Yikes! What's with all the sex talk and off color jokes at Mom's outing?

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Giannawannabe:
Am I just being a prude?? Help!!
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Giannawannabe: You’re being a prude…may the Christ, through the intercession of the Most Immaculate Heart of His Blessed Mother, uphold you in that state.

I think you should get a freakin’ T-shirt made that says “100% Catholic Prude!”
 
I know most of the people who posted in this thread are females but I want to add my 2 cents as a male. I work in a very busy marketing environment where it is dominated by females. Some of the things they say make me blush and I have been in some pretty raunchy talking locker rooms over the years with hockey and soccer. The men in my company especially the managers are very tame even with the “after 5:00” talk. The same go with my clients. It is almost sad but when it comes to sex talk and off colour jokes, women have pretty well surpassed men - at least in my business circle.
 
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Giannawannabe:
I definitely understand WHY that woman was trying to “fit in”–at least that is how it appeared to me. I guess I am lucky that I’ve always been more of an independent thinker type, and have never needed to “fit in” by pretending I’m someone I’m not. I actually felt sorry for her.
I think it’s very different talking to a friend about sex on a one to one basis. I’ve done that myself—no EXPLICIT details about my husband’s genitals, but just to find out if I’m “normal”. It has been with a very, very close friend when it was just the 2 of us. In this situation, the women were talking about their husband’s genitals, his performance, making fun of husbands, and generally being very nosy about how often everyone else “did it”. They were loud, drunk, obnoxious, and crude. I wish I could be more detailed, so you could understand how offensive they were, but I think that would be inappropriate. Suffice to say, I’m not judging these people. I’m simply shocked and horrified that these are the moms of my little Kindergartener’s friends. Their values on sex and raising kids is vastly different than my own. I am now feeling uncomfortable with my daughter going over to their homes—especially if a sleepover were to be suggested. Also, they have all asked when my older daughter is going to babysit:eek: Now, that I know they stay out all hours and get drunk, and that their language becomes disgusting when they’re drunk, I just don’t think I can have my daughter babysitting their kids. sigh
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Now I understand your horror. Your description above of the goings-on at that party are appalling. Nope, hanging out with those folks is definitely not a good idea. Makes that party I went to seem positively tame. I cannot imagine talking about my spouse’s genitals in that kind of situation. I’m sorry I misunderstood in the beginning. I’m offically an old timer now, can’t relate to the modern world for nothin’. Back in the old days… :o
 
I dont’ mind discussing sex with friends as long as it is in the context of our marriages, not bragging or with any other motives.

I always encourage my married friends who say they are very inactive to have more sex with their husbands. Ten times per year is an awful #. I can have a fireworks sex life with my husband but we keep it between us, the whole world doesn’t need to know. He also thinks lingerie is a total waste. I think that couples who are very healthy in the sex department, simply feel no need to brag or look elsewhere for stimulation or gratification. It is one of the best things about marriage, I am perfectly confident and dont’ need a stupid lingerie party to bring out the inner me, that’s for my DH only!!!😉 He is the only one who needs to know I’m not a prude!

I usually think that ppl who talk about sex too much are secretly uncomfortable with it, or have issues so need to prove to themselves and the whole world that they’ve got it goin’ on. I can joke around with friends, but am not impressed with over the top talk and displays of sexuality. I also don’t understand the fun of women going to male strip clubs, GROSE!!! My DH is the only man I ever want or need to see neked. :bigyikes:

Most of the time women who act like that are just trying to get attention and I find it annoying so usually ignore it if there is a woman in the group acting like that.
 
BTW, the thing I detest the most is when women like this in this situation start saying rude and demeaning things about their husbands or start putting them down or telling about things that would embarass them… or worse start talking about affairs. I don’t to hear that stuff.
 
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Peace-bwu:
BTW, the thing I detest the most is when women like this in this situation start saying rude and demeaning things about their husbands or start putting them down or telling about things that would embarass them… or worse start talking about affairs. I don’t to hear that stuff.
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Yes, me too. It makes me uncomfortable because I don’t want to join in the husband bashing … I adore my hubby … and I don’t want to sit there and praise him, because it seems I am “rubbing it in” or something. So, I just look up and wish I were somewhere else.:o
 
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JKirkLVNV:
Giannawannabe: You’re being a prude…may the Christ, through the intercession of the Most Immaculate Heart of His Blessed Mother, uphold you in that state.

I think you should get a freakin’ T-shirt made that says “100% Catholic Prude!”
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😃 Maybe I’ll make one for myself, then wear a crucifix and a couple of scapulars for the next “ladies” night!
 
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mastda:
I know most of the people who posted in this thread are females but I want to add my 2 cents as a male. I work in a very busy marketing environment where it is dominated by females. Some of the things they say make me blush and I have been in some pretty raunchy talking locker rooms over the years with hockey and soccer. The men in my company especially the managers are very tame even with the “after 5:00” talk. The same go with my clients. It is almost sad but when it comes to sex talk and off colour jokes, women have pretty well surpassed men - at least in my business circle.
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In college I worked at a company where I was the only woman. Many of the guys worked in the warehouse or were truck drivers. NEVER did I hear anything as vulgar as I heard the night I went out with the moms.
 
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Peace-bwu:
BTW, the thing I detest the most is when women like this in this situation start saying rude and demeaning things about their husbands or start putting them down or telling about things that would embarass them… or worse start talking about affairs. I don’t to hear that stuff.
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Same here. I think we all get irritated with our hubbies, but I don’t share that with the world for crying out loud!! I would absolutely die of embarrassment if I knew he was sharing mean things about me with his friends or co-workers.
 
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Princess_Abby:
I’m only saying this to point out that so many of these women who group together and pretend they’re so entranced with their supposedly insatiable libido are basically all talk. Sure, maybe a few of them have pretty active and maybe slightly kinky sex lives but I just don’t believe that every kindergartner’s mother is being authentic with their graphic descriptions of sexual ecstacy… What they don’t realize is perhaps how insecure it makes them look in the first place–women who are satisfied don’t have to announce it because they aren’t concerned about what others might be thinking. They’re happy, they know it, and they have enough self-respect to keep it to themselves.

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This is what I was thinking too. If I ever go out again with this type of crowd again, I might just start sadly shaking my head when this type of talk comes up, then say “I feel so bad for you ladies. To need “toys” to satisfy yourselves. Such a shame”—then just sit there with a secret little smile on my face;) .
 
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