Would you refuse to be a child's godparent?

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You are amazing grandparents! Thank you for loving your grandchild so much.
 
I think you have to trust him. It sounds to me like he is saying he can’t be that for the child. Have you asked him if he will still be in the child’s life in any way? I can only say don’t judge his decision. I know you are hurt by it, but try to accept what he can give, ie maybe just being an uncle. You never know what people are going through so try give him the benefit of the doubt, sometimes the beginning of a vocation is a great challenge, spiritually and physically (often one does not want to share this), try be sensitive to this and love him anyway even if his decision is painful for you. I doubt he is trying to hurt you or this child. I am sure he can ‘hand down the faith’ in other ways when he is able. Being a godparent is not the only way to be a good Catholic family or to interact with the child in a spiritual way. God bless you all
 
Thank you. We are doing our best. He needs all the help he can get with what he’s had to endure with his parents. We only hope we can lead him in the right direction and teach him that even though his parents aren’t reliable God is. With so many people leaving the faith I think it’s up to us to do everything we can to carry it on.
 
Excellent!

People forget that the role of the God-parents is to assist the child’s parents in instructing the child in the Faith; at times, when the parent/s are not involved, the God-parents must take a greater and more active role in this. The important thing is to support the child’s development in both the secular and spiritual theaters (arenas).

My prayers are with you.

Maran atha!

Angel
 
I’d look elsewhere for a qualified godparent ASAP so there is no more delay in getting the child Baptized. You’re in an ideal position for getting this done. But that window could close if more time is lost due to more family drama.
 
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Fortunately we have found someone else, but the delay has caused us to have to wait until July now. We are thankful God sent us someone else.
 
I was made godparent to my brother’s child, a boy. He was a gorgeous child. Unfortunately he’s turned out to be somewhat of an over-educated, pompous prig in his adult life. Can I cancel my godparentship?
 
  1. I can’t get past the fact that there is a great-grandmother young/energetic enough to help raise a 5 year old! God Bless her
  2. I would not refuse because I would feel that my presence / influence would be helpful. I would not allow bad parenting prevent me from trying to help the kid.
  3. however, if I thought I would be a bad choice because of the parents and that several others might do a better job, then I might decline.
Remember, the child only needs one Godparent. Did you already have a Godmother picked out?
 
goodcatholic said:
I was made godparent to my brother’s child, a boy. He was a gorgeous child. Unfortunately he’s turned out to be somewhat of an over-educated, pompous prig in his adult life. Can I cancel my godparentship?
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Sounds like you failed! 😉

Just kidding
 
I didn’t know you only had to have one godparent. Actually I am the godmother! The great grandmother is 80. She’s a spry little thing!
 
That’s wonderful news. Many Blessings as you prepare for the celebration!
 
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