"You Poor Thing"

[Karin]

And waht’s also frustrating is dealing with my mom. She tends to think of it as “trivial” …I get into arguments with her all the time about how upset I get about no ramps, elevators, etc. In fact when someone parked in the “middle area” of 2 handicap parking spots, mom said they must be in a hurry.

hmm…sounds like your mom is a bit to easy going.
As to no ramps or elevators etc. dont most if not all public places have to be handicap accesible now a-days?

 

[KittyKat]

aurora I would be likely to ask where he buys clothes. In our family we are always looking for places to buy long pants. Especially for skinny guys. People think you are nuts when you go in and ask if they have a 33 36. Or a 34 36 (my mom found dad a pair of 38s 20 some years ago) All the local tall places carry Big and Tall, and you can be big and short but not skinny and tall.

 

[Karin]

aurora I would be likely to ask where he buys clothes. In our family we are always looking for places to buy long pants. Especially for skinny guys. People think you are nuts when you go in and ask if they have a 33 36. Or a 34 36 (my mom found dad a pair of 38s 20 some years ago) All the local tall places carry Big and Tall, and you can be big and short but not skinny and tall.

we have this issue every time we have to get pants for my eldest son

 

[aurora77]

And waht’s also frustrating is dealing with my mom. She tends to think of it as “trivial” …I get into arguments with her all the time about how upset I get about no ramps, elevators, etc. In fact when someone parked in the “middle area” of 2 handicap parking spots, mom said they must be in a hurry.

Your mom does sound laid back about this, but then, she’s used to your wheelchair; it’s just a part of you. I’m surprised that there is still trouble with making places wheelchair accessible.

aurora I would be likely to ask where he buys clothes. In our family we are always looking for places to buy long pants. Especially for skinny guys. People think you are nuts when you go in and ask if they have a 33 36. Or a 34 36 (my mom found dad a pair of 38s 20 some years ago) All the local tall places carry Big and Tall, and you can be big and short but not skinny and tall.

This is so true! DH can’t go to big and tall stores because he isn’t both! He’s 6’9" and about 200 lbs, so he’s pretty thin. T shirts and shorts we don’t have much problem with–extra large shirts work fine. Long sleeved shirts we have to get either extra or 2X tall. He wears them tucked in so that you can’t see the extra width. He’s in a blue collar job, so he doesn’t have much in the way of dress clothes. He’s got a couple of pairs of Dockers that are the right length. His jeans are all Wranglers–they make a 34/44 that we get. A 44 inch inseam is a little too long, but apparently he’s found that they don’t make a 40 or 42. But, we haven’t bought new jeans in a couple of years, so that may have changed.

 

[siamesecat]

I am only 5 feet tall, and I get a lot of comments too, lol. People think I haven’t noticed that I’m short or that I look really young? I don’t let it bother me but I still don’t understand why people constantly need to tell me “I don’t look old enough to work” at my part time supermarket job lol.

 

[tnbella7]

I’m curious (and trying to figure out a way to tactfully ask this) - my four year old is just old enough now to mention in the presence of a little person (or someone in a wheelchair, or just someone different in some way) that they are different. In the past, I have told her a number of things such as “God made them special that way”, “I don’t know” and “I don’t think his legs work so he has a really cool wheelchair”. I never feel like these are great answers. Does anyone have any suggestions on what to tell a four year old? Maybe something you have overheard. I would appreciate any suggestions.

Pax

 

[jmcrae]

A friend of mine who had post-polio syndrome used to explain to children that she used the oxygen tank because her lungs didn’t work right, and the wheel chair because her legs didn’t work right, because of the damage caused by the disease.

That seems simple enough, to me.

 

[Sandi]

Boy, do I wish someone would “pity” me!

I’ve been using a cane for 6 months (hip problems; long-term but temporary). I am sometimes shocked over how insensitive people can be–I had a woman in the supermarket get snippy with me because I was moving slowly. Geeze–she could see I had a cane! What did she expect me to do–run a marathon? It was all I could do NOT to smack her with it.

 

[Eliza10]

And what’s also frustrating is dealing with my mom. She tends to think of it as “trivial” …I get into arguments with her all the time about how upset I get about no ramps, elevators, etc. In fact when someone parked in the “middle area” of 2 handicap parking spots, mom said they must be in a hurry.

Your Mom could be more “virtuous” than you as far as tolerance and generosity, or, it could just be her personality! Some people naturally have shallow, weak reactions to things; others naturally have strong and deep or lasting reactions.

This link explains how the four temperments react differently. It helps you understand the different people in your life, and be more tolerant of the strange way they respond to things. It helps you understand your own reactions to things too!

angelicum.net/html/four_temperaments.html

 

[SueKrum]

Boy, do I wish someone would “pity” me!

I’ve been using a cane for 6 months (hip problems; long-term but temporary). I am sometimes shocked over how insensitive people can be–I had a woman in the supermarket get snippy with me because I was moving slowly. Geeze–she could see I had a cane! What did she expect me to do–run a marathon? It was all I could do NOT to smack her with it.

this reminds me of something someone put in a thread I started about drivers not being courtious to pedestrians. hope it give you a good laugh

youtube.com/watch?v=zsaawz5dBqc