Would you marry someone who uses foul language?

[Nepenthe]

Don’t know if it helps, but when Mirdath and I met, I swore like a longshoreman (though I did make an effort to use it effectively, not just as ‘filler’ ) and Mirdath had about the cleanest mouth I have ever seen.

Now that we’ve been married a while, eh, it’s kinda balanced out. I swear rather less, and Mirdath rather more than we used to. Both of us DO regard them as perfectly appropriate in some situations - really, there are times nothing else truly expresses one’s sentiments as well and succinctly. Like say, when one makes a nasty mistake with fire, knives, or electricity, though the cursing is usually immediately preceded by variants on “AUGH!” “EEEEEE” or “AGLBLAG” respectively.

 

[Bataar]

Other than taking the Lord’s name in vain, I have no problem with swearing in general. In some situations, it may be socially inappropriate, but that’s about it.

 

[hasikelee]

What do you mean by foul language?

That’s pretty vague…does she direct the language at you? Does she fight “dirty”?

Does she take God’s name in vain? Curse inappropriately (aka start shouting curses in front of a nun or at a special social event)?

 

[mini_me640]

As a previous poster said, other than taking the Lord’s name in vain, in my opinion the lines of what constitutes a curse word are basically arbitrary. Who made up the rules? Who decided that the word “poop” is okay, but to say S### is a moral offense? I agree that there are times that certain words aren’t socially appropriate, but on a moral level, if two words mean the same thing, why is one word okay and the other is wrong? Totally arbitrary. If you aren’t being hateful, hurtful, or taking the Lord’s name in vain, I really don’t see how using one word over another that means the exact same thing is sinful.

 

[His_Ruby]

I agree with what a lot of other posters said about her willingness to swear less around you if it truly does offend you. That’s the key, I think.

Personally, my DH swears quite a lot at certain times (watching sports on TV, namely … or when driving in bad traffic and there is some nutty driver, etc.) and it doesn’t bother me. BUT sometimes he gets out of hand with it in situations and I do ask him to stop just because he starts to sound very crude and it doesn’t help him cool down - and he respects that request. I am also known to let a few slip if I injure myself and whatnot.

I think it’s okay in balance and if it’s not taking the Lord’s name in vain, but if your lady is using it constantly, very casually, habitually, or just always talking “nasty,” I can understand how you might want to talk to her about toning it down.