My husband and I talk about everything so if one of us misses communion without an already known reason (had to step out with a baby for example), we would be asking the other if things are going alright and if there was something we could help each other with. It’s been that way since we were dating. The priest that married us told us that we were each other’s cross to bear and our main job was to help each other obtain salvation. We took that to heart. So we discuss our sins and struggles because it helps us know what the other needs. Thankfully we have only once in over 25 years both struggled st the same time. Usually when my faith is weak, he holds me up, and when his is weak, I hold him up. It works very well for us.
In your situation, especially since you are new to the faith, it may be best for you to, in a non confrontational way, let your wife know that you are there if she wants to talk about her struggles. Pray to the Holy Spirit to give you the words she needs to hear and ask her Guardian Angel to open her heart. And then step back. Put it out of your mind. Keep praying for her and be an example of joy and virtue. Show her unconditional love, and respect her wishes of not asking her about communion. Ask her about struggles instead. That way the door is opened if she chooses.
