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TigerKitty
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So this is a VERY brief synopsis:
My sister has been historically emotionally and physically abusive to me…one time kicking me so hard she broke my leg. My extended family is pretty much oblivious to this since my father always said not to say anything to anyone. My mom died when I was 8 so there’s really not been anyone advocating for me.
My sister married a protestant man who vehemently and vocally hates the Catholic church and pretty much all religion. Although they were married in the Church (sacrament but not in the mass), he forbids raising their kids Catholic (or anything, really). Luckily I met someone (a Catholic man my own age) and we are now marred 10years…despite a rockystart. We attend mass every Sunday and he is a Knight of Columbus.
My father once admonished me for taking a college course on Protestantism, telling me I was Catholic and don’t go getting any ideas. I was engaged to a nondenominational Christian of strong faith who went through RCIA and still attends mass. Sister forced my father to force me to break off engagement because she thought my fiancee was a backward hick. (She married someone from the same high school as my fiancee.)
Anyway…stopped talking to her to protect my daughter from the emotional manipulation and unhealth. My father hates her husband and does all he can to put himself between her husband and their kids…including illicitly baptizing the kids without permission of the parents and building a HUGE playhouse (like all on his own…from design to construction…it cost thousands of dollars and the local permit officer shut him down…it was that big a project…of course he did not pull necessary permits) for her kids in their back yard ( while my daughter is lucky to get an hour of my father’s time every four months.
For 2Christmases in a row, my sister gave NOTHING to my daughter, and she cried for the entire 2hour car ride back home.
Last straw was my sister had a birthday party for my dad and didn’t invite me, and posted pictures all over Facebook of my dad andher kids positively gushing that he was the best grandpa in the whole world…and of course my daughter saw the pictures and knew she was excluded (again).
Fast forward 2years and my daughter received first communion. My father came for the mass and seemed quite proud that he didn’t receive during mass. I think he doesn’t go to church anymore because my sister and her kids don’t go. It’s so messed up. I cannot believe he would give up church just so my sister’s kids wouldn’t feel bad. And during dinner when I was not at the table, he was bragging to my in laws about the stupid clubhouse he made for my sister’s kids and how awesomeit is and how smart my sister’s kids are…and my daughter sat there at the table next to him on her special day , and I don’t know how she didn’t burst into tears.
I’m seriously considering limiting interactions with my father at this point.
I’m interested to hear people’s thoughts on this matter.
My sister has been historically emotionally and physically abusive to me…one time kicking me so hard she broke my leg. My extended family is pretty much oblivious to this since my father always said not to say anything to anyone. My mom died when I was 8 so there’s really not been anyone advocating for me.
My sister married a protestant man who vehemently and vocally hates the Catholic church and pretty much all religion. Although they were married in the Church (sacrament but not in the mass), he forbids raising their kids Catholic (or anything, really). Luckily I met someone (a Catholic man my own age) and we are now marred 10years…despite a rockystart. We attend mass every Sunday and he is a Knight of Columbus.
My father once admonished me for taking a college course on Protestantism, telling me I was Catholic and don’t go getting any ideas. I was engaged to a nondenominational Christian of strong faith who went through RCIA and still attends mass. Sister forced my father to force me to break off engagement because she thought my fiancee was a backward hick. (She married someone from the same high school as my fiancee.)
Anyway…stopped talking to her to protect my daughter from the emotional manipulation and unhealth. My father hates her husband and does all he can to put himself between her husband and their kids…including illicitly baptizing the kids without permission of the parents and building a HUGE playhouse (like all on his own…from design to construction…it cost thousands of dollars and the local permit officer shut him down…it was that big a project…of course he did not pull necessary permits) for her kids in their back yard ( while my daughter is lucky to get an hour of my father’s time every four months.
For 2Christmases in a row, my sister gave NOTHING to my daughter, and she cried for the entire 2hour car ride back home.
Last straw was my sister had a birthday party for my dad and didn’t invite me, and posted pictures all over Facebook of my dad andher kids positively gushing that he was the best grandpa in the whole world…and of course my daughter saw the pictures and knew she was excluded (again).
Fast forward 2years and my daughter received first communion. My father came for the mass and seemed quite proud that he didn’t receive during mass. I think he doesn’t go to church anymore because my sister and her kids don’t go. It’s so messed up. I cannot believe he would give up church just so my sister’s kids wouldn’t feel bad. And during dinner when I was not at the table, he was bragging to my in laws about the stupid clubhouse he made for my sister’s kids and how awesomeit is and how smart my sister’s kids are…and my daughter sat there at the table next to him on her special day , and I don’t know how she didn’t burst into tears.
I’m seriously considering limiting interactions with my father at this point.
I’m interested to hear people’s thoughts on this matter.