Young adult children not dating

[Marysann]

I am the mother of three young adult sons. Our youngest son married a good Catholic girl, his high school sweetheart, when they were both twenty-one. She left him while he was deployed to the Middle East. Son number two has been very active in political affairs since he finished his masters degree. He never dated because he said that he just never met anyone to date. Well, last summer he met a wonderful girl, and they are now discussing marriage. If this goes through, he will be 29 or 30 when he gets married. Son number one is 32, and has had his heart broken a couple of times. He appears to be laying off the dating scene for a while. He is a great guy, has a good job, and lots of friends, and is a high school sport coach. His time will come. It is a jungle out there in the dating world today. Of course I pray for my sons that they will find good partners, but I don’t spend too much time worrying about it.

 

[CountrySinger]

You could always do what one of my friends parents did and set her up. She ended up marrying the guy, and they are happy. If my mom was alive, I would so ask her to do that. Most men are pigs (even the Catholic ones), and to have someone filter out the losers would be good idea.

 

[CountrySinger]

1658 We must also remember the great number of single persons who, because of the particular circumstances in which they have to live - often not of their choosing - are especially close to Jesus’ heart and therefore deserve the special affection and active solicitude of the Church, especially of pastors.

HA HA HA HA HA. Thanks for the good laugh! I needed that today. Like single people are EVER treated as equals! We are only valued when we either join a religious order or have a ring on our finger.

 

[Norseman82]

HA HA HA HA HA. Thanks for the good laugh! I needed that today. Like single people are EVER treated as equals! We are only valued when we either join a religious order or have a ring on our finger.

Plus, the word “special” makes me think of “special education”.

 

[CountrySinger]

Plus, the word “special” makes me think of “special education”.

Hee hee. I’m getting my master’s in special education. So I always take the term “special” as an insult, since special education isn’t for the people are normal or above average, it’s for the students that are slow or have behavior issues.

 

[Norseman82]

Hee hee. I’m getting my master’s in special education. So I always take the term “special” as an insult, since special education isn’t for the people are normal or above average, it’s for the students that are slow or have behavior issues.

Another thought: how many of the kids in special education would rather be “normal” than “special”?

 

[CountrySinger]

Another thought: how many of the kids in special education would rather be “normal” than “special”?

All the kids I met want to be “normal”. When they are in “special” ed, they get made fun of, and they are taken out of the classroom and put in a room with other “special” ed kids. I’ve seen kids beat up because they are in Special Ed. It breaks my heart. One of the kids says God doesn’t exist because if God exists, he wouldn’t be this way.

 

[m_crane]

It has been very enlightening to have you all share your personal experiences both from the point of view of the young adults and their moms. ** VonDerTann **, I particularly would like to thank you for the insightful response. I hope to have my son read your post, should I have the opportunity.
Some of you expressed concern about the testosterone laden political rallies. The rallies concern me as well because I see a lack of balance in engaging in male-only activities. I would like to nudge (just a little) an perhaps encourage him to get involved in something where I know females are also involved. Any suggestions? The activities have to appeal to his intellectual sensibilities. He’s so serious these days.

 

[purplesunshine]

It has been very enlightening to have you all share your personal experiences both from the point of view of the young adults and their moms. ** VonDerTann **, I particularly would like to thank you for the insightful response. I hope to have my son read your post, should I have the opportunity.
Some of you expressed concern about the testosterone laden political rallies. The rallies concern me as well because I see a lack of balance in engaging in male-only activities. I would like to nudge (just a little) an perhaps encourage him to get involved in something where I know females are also involved. Any suggestions? The activities have to appeal to his intellectual sensibilities. He’s so serious these days.

Like I noted above, teaching CCD classes is a great place to start. Being a “Big Brother” to a little girl weihter through the big brothers program or not. Actually, things that will help bring him out of his shell.

 

[m_crane]

HA HA HA HA HA. Thanks for the good laugh! I needed that today. Like single people are EVER treated as equals! We are only valued when we either join a religious order or have a ring on our finger.

I value my son married on single. Even more important I think he values himself.

I don’t know why people feel free to ask a single person rude questions about their dating status, as if this is not a deeply personal question. When people ask me questions my son’s dating status, I find it very rude.