How sad. No one, and I mean no one, is too good to get HPV, Hep B, or HIV.
The first time that AIDS became “real” for me was when I was 12 years old at church camp. On the last night, one of the counselors told us that she had a story that she wanted to share-but that it was graphic and emotional, so if we wanted to we could go back to our cabins. I chose to stay and listen.
This woman worked with deaf kids who were in the foster care system. She signed for them in court, with**** police officers, etc. One night as she was leaving work she was approached by a man in the parking lot. Initially, he seemed very confused, so she tried to help him. He raped her. This was a very devout, married Christian woman. She was in her 40’s, and not dressed in a way that was “asking for it”. He was apprehended, charged, and convicted. Sometime during the court proceedings, it came out that he was HIV positive. She didn’t think that she was at any risk, but she chose to get tested. It turns out, she did have HIV-and she had already put her husband at serious risk too.
She actually met with her rapist in prison, and eventually forgave him. She went on to work with deaf rape and assault victims. When I met her in the 90’s, she had to take handfulls of pills every day. I have no idea if she is still alive, but I hope she is.
Other ways that your kids could contract AIDS without having sex, although sex is a good way, include: an unfaithful spouse, receiving medical care in a less developed country (you never know where life will take your children), rape, making a stupid decision to let someone at a party give them a tattoo or piercing (even just ears), or working in a medical environment and being too lax about universal precautions. Your children could be perfect angels and still end up saddled with a terrible, painful, and ultimately lethal disease. You would deny them protection against it just to make a point about premarital sex?
I have said this before and I will say it again:
If your children believe that your steps to protect them from bad choices (or bad luck) equal a blank check to do whatever they want sexually, then you have failed as a parent. You haven’t failed because they went against your values, you failed because they clearly had no idea what your values are.
And for the record, HPV can be spread orally too, and that doesn’t just mean kissing. Sharing drinks and lipgloss can spread HPV, and two decades later that HPV can be spread to the spouse on the wedding night.