyone else, you don’t deserve to be treated this way, and your husband’s behavior is completely unnacceptable! it is not your fault AT ALL, and you deserve much better, and your child deserves better. Don’t let him push you around like this any more… You are in my prayers. :hug1:

 

[survive]

Praying for your escape to a safe, wholesome home with your child.:grouphug:

 

[nahbios]

LIA, it made me happy to read about your son! Again, I will pray for you and your family. God bless! :hug1:

 

[nahbios]

LIA: I was just looking through my thread subscriptions and I came onto this thread again. I hope everything is going well for you and your son. God bless! :hug1:

 

[bmaj]

Wow, I have heard so many personal stories that cover a whole range of abuse.

Just wanted to update and thank those that are including me and my beautiful little son in your prayers.

Things are calm- as I told another friend on here, I chalk it up to him sensing I am completely fed up. I simply am beyond buying into any of it. I am rebuilding my strength and having some very realistic views of what I am living in. I can now see this is just the “honeymoon” phase as described in the cycle of abuse. Accept, I am not on the honeymoon this time.

I am focusing on myself and my son and looking towards a better planned future. Thank you a million times for your prayers.

I was playing in the back yard yesterday with my nearly 2 year old as he splashed in his kiddie pool. He ran past me with a little watering can to water my flowers, and stopped mid sprint and smiled at me and said, “Momma, I am so happy” and then took off again. I protect that- my endurance is endless as a mother. I am learning that I have to care for myself with the same tenacity if I am to make sure my baby gets a chance to keep that carefree happiness in those simple moments.

Lifeisamazing,
I just read your thread and am glad to see the latest update above. I also agree with the others wholeheartedly, though, that you are not at fault in any of this and both you and your son deserve to be completely safe from any kind of abuse from your husband - verbal or otherwise. Please don’t let him con you into believing all is fine now. Do everything you can to get support through a priest and domestic violence organizations in your area and be ready and able to leave when you want to or need to. Your safety and that of your son is a top priority.

In addition, please note that there is a support group here at CAF for women who are hurt and upset because their husbands (or boyfriends for that matter) view pornography. This appears to be only a part of your husband’s many problems, but please feel free to join that group also for support. It’s called “Women Suffering Because of Unchastity” and can be found at the top CAF toolbar under “Groups” or by clicking on my name and viewing the groups that I belong to.

My prayers are with you and your son. Our Lord is also with you always and wants you to be safe, so please continue to pray and do all you can to protect yourself.

 

[iamrefreshed]

I confronted him and he says, “I am tired of your sh–” and started swearing and throwing things.

When this happens you should call the police and tell them you are afraid for your safety.

Then HE will be forced to leave the home.

You should seek out a restraining order.